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New POD
2,119 posts
20 months
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172ff said: Oakey said: Back in the 90s it took a lot of work for my mother to get my brother diagnosed with ADHD, he had to have numerous evaluations by a psychiatrist before they gave the diagnosis and put him on Ritalin. compare this to my girlfriends brother who has been diagnosed with autism / ADHD (when he was 13, he's 15 now), I don't think he's even been seen by a psychiatrist. from what I recall he refused to go. His mother just explained his behaviour to the GP and this was the conclusion they came to. Just like that. It's total b  ks. He's just a spoilt, selfish little t t. When my brother would play up, he simply did not give a s t if he had an audience or not. It did not matter. He would misbehave regardless of who witnessed it. My OH's brother only plays up to his parents. If he's throwing a wobbler and someone comes round, say his grandfather, he stops immediately and behaves like a normal child. As soon as the person leaves he goes back to being a . And his episodes are always usually linked to something he wants. He thinks the way to getting something (a new game, something for his model tanks, whatever) is to stomp his feet and slam doors until they give in. He also lives on nothing but McDonalds, KFC or chippy, drinks nothing but fizzy drinks and stuffs his face with chocolate. Then they wonder why he's bouncing off the walls! And the worse part is his mother just lets him behave like this and dismisses it with "It's not his fault, he's autistic". No, he just needs a f king good slap! What you've described about your oh's brother is classic autism. I suggest you read up/learn about it. I've been reading up about it, after I did some typing of my sister in laws notes (which was 20 pages of A4 when printed) in support of her youngest son's application to attend a 'special' school. Firstly I didn't really understand what life was like in their family, with 2 aspergers, an OCD and a Dexlexic, and reading up on aspergers, has made me look at the world differently. I think, that if there is a spectrum, many talented engineers, who are put down as grumpy or difficult, or weird, are somewhere at the functioning end of that spectrum.
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Fort Jefferson
7,041 posts
92 months
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djad1200 said: (5mins before closing time) You have a Tesco that closes?
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Jamesp24
236 posts
40 months
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The thing most people don't realize is its not about the distance to the shop door its about the size of the parking bay,i need the extra room by the side to get my chair across and next to me in the bay,i couldn't care if it was the other end of the carpark. I regularly park in a non disabled space and leave it to the fat lazy f kers who usually occupy them but its nightmare when somebody has parked rite next to you door and you cant get your chair down the side : (.
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Oakey
13,830 posts
86 months
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New POD said: I've been reading up about it, after I did some typing of my sister in laws notes (which was 20 pages of A4 when printed) in support of her youngest son's application to attend a 'special' school. Firstly I didn't really understand what life was like in their family, with 2 aspergers, an OCD and a Dexlexic, and reading up on aspergers, has made me look at the world differently. I think, that if there is a spectrum, many talented engineers, who are put down as grumpy or difficult, or weird, are somewhere at the functioning end of that spectrum. I've lived with it so know what it's like, I also know how difficult an issue it is to be taken seriously. When people say "that's just a make believe problem" it's infuriating. The problem is, in my opinion, that we're too quick to label all problem children as autistic / OCD / etc.
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spaximus
1,749 posts
123 months
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The blue badge scheme and disability payments are now discredited, which is unfortunate as those who are genuine do need assistance. It was my FIL greates acheivment when he got a blue badge, yes he has bad knees so technically fits the criteria as his Doctor confirms, yet he can walk two hours around a car boot sale no problem. If the car is because little Johnny is ADHD that does not give them a need for special parking or a new mobility car every two years, yet once again people get them easily it would appear. In car parks I never park in the disabled spot but mother and baby spaces i think are fair game. We all used to manage fine before but now because it being seen as a right when you knock out kids to be pampered by the shops, they want the extra space. I want the space to stop the fat usless t ts slamming their doors onto mine.
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McHaggis
8,271 posts
25 months
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Kinky said: Troll removed  The OP?
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Vipers
15,638 posts
98 months
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RichB said: Vipers said: SBDJ said: We have a blue badge and get free tax in the window of one of cars. We are both physically fit and mentally (well one of us is) fit. The looks I get from people using disabled spaces are absolutely amazing. I sometimes almost feel like getting out and doing a few star jumps!
Of course if you look at the back of the badge you'll see a picture of my almost 4 year old son. ... you dont use the blue badge priviledge without your son with you do you?. One assumes not. Nothing yet, so lets hope your right.
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aizvara
1,529 posts
37 months
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spaximus said: The blue badge scheme and disability payments are now discredited, which is unfortunate as those who are genuine do need assistance. It was my FIL greates acheivment when he got a blue badge, yes he has bad knees so technically fits the criteria as his Doctor confirms, yet he can walk two hours around a car boot sale no problem. If the car is because little Johnny is ADHD that does not give them a need for special parking or a new mobility car every two years, yet once again people get them easily it would appear. In car parks I never park in the disabled spot but mother and baby spaces i think are fair game. We all used to manage fine before but now because it being seen as a right when you knock out kids to be pampered by the shops, they want the extra space. I want the space to stop the fat usless t ts slamming their doors onto mine. It would appear? How so? How easy is it to get onto the Motability car scheme with ADHD? To get the higher mobility component of the DLA the child should be virtually unable to walk unaided, at the very least. I can imagine that some ADHD children are dangerously uncontrollable, but I'd be surprised if it were easy to get a Motability car in any cases. Also, to be clear, the blue badge scheme is different from the Motability car scheme. Regarding parent and child spaces: we all managed fine in the past as cars were smaller, and there was no legal requirement for a huge baby seat (which in my own car was almost impossible to remove said baby from without fully opening the door). Also, "it isn't seen as a right"; it is up to the supermarket to set its own policy, surely? If you don't like it, I'd suggest you shop elsewhere.
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CraigMST
2,882 posts
35 months
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In reply to the post above it must be easy.
Won't go into detail but there's a family who's child is hyperactive. Nothing more I'd say. The mother is claiming high rate disability claiming ADHD, could be a more severe case but nothing that is apparent when the kid goes the shops on her own, walks home from school a mile away alone, plays outside like any normal kid does.
Income support for this child? No precise figure but a few hundred £ a week. Unbelievable.
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redgriff500
7,172 posts
133 months
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To risk PH wrath...
If it's a big store and soon to close
and assuming there are plenty of free disabled spaces.
Then I can't see any harm is done.
I like to use common sense and if no one is affected - what's the problem ?
However I wouldn't blame someone for shouting at you either.
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SBDJ
456 posts
74 months
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Vipers said: RichB said: Vipers said: SBDJ said: We have a blue badge and get free tax in the window of one of cars. We are both physically fit and mentally (well one of us is) fit. The looks I get from people using disabled spaces are absolutely amazing. I sometimes almost feel like getting out and doing a few star jumps!
Of course if you look at the back of the badge you'll see a picture of my almost 4 year old son. ... you dont use the blue badge priviledge without your son with you do you?. One assumes not. Nothing yet, so lets hope your right. Sorry, just got in from work. You are correct - we share the blue badge between our vehicles and it is only used when our son is with us. To do otherwise would simply be wrong - I'm perfectly capable of walking myself, I don't need to shave 20 seconds off my walk to the supermarket from a parking space. In answer to the other question, people don't always see my son (especially if I'm in the Fiat and he's in the back) until I'm unloading him by which time I've usually had the stares. Even then he's not missing any arms or legs so it's not obvious to them that he is a quadriplegic with severe mental health problems. The OP would just assume he's a lazy kid 
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GavinPearson
5,034 posts
121 months
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djad1200 said: I've loaded the gun and put it to my head. Now you pull the trigger.
Anyway on with the story.
