Why do women always slam/fling open car doors/boots?
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B'stard Child said:
Err care to share the secret?
My OH can't adjust to different cars needing different pressures to close the doors so my normal approach with all cars is to drop a window a bit before she exits the car she's consequently adjusted the force she applies 8/10 times she's not far off the other 2/10 she apologizes.... I can just about live with that.
I used an analogy of the sonic boom that reverberates through the house if the open front door accidently slams itself shut, because the rear kitchen door is open. Once I explained this the penny dropped! She's very good, now she even adjusts to the different weight of the doors on the two cars we use My OH can't adjust to different cars needing different pressures to close the doors so my normal approach with all cars is to drop a window a bit before she exits the car she's consequently adjusted the force she applies 8/10 times she's not far off the other 2/10 she apologizes.... I can just about live with that.
Car and house door shutting go hand in hand. Ex- neighbours used to shut their front door with enough force to cause a siesmic event.
slippery said:
B'stard Child said:
Err care to share the secret?
My OH can't adjust to different cars needing different pressures to close the doors so my normal approach with all cars is to drop a window a bit before she exits the car she's consequently adjusted the force she applies 8/10 times she's not far off the other 2/10 she apologizes.... I can just about live with that.
At least you get an apology! My OH can't adjust to different cars needing different pressures to close the doors so my normal approach with all cars is to drop a window a bit before she exits the car she's consequently adjusted the force she applies 8/10 times she's not far off the other 2/10 she apologizes.... I can just about live with that.
Bless her she has got the short term memory retention skills of a goldfish (that isn't always a bad thing......)
Her long term memory over 20 years ago is unfortunately brilliant - should have told her in 1990 we would buy an E38 with a soft close boot and she'd be fine with it by now!!
Delighted to hear that I'm not an isolated victim!
After the event bought a pair of struts on eBay, ~£17. Should be delivered in the next couple of days.
The other issues is that it was the bottom connection that broke. After the event she propped it up to stop the boot closing leaning the strut on one of the rubber seals which is now torn as a result. It may need replacing.
Sammo123 said:
g3org3y said:
This post was prompted by the gf's actions yesterday. Such was the force by which she flung the boot open of the E36 touring, that she's broken the right sided gas strut.
Haha my g/f did exactly this to our E36 Touring about 2 weeks ago! I had only replaced the bloody struts about a week before that and she flung the boot up with so much force that both the gas struts broke! That was £20 down the drain!The other issues is that it was the bottom connection that broke. After the event she propped it up to stop the boot closing leaning the strut on one of the rubber seals which is now torn as a result. It may need replacing.
The one time I do "have a go" at her for slamming my door, she then doesn't shut it properly & waits until I am reversing around a parked 4x4 only to open the door again!!!! £600 bill to repair the 4x4 as the edge of my door sliced through the bumper like butter..... 
She does slam the door on my current car & then says "sorry"
She does slam the door on my current car & then says "sorry"
Ray Luxury-Yacht said:
Yep. My last G/F, and every one I can remember, have all done this.
However, my last G/F used to do it when OPENING the car door, despite being told time and time again!
I had a Porsche 911, which had a feature where once the car was moving over 5mph, would automatically lock the doors. I quite liked the feature - I guess it might stop someone running up and yanking the door over in traffic?
Anyway - once the doors were locked, when I