Difficulty getting pregnant....
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Our little one is 15 months old and great fun, we in the last week moved her from a cot to a bed and she has already figured out how to get out, which is amusing at 7.30 pm but a hell of a lot less so a 4am when she is sat behind her bedroom door crying, if it carrys on teh cot sides are going back on.
Hello. Thought I would update this.
After the OHSS episode in October we had a break from treatment, happy to say we are implanting in a couple of weeks. Mixed emotions as between our OHSS issue two good friends have both got pregnant, miscarried and got pregnant again. It is terrible but I find it hard to be happy for them. I know I should be positive but after all these years and not even a sniff of being pregnant it is really getting to me, I keep thinking about the low chances of a positive result rather than success.
Do your other halves find it hard spending time with friends who are pregnant/have young children? My Mrs is really struggling with this and at times it is making us a bit isolated because everyone around us either has children or is pregnant.
Keep the collective PH fingers crossed please.
After the OHSS episode in October we had a break from treatment, happy to say we are implanting in a couple of weeks. Mixed emotions as between our OHSS issue two good friends have both got pregnant, miscarried and got pregnant again. It is terrible but I find it hard to be happy for them. I know I should be positive but after all these years and not even a sniff of being pregnant it is really getting to me, I keep thinking about the low chances of a positive result rather than success.
Do your other halves find it hard spending time with friends who are pregnant/have young children? My Mrs is really struggling with this and at times it is making us a bit isolated because everyone around us either has children or is pregnant.
Keep the collective PH fingers crossed please.
Lotus82 said:
Hello. Thought I would update this.
After the OHSS episode in October we had a break from treatment, happy to say we are implanting in a couple of weeks. Mixed emotions as between our OHSS issue two good friends have both got pregnant, miscarried and got pregnant again. It is terrible but I find it hard to be happy for them. I know I should be positive but after all these years and not even a sniff of being pregnant it is really getting to me, I keep thinking about the low chances of a positive result rather than success.
Do your other halves find it hard spending time with friends who are pregnant/have young children? My Mrs is really struggling with this and at times it is making us a bit isolated because everyone around us either has children or is pregnant.
Keep the collective PH fingers crossed please.
We had a couple of MC's a few years ago, without realising it took a long while to move on, when a good friend had a second child, I found it quite difficult seeing the baby. It felt really odd and numb . Hope the treatment goes OK, must be stressfulAfter the OHSS episode in October we had a break from treatment, happy to say we are implanting in a couple of weeks. Mixed emotions as between our OHSS issue two good friends have both got pregnant, miscarried and got pregnant again. It is terrible but I find it hard to be happy for them. I know I should be positive but after all these years and not even a sniff of being pregnant it is really getting to me, I keep thinking about the low chances of a positive result rather than success.
Do your other halves find it hard spending time with friends who are pregnant/have young children? My Mrs is really struggling with this and at times it is making us a bit isolated because everyone around us either has children or is pregnant.
Keep the collective PH fingers crossed please.
Definitely. I found it really hard dealing with pregnancy announcements and just didn't want to know. Luckily there was no one majorly close to me.
Even now I've had a baby, I still get jealous of people who announce their pregnancy a nice neat 12 weeks after their wedding!
My husband has just started talking about baby number 2. Even though it wouldn't be for at least another year, I'm still not sure if I can go through it all again.
Even now I've had a baby, I still get jealous of people who announce their pregnancy a nice neat 12 weeks after their wedding!
My husband has just started talking about baby number 2. Even though it wouldn't be for at least another year, I'm still not sure if I can go through it all again.
My OH would like another baby and keeps dropping the hints, but at 42 this year I really don't feel I can go through it all again. Yes, maybe we may get pregnant really quickly, but then it could take another 18 odd months like last time and then I'd feel guilty if I didn't get pregnant after trying.
I childmind, and have a 4 month old with me twice a week for full days and whilst he is lovely, it is nice to be able to hand him back. It's so easy to forget just how demanding they can be at that age and it's not somewhere I'd like to be again.
I feel like I'm being a real cow for depriving OH another baby and Noah a brother or sister, especially as he is fantastic with the little one that come for childminding.
I childmind, and have a 4 month old with me twice a week for full days and whilst he is lovely, it is nice to be able to hand him back. It's so easy to forget just how demanding they can be at that age and it's not somewhere I'd like to be again.
I feel like I'm being a real cow for depriving OH another baby and Noah a brother or sister, especially as he is fantastic with the little one that come for childminding.
TwistingMyMelon said:
Lotus82 said:
Hello. Thought I would update this.
After the OHSS episode in October we had a break from treatment, happy to say we are implanting in a couple of weeks. Mixed emotions as between our OHSS issue two good friends have both got pregnant, miscarried and got pregnant again. It is terrible but I find it hard to be happy for them. I know I should be positive but after all these years and not even a sniff of being pregnant it is really getting to me, I keep thinking about the low chances of a positive result rather than success.
Do your other halves find it hard spending time with friends who are pregnant/have young children? My Mrs is really struggling with this and at times it is making us a bit isolated because everyone around us either has children or is pregnant.
Keep the collective PH fingers crossed please.
We had a couple of MC's a few years ago, without realising it took a long while to move on, when a good friend had a second child, I found it quite difficult seeing the baby. It felt really odd and numb . Hope the treatment goes OK, must be stressfulAfter the OHSS episode in October we had a break from treatment, happy to say we are implanting in a couple of weeks. Mixed emotions as between our OHSS issue two good friends have both got pregnant, miscarried and got pregnant again. It is terrible but I find it hard to be happy for them. I know I should be positive but after all these years and not even a sniff of being pregnant it is really getting to me, I keep thinking about the low chances of a positive result rather than success.