I don't have a blue badge and I parked in a Tesco disabled apace last night (5mins before closing time)
I figured that if someone is truly disabled then they wouldn't be able to RUN around the shop in that amount of time anyway.
When I got out of my car there was a young girl in the car next to me who could only be described as a fat heffa. With 4 kids and in her pyjamas. The then gave me a gob load of abuse for parking in a space when im clearly not disabled.
I looked at her FREE tax on her BRAND NEW car and just shook my head.
I was in tescos for a total of 90 seconds while I picked a loaf of bread up and ran back out to my car (and I paid for it)
Who is in the wrong here.
I have since found out that shopping centre disabled spaces are unenforceable as its only council ones that are. And I was parked there for less than the 12 minutes allocated loading time that you are also allowed in the UK. You're in the wrong. The whole point of these spaces is to give disabled people a chance to get to the shop. If everybody took your approach the people who really need to use the spaces wouldn't be able to because they'd all be filled up with cars for people just popping in for 90 seconds to pick up a loaf of bread and a 4 pack of Stella. Try getting there a bit earlier and using the normal spaces.
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Flawless Victory
420 posts
35 months
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4key said: In future to avoid this sort if problem, just apply for a disabled badge. They seem to give them away to almost anyone anyway Absolute garbage.
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mercfunder
2,630 posts
43 months
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New POD said: has made me look at the world differently. I think, that if there is a spectrum, many talented engineers, who are put down as grumpy or difficult, or weird, are somewhere at the functioning end of that spectrum. You would be surprised how many people regarded as driven and successful would be diagnosed as high functioning Aspergers. As a parent of an Aspergers suffer, albeit high functioning, with good support from school, local authority, and parents they can achieve great success.
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yonex
3,008 posts
38 months
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Fort Jefferson said: You have a Tesco that closes? Sundays?
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doogz
19,313 posts
57 months
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yonex said: Fort Jefferson said: You have a Tesco that closes? Sundays? The one near me is always open.
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redgriff500
7,172 posts
133 months
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yonex said: Fort Jefferson said: You have a Tesco that closes? Sundays? Yep - huge one by me advertises as 24 / 7 but actually: Mon 8AM - midnight Tue 24 hours Wed 24 hours Thu 24 hours Fri 24 hours Sat midnight - 10PM Sun 11AM - 5PM
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CraigyMc
5,269 posts
106 months
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doogz said: yonex said: Fort Jefferson said: You have a Tesco that closes? Sundays? The one near me is always open. In England, supermarkets close on Sundays. Usual hours have been 10am-4pm, although I've found lots that are doing 9-5 on sunday this summer. In Scotland, lots of supermarkets are open 24 hours a day, seven days a week except for Christmas Day and New Years day.
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Vipers
15,638 posts
98 months
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SBDJ said: Sorry, just got in from work. You are correct - we share the blue badge between our vehicles and it is only used when our son is with us. To do otherwise would simply be wrong - I'm perfectly capable of walking myself, I don't need to shave 20 seconds off my walk to the supermarket from a parking space. In answer to the other question, people don't always see my son (especially if I'm in the Fiat and he's in the back) until I'm unloading him by which time I've usually had the stares. Even then he's not missing any arms or legs so it's not obvious to them that he is a quadriplegic with severe mental health problems. The OP would just assume he's a lazy kid Good to hear the badge is not abused. Sadly a lot are, last time I politely pointed to what seem to be two able Ladies did they know they had parked in a disabled space, all I got was verbal, on the lines of "Who are you a car park warden? I take offence to you speaking to me like that", as they rushed past me...... Cant win sometimes.
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Engineer1
7,249 posts
79 months
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djad1200 said: djfaulkner said: djad1200 said: I looked at her FREE tax on her BRAND NEW car and just shook my head. What has that got to do with anything? Sorry I meant DISABLED tax She clearly wasn't disabled either so maybe she was being ironic I'd get to the doctors either you can cover for them and save diagnostic equipment or you may be able to qualify for a blue badge due to problems with thinking.
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