Difficulty getting pregnant....
Discussion
F i F said:
Do you still get charged for the adoption assessment process?
First I've heard of it, we certainly didn't and adoption saves local authorities hundreds of thousands of pounds, so I would doubt any charges would apply - the charges are probably regarding agencies working on adopting children from abroad. Anecdotally (people I know who have went through the process) local authority assessment and adoption can be quite stressful with the demands for the perfect weight,attitude/home and delays, but in my experience and talking to people who have went through the process with "Action for Children", the very demanding assessments seem to be a bit smoother, slightly less stressful and there is more of an ongoing support network (love our post christmas party with a chance to catch-up with new families we have got to know on the various training courses) of people who have been in the same boat.
dave_s13 said:
Leeb said:
......We are about to go through our 4th cycle of IVF......
We only have one more try on the Funded NHS.........
Jesus!....you only get 1 funded crack at it in Leeds.We only have one more try on the Funded NHS.........
We had to pay for the 2nd....worked thank god. For reference, including all the drugs it's about 4.5k a go.
Just in the process of having popsicles put back in (£1500). Mrs has just started the drugs.
Expensive business this, hence why I bought myself a motorbike last week while we still actually have some money in the bank
We always said we would give it 3 tries then adopt. I can see how people end up getting divorced/go bankrupt going through this nonsense. We know a couple that have spent circa 20k to date and still no baby...gutted.
Edited by dave_s13 on Thursday 19th August 10:14
We have been quoted approximate £5.5k including icsi and freezing, IF it gets that far.
Fingers crossed for this one to be honest, oct 7th is when it starts again. Bring on the cozy room with candles!!! That was weird.
anonymous said:
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Tonker, stop behaving like a lawyer. If they want to bring up children together, then it doesn't actually matter where the root of the problem is, except for throwing resources at it to find a solution. If they need to approach the problem, or the potential solution, they need to do it together, not as two separate people, each going 'phew' when they establish the problem doesn't belong to them. If even a part of you thinks like that, you shouldn't be having a child together; they are inevitably little s
ts and even worse teenagers.For context, Mr and Mrs Rude know without any doubt that they will never need a stair gate...
h0b0 said:
h0b0 said:
we tried for 8 months and had no luck. We had a schedule of doctors and hospital visits all arranged to carry out the tests including a dye test for her. Then the period was missed and she was pregnant. I don't know if it is coincidence but it was the first month of trying that I hadn't smoked.
Last week we were told that she had a blighted ovum and would more than likely miscarry or have it aborted. Yesterday we found out that our fetus/embryo/blob is bloody good at hiding and I heard the heart beat for the first time!!!!!
So, don't give up no matter what is thrown at you.
Damn it....Last week we were told that she had a blighted ovum and would more than likely miscarry or have it aborted. Yesterday we found out that our fetus/embryo/blob is bloody good at hiding and I heard the heart beat for the first time!!!!!
So, don't give up no matter what is thrown at you.
Friday the 13th was not a good day in the h0b0 house hold. Went for a routine scan and the sack had not grown as it should. Going to have it removed next week. Feels like we have lost it twice now and this time I heard the heart beat so it really does feel like I have lost a child.
Mourn its loss and be there for your partner.
our baby ended this way four years ago.
i have children from a previous marriage but that doesnt heal the pain from losing the child i would have had with my soulmate Julian.
It is very hard. keep at it and never give up. A baby is a baby however far it gets.
remember you angel as i do ours... and I bless you both and hope that you have another soon
xxxxx
Oh, what a nightmare. I just don't know what to think.
The missus is about 4-5 days late now, feeling sick in the day, sore bits up top....BUT also cramps which would suggest just normal onset of period.
I am trying to put the sicky feeling down to lack of sleep, but I can't help but have this nagging optimism in my head - it is boiling over!
She also had cramps about a week after the ovulation period...don't know if that is a sign of anything but it has happened in previous months when we had no result.
Of course, this could all be settled by a quick pregnancy test but the missus has developed an irrational fear of using them....
I know others are going through much worse in their life, but this is fast becoming one of the more difficult periods of mine / ours.
The missus is about 4-5 days late now, feeling sick in the day, sore bits up top....BUT also cramps which would suggest just normal onset of period.
I am trying to put the sicky feeling down to lack of sleep, but I can't help but have this nagging optimism in my head - it is boiling over!
She also had cramps about a week after the ovulation period...don't know if that is a sign of anything but it has happened in previous months when we had no result.
Of course, this could all be settled by a quick pregnancy test but the missus has developed an irrational fear of using them....
I know others are going through much worse in their life, but this is fast becoming one of the more difficult periods of mine / ours.
Legend83 said:
Oh, what a nightmare. I just don't know what to think.
The missus is about 4-5 days late now, feeling sick in the day, sore bits up top....BUT also cramps which would suggest just normal onset of period.
I am trying to put the sicky feeling down to lack of sleep, but I can't help but have this nagging optimism in my head - it is boiling over!
She also had cramps about a week after the ovulation period...don't know if that is a sign of anything but it has happened in previous months when we had no result.
Of course, this could all be settled by a quick pregnancy test but the missus has developed an irrational fear of using them....
I know others are going through much worse in their life, but this is fast becoming one of the more difficult periods of mine / ours.
Cramps are prefectly normal in early pregnancy - loads of women have them. If she is that late I would said there is a high chance of you having suceeded.The missus is about 4-5 days late now, feeling sick in the day, sore bits up top....BUT also cramps which would suggest just normal onset of period.
I am trying to put the sicky feeling down to lack of sleep, but I can't help but have this nagging optimism in my head - it is boiling over!
She also had cramps about a week after the ovulation period...don't know if that is a sign of anything but it has happened in previous months when we had no result.
Of course, this could all be settled by a quick pregnancy test but the missus has developed an irrational fear of using them....
I know others are going through much worse in their life, but this is fast becoming one of the more difficult periods of mine / ours.
Legend83 said:
Oh, what a nightmare. I just don't know what to think.
The missus is about 4-5 days late now, feeling sick in the day, sore bits up top....BUT also cramps which would suggest just normal onset of period.
I am trying to put the sicky feeling down to lack of sleep, but I can't help but have this nagging optimism in my head - it is boiling over!
She also had cramps about a week after the ovulation period...don't know if that is a sign of anything but it has happened in previous months when we had no result.
Of course, this could all be settled by a quick pregnancy test but the missus has developed an irrational fear of using them....
I know others are going through much worse in their life, but this is fast becoming one of the more difficult periods of mine / ours.
Don't over think it. People try and find things to be worried about and this is of no use to you. How consistent have her periods been in the past? If she is normally consistent and this is outside of the norm then I think it is time to piss on a stick.The missus is about 4-5 days late now, feeling sick in the day, sore bits up top....BUT also cramps which would suggest just normal onset of period.
I am trying to put the sicky feeling down to lack of sleep, but I can't help but have this nagging optimism in my head - it is boiling over!
She also had cramps about a week after the ovulation period...don't know if that is a sign of anything but it has happened in previous months when we had no result.
Of course, this could all be settled by a quick pregnancy test but the missus has developed an irrational fear of using them....
I know others are going through much worse in their life, but this is fast becoming one of the more difficult periods of mine / ours.
If you are having issues, as we were, then we found it useful to come out of each month having learned something. They say that it takes on average 6 months to get pregnant and i think this is down to technique. for example, if we hadn't started using ovulation tests then we would not have got pregnant in the first place. However, everything on the internet and from what our doctor said implied my wife was not ovulating. For 3 months she panicked then we decided to test much further into the month and discovered that she always ovulates late. We spoke to the doctor and now he said that was fine!
Also, some tests came up negative and others came up positive. The next day both would be positive. So, we use both.
Improving each month is what kept our sanity. Knowing that we are better now at this than a year ago keeps our hopes up for our next try.
Well, her last few periods have been a couple of days late but this is the first time she has had any nausea. Again, this could be caused by anything I guess.
We started using ovulation sticks this month but I think we used them too late BUT might have timed it when we would expected her to ovulate.
Keeping fingers crossed that I don't get the usual text message of 'No baby this month'....
I think if there is no movement by Sunday I will get her to take a test.
We started using ovulation sticks this month but I think we used them too late BUT might have timed it when we would expected her to ovulate.
Keeping fingers crossed that I don't get the usual text message of 'No baby this month'....
I think if there is no movement by Sunday I will get her to take a test.
Legend83 said:
Oh, what a nightmare. I just don't know what to think.
The missus is about 4-5 days late now, feeling sick in the day, sore bits up top....BUT also cramps which would suggest just normal onset of period.
I am trying to put the sicky feeling down to lack of sleep, but I can't help but have this nagging optimism in my head - it is boiling over!
She also had cramps about a week after the ovulation period...don't know if that is a sign of anything but it has happened in previous months when we had no result.
Of course, this could all be settled by a quick pregnancy test but the missus has developed an irrational fear of using them....
I know others are going through much worse in their life, but this is fast becoming one of the more difficult periods of mine / ours.
Legend83, Firstly good luck!!!!!The missus is about 4-5 days late now, feeling sick in the day, sore bits up top....BUT also cramps which would suggest just normal onset of period.
I am trying to put the sicky feeling down to lack of sleep, but I can't help but have this nagging optimism in my head - it is boiling over!
She also had cramps about a week after the ovulation period...don't know if that is a sign of anything but it has happened in previous months when we had no result.
Of course, this could all be settled by a quick pregnancy test but the missus has developed an irrational fear of using them....
I know others are going through much worse in their life, but this is fast becoming one of the more difficult periods of mine / ours.
We have two kids. Each time extremly difficult to conceive. Had to use Clomid on both, and on the second Clomid and Metformin, we lost one in-between was Trisomy 21 so we ended.
Anyhow, back to the point, wife also had cramps about a week after the ovulation period, was the egg emplanting into the womb...
One other thing to try it Tomatoes. They increase sperm levels (have to check the qty v's quality though with your doctors at some point). Also be aware that the sperm you use now, takes 90 days to create through a cycle, so it is directly related to the lifestyle you lead 90 day's ago. So if you change your diet now, it 'may' take 90 days to effect the output etc.
Really wish you good luck mate
Mr F
Mr Freefall said:
Legend83 said:
Oh, what a nightmare. I just don't know what to think.
The missus is about 4-5 days late now, feeling sick in the day, sore bits up top....BUT also cramps which would suggest just normal onset of period.
I am trying to put the sicky feeling down to lack of sleep, but I can't help but have this nagging optimism in my head - it is boiling over!
She also had cramps about a week after the ovulation period...don't know if that is a sign of anything but it has happened in previous months when we had no result.
Of course, this could all be settled by a quick pregnancy test but the missus has developed an irrational fear of using them....
I know others are going through much worse in their life, but this is fast becoming one of the more difficult periods of mine / ours.
Legend83, Firstly good luck!!!!!The missus is about 4-5 days late now, feeling sick in the day, sore bits up top....BUT also cramps which would suggest just normal onset of period.
I am trying to put the sicky feeling down to lack of sleep, but I can't help but have this nagging optimism in my head - it is boiling over!
She also had cramps about a week after the ovulation period...don't know if that is a sign of anything but it has happened in previous months when we had no result.
Of course, this could all be settled by a quick pregnancy test but the missus has developed an irrational fear of using them....
I know others are going through much worse in their life, but this is fast becoming one of the more difficult periods of mine / ours.
We have two kids. Each time extremly difficult to conceive. Had to use Clomid on both, and on the second Clomid and Metformin, we lost one in-between was Trisomy 21 so we ended.
Anyhow, back to the point, wife also had cramps about a week after the ovulation period, was the egg emplanting into the womb...
One other thing to try it Tomatoes. They increase sperm levels (have to check the qty v's quality though with your doctors at some point). Also be aware that the sperm you use now, takes 90 days to create through a cycle, so it is directly related to the lifestyle you lead 90 day's ago. So if you change your diet now, it 'may' take 90 days to effect the output etc.
Really wish you good luck mate
Mr F
Thanks to all the fantastic support as ever.
It seems odd to air dirty laundry to complete strangers on the internet, but I continue to find the people on this site are so willing to listen, advise, sympathise, cut the st if necessary (love you Tonker 
) but overall I get a great sense of community.
So, thank you all again.
Will keep you posted.
It seems odd to air dirty laundry to complete strangers on the internet, but I continue to find the people on this site are so willing to listen, advise, sympathise, cut the s
t if necessary (love you Tonker ) but overall I get a great sense of community.So, thank you all again.
Will keep you posted.
Still no test taken. We are less stressed today so going to continue waiting to see if a period arrives...now 7 days late of a 'normal' 28 day cycle - though she has never been 'regular'.
Cramps for 4 days now, and lots of weeing today. Hard not to get my hopes up, but we just don't want them shattered by a negative test (those bd things!). Going to hold on to our hope and let nature tell us the news.
Cramps for 4 days now, and lots of weeing today. Hard not to get my hopes up, but we just don't want them shattered by a negative test (those b
d things!). Going to hold on to our hope and let nature tell us the news.Best of luck, dude. Friends of ours struggled very hard and long to conceive, and I think they were into the paid IVF when finally it happened. They have a lovely little girl now.
But, do heed the advice regarding stress. We weren't married, and didn't much care about the certificate, but decided to quit the pill and just see what happened. She was pregnant so fast he was present at the wedding...
But, do heed the advice regarding stress. We weren't married, and didn't much care about the certificate, but decided to quit the pill and just see what happened. She was pregnant so fast he was present at the wedding...
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