Difficulty getting pregnant....
Discussion
Sucky.
Blood tests back and hormone level was at 22, not 30 where it should be. This means that the wife is not ovulating
So, to the next battle.
Trying to look at it as a marathon not a sprint, but it is a blow.
Get my test in October, then a course of Clomid I would imagine.
Hard thing is not knowing a reason for it. No PCOS detected. Doc just said "well some people just don't ovulate". Great.
L83
Blood tests back and hormone level was at 22, not 30 where it should be. This means that the wife is not ovulating
So, to the next battle.
Trying to look at it as a marathon not a sprint, but it is a blow.
Get my test in October, then a course of Clomid I would imagine.
Hard thing is not knowing a reason for it. No PCOS detected. Doc just said "well some people just don't ovulate". Great.
L83
Thanks everyone.
We have decided that we need something to aim for and rather than wait on the NHS, we are organising a private consultation with a recommended fertility specialist.
Hopefully, a bit of extra cost will speed the process of getting H on the clomid.
Still waiting to have my test though - cutbacks mean I have to book an appointment now rather than just drop off a sample.
I am upbeat about this plan, but H is still finding the revelations hard to swallow - I guess it's not so hard for me as it's not my body.
I need to get her in a positive frame of mind, but she has been fighting things all her life and she just looks tired of it all.
We have decided that we need something to aim for and rather than wait on the NHS, we are organising a private consultation with a recommended fertility specialist.
Hopefully, a bit of extra cost will speed the process of getting H on the clomid.
Still waiting to have my test though - cutbacks mean I have to book an appointment now rather than just drop off a sample.
I am upbeat about this plan, but H is still finding the revelations hard to swallow - I guess it's not so hard for me as it's not my body.
I need to get her in a positive frame of mind, but she has been fighting things all her life and she just looks tired of it all.
Had our private consultation yesterday.
Doctor was a star - put us at instant ease, talked us through a plan of action and scanned my wife there and then.
Looks like she might have one Multi-cystic ovary and one Poly-cystic ovary. Not sure what this means quite yet, but the consultant told us he was not worried and we should look upon the appointment with relief not anxiety.
So, still not really got any answers but a welcome psychological boost knowing we are in the most skilled hands.
I had never attended a private consulation before - if I could afford it, it's where I would go every time! Fantastic service.
Doctor was a star - put us at instant ease, talked us through a plan of action and scanned my wife there and then.
Looks like she might have one Multi-cystic ovary and one Poly-cystic ovary. Not sure what this means quite yet, but the consultant told us he was not worried and we should look upon the appointment with relief not anxiety.
So, still not really got any answers but a welcome psychological boost knowing we are in the most skilled hands.
I had never attended a private consulation before - if I could afford it, it's where I would go every time! Fantastic service.
andyroo said:
Why is it (and this is a serious observation) that hard working people often struggle to get pregnant, yet stay-at-home council types seem to get knocked up every other day? Stress perhaps?
Exactly what my missus says every day. I have to keep reminding her that, quite frankly, life does not care about fairness. We are all a bunch of chemicals which sometimes do not function properly.Went for our second consultation last night and our doctor prescribed Clomid. He is fantastic and always positive, while being realistic.
We may have paid for it, but in two weeks we are further than we probably would have been in six months on the NHS.
Continued worry is a lack of diagnosis, so more tests required. Distinguishing between Poly and Multi cystic ovaries is proving tricky so hormone levels need to be checked.
Low GI diet prescribed much to my wife's dismay!
Engineer1 said:
Saw the Doctor on Friday who says he can't see any obvious reason from the results so far. So now it is the wait till late December an appointment at the gynaecology/fertility unit at the hospital. How much does a private consultation cost and any recommendations who to go to round Birmingham?
Can't recommend anyone in Birmingham, but so far we have paid £450 for two consulations (including two internal scans at each appointment).Needless to say, there will come a point where we might have to revert back to the NHS if the waiting list is not too long!
TpdNotts said:
Haven't read all the posts but have found some of the comments interesting. We can't get pregnant cos my husband has very low sperm count. No idea why it's got to that as we have a 12 year old who was extremely easily conceived! Could have treatment for it but would have to pay. So just use no protection, pray and wonder if I'll ever 'catch'! There's a very very low chance. Any suggestions gratefully received!
Does your husband smoke or drink heavily? Does he wear uber-tight underwear? Does he eat unhealthily? Drink a lot of caffeine filled products?Ignoring the attempt to sell you pills, have a look at this webpage (and just google "male fertility issues" for a wealth of information):
http://www.increasemalefertility.net/
Tony 1234 said:
Best of luck OP
Thanks Tony! Can't thank everyone enough for the support and frank advice.Got scan number three tomorrow to check what impact the Clomid is having. Missus is worried that it will be too strong and risk multiple pregnancy.
Frankly, I am terrified that nothing will have changed.
ETA - does cutting caffeine to keep myself in check mean less cups of tea? Not sure I can manage that!
Just a quick update.
We had some promising news at the last scan, which showed my missus did ovulate.
Funny how that coincided with the one month we forgot all about it and relaxed because we thought nothing could happen until she started the clomid!
The only downside being we did not try very much.
Month one proper of clomid coming up and I get my results soon. Fingers crossed, all being well this could be the first month where it is actually possible to get pregnant.....
We had some promising news at the last scan, which showed my missus did ovulate.
Funny how that coincided with the one month we forgot all about it and relaxed because we thought nothing could happen until she started the clomid!
The only downside being we did not try very much.
Month one proper of clomid coming up and I get my results soon. Fingers crossed, all being well this could be the first month where it is actually possible to get pregnant.....