Do your other halves find it hard spending time with friends who are pregnant/have young children? My Mrs is really struggling with this and at times it is making us a bit isolated because everyone around us either has children or is pregnant.
Keep the collective PH fingers crossed please.
Spent this weekend with a few friends, one of whom is expecting (13 weeks) and she took great pleasure in announcing when she was off to be sick or how she couldn't drink booze. She knows what we're going through but persisted with her announcements. I know it was not aimed at us, she's happy and excited to be pregnant, but my god it was tough. A little bit of self imposed isolation is on the cards as we get through the next month.
Appreciate your kind words.
I would echo what lois said. In all my sucessful pregnancies I had a lot of bleeding early on and all was well.
On the having more children front, having had to go through a lot for number one, two and three were very easy and not "tried for". I really think you don't know until you're there.
For somewhat different reasons I don't think I could face another go, even though we'd love another. I've had two go wrong in a row and I am most definately not fertile either.
On the having more children front, having had to go through a lot for number one, two and three were very easy and not "tried for". I really think you don't know until you're there.
For somewhat different reasons I don't think I could face another go, even though we'd love another. I've had two go wrong in a row and I am most definately not fertile either.
kapiteinlangzaam said:
Well, we just had a very positive appointment with the 'echo lady' - cant think of the english word 
10mm @ 7 weeks, so the perfect size. Very strong heartbeat, correct sized sac etc, good position in the womb, nice long cervix.
We have the first big appointment with the consultant tomorrow to decide on the treatment plan and test regime.
Phew, another week ticked off the list. Only 33 to go
Fingers crossed. Sounds like great news. Good luck. 10mm @ 7 weeks, so the perfect size. Very strong heartbeat, correct sized sac etc, good position in the womb, nice long cervix.
We have the first big appointment with the consultant tomorrow to decide on the treatment plan and test regime.
Phew, another week ticked off the list. Only 33 to go
Hey guys, have my poor wife feeling sorry for herself at my side, this is the 4th IVF try and she already can feel it was not a success.
Only the first one where she had to go through the injections was a partial success. The embryo did not grew unfortunately.
Of course I am giving her all the support that I can, just looking for people experiences and recommendations. She thinks something might be wrong.
We will try to use NHS next time around.
Only the first one where she had to go through the injections was a partial success. The embryo did not grew unfortunately.
Of course I am giving her all the support that I can, just looking for people experiences and recommendations. She thinks something might be wrong.
We will try to use NHS next time around.
Sorry, she thinks that there might a genetic issue of some kind that is causing the insemination to fail.
Lots of things go through her mind. It's difficult to comprehend, if supposedly everything is all right with the embryo transfer, that after 4 tries we have yet to have a successful pregnancy when the possibility is around 50% if the fertility unit is to be believed.
Lots of things go through her mind. It's difficult to comprehend, if supposedly everything is all right with the embryo transfer, that after 4 tries we have yet to have a successful pregnancy when the possibility is around 50% if the fertility unit is to be believed.
MrGRT said:
Sorry, she thinks that there might a genetic issue of some kind that is causing the insemination to fail.
Lots of things go through her mind. It's difficult to comprehend, if supposedly everything is all right with the embryo transfer, that after 4 tries we have yet to have a successful pregnancy when the possibility is around 50% if the fertility unit is to be believed.
Hay MrGRT. When you say she 'thinks' there may be a genetic issue, have you explored this in detail? Could it be worth asking the fertility clinic next time you visit? An acquaintance of mine had 5 attempts at IVF and only on the 5th did the hospital diagnose a thin wall of the womb, this was not allowing the embryo to attached sufficiently, needless to say this story had a positive conclusion on the 7th attempt. Sadly persistence in this matter gets harder and harder but keep at it. Lots of things go through her mind. It's difficult to comprehend, if supposedly everything is all right with the embryo transfer, that after 4 tries we have yet to have a successful pregnancy when the possibility is around 50% if the fertility unit is to be believed.
I'm afraid I have to echo what Lois said, success rates do vary from hospital to hospital but 25%-30% is more likely.
Keep on trucking and stay positive.
Giving this thread a bit of a bump as we've also joined the ranks of people struggling with conception.
Unfortunately, as the wife is 35, she's too old for any NHS funding apparently, much to the surprise of the private clinic we went to yesterday.
She's putting a brave face on it, but is unhappy, yesterday's initial scan didn't elicit a 'positive' response from the person carrying it out (although they haven't said why yet), and now she's worrying.
I've tried to stop her googling all the possible complications as she's getting worked up.
Telling her that nothing will change, worse case is that we carry on as we are, isn't exactly helping either, although it's the truth. Suggestions of a puppy, kitten or motorbike aren't cheering her up as much as they normally would either
Unfortunately, as the wife is 35, she's too old for any NHS funding apparently, much to the surprise of the private clinic we went to yesterday.
She's putting a brave face on it, but is unhappy, yesterday's initial scan didn't elicit a 'positive' response from the person carrying it out (although they haven't said why yet), and now she's worrying.
I've tried to stop her googling all the possible complications as she's getting worked up.
Telling her that nothing will change, worse case is that we carry on as we are, isn't exactly helping either, although it's the truth. Suggestions of a puppy, kitten or motorbike aren't cheering her up as much as they normally would either
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