Question - should my wife be being monitored closely by our consultant while on Clomid?
A touch of paranoia setting in.
She has had consistent stomach pains throughout this month, feeling sick a lot, sensitive upstairs bits.
Note, she is only on half the normal dosage.
It felt a bit like we were told to go away, take the tablets and see what happens.
Yours, slightly worried, L83.
A touch of paranoia setting in.
She has had consistent stomach pains throughout this month, feeling sick a lot, sensitive upstairs bits.
Note, she is only on half the normal dosage.
It felt a bit like we were told to go away, take the tablets and see what happens.
Yours, slightly worried, L83.
A quick update on us - nothing to write home about!
God I wish we had the funs to stay private.
We had our NHS transition meeting the other day with the fertility nurse. She was very nice, BUT she was running very late and was flustered. She came into the waiting room and asked us to come round and sit in a waiting room nearer her office so she did not have to walk the extra 10 seconds. The waiting room she escorted us to was the Ante-Natal waiting room.
Then she had to go through our histories again, even though our consultant has it all on file! What a waste of time.
She then tells my wife she needs to go for a HSG test and gives us a load of papers including a prescription for anti-biotics. She tells us to wait until next month.
I do a bit of investigative work and discover that we could just squeeze my wife in this month, so push and push and get her an appointment!
So all I need to do is get the prescription from Boots, right?
WRONG! She failed to tell us we could only dispense it from the hospital pharmacy....
Needless to say, with everything else that is going on, my wife was near breakdown!
She now been on Clomid for two months and only has her first scan next week.
I just pray that this month we hit it and she does not have to go through any of this anymore.
God I wish we had the funs to stay private.
We had our NHS transition meeting the other day with the fertility nurse. She was very nice, BUT she was running very late and was flustered. She came into the waiting room and asked us to come round and sit in a waiting room nearer her office so she did not have to walk the extra 10 seconds. The waiting room she escorted us to was the Ante-Natal waiting room.
Then she had to go through our histories again, even though our consultant has it all on file! What a waste of time.
She then tells my wife she needs to go for a HSG test and gives us a load of papers including a prescription for anti-biotics. She tells us to wait until next month
.I do a bit of investigative work and discover that we could just squeeze my wife in this month, so push and push and get her an appointment!
So all I need to do is get the prescription from Boots, right?
WRONG! She failed to tell us we could only dispense it from the hospital pharmacy....
Needless to say, with everything else that is going on, my wife was near breakdown!
She now been on Clomid for two months and only has her first scan next week.
I just pray that this month we hit it and she does not have to go through any of this anymore.
Tony, I think the hardest thing for me is that I can't take any of the pain, the treatments, or the emotions on behalf of my wife.
My results were fine, which is great, but makes me feel a bit guilty. I should not feel like that but when she has to have so many horrible tests it makes me feel a bit worthless.
I am also finding it very hard to be as upset, frustrated or fixated on this as my wife. Understandably, it is all she thinks about, all she wants to talk about. It has become the focus of our lives.
But I get grumpy at times, I don't want to talk about it, I want to try and get on with our lives, do other stuff etc.
I make it look like I don't care, when I really do. It is just different when it is not your body.
I love my wife more than anything in the world and desperately want this to happen for us. It is just hard because it is not the obsession for me that it has become for her.
My results were fine, which is great, but makes me feel a bit guilty. I should not feel like that but when she has to have so many horrible tests it makes me feel a bit worthless.
I am also finding it very hard to be as upset, frustrated or fixated on this as my wife. Understandably, it is all she thinks about, all she wants to talk about. It has become the focus of our lives.
But I get grumpy at times, I don't want to talk about it, I want to try and get on with our lives, do other stuff etc.
I make it look like I don't care, when I really do. It is just different when it is not your body.
I love my wife more than anything in the world and desperately want this to happen for us. It is just hard because it is not the obsession for me that it has become for her.
dave_s13 said:
Legend83 said:
Tony, I think the hardest thing for me is that I can't take any of the pain, the treatments, or the emotions on behalf of my wife.
My results were fine, which is great, but makes me feel a bit guilty. I should not feel like that but when she has to have so many horrible tests it makes me feel a bit worthless.
I am also finding it very hard to be as upset, frustrated or fixated on this as my wife. Understandably, it is all she thinks about, all she wants to talk about. It has become the focus of our lives.
But I get grumpy at times, I don't want to talk about it, I want to try and get on with our lives, do other stuff etc.
I make it look like I don't care, when I really do. It is just different when it is not your body.
I love my wife more than anything in the world and desperately want this to happen for us. It is just hard because it is not the obsession for me that it has become for her.
And people who tell you it will all work out the end are nob heads (well meaning ones like). It might not.My results were fine, which is great, but makes me feel a bit guilty. I should not feel like that but when she has to have so many horrible tests it makes me feel a bit worthless.
I am also finding it very hard to be as upset, frustrated or fixated on this as my wife. Understandably, it is all she thinks about, all she wants to talk about. It has become the focus of our lives.
But I get grumpy at times, I don't want to talk about it, I want to try and get on with our lives, do other stuff etc.
I make it look like I don't care, when I really do. It is just different when it is not your body.
I love my wife more than anything in the world and desperately want this to happen for us. It is just hard because it is not the obsession for me that it has become for her.
Friends / family who think you want to hear "it will be fine / you have to keep thinking positive / it will happen for you / lots of people go through it and are successful."
They are well-meaning but sometimes we want someone just to agree with us that IT IS s
t!Also worried that people will lose patience with out tales of woe.
Gassing Station | Health Matters | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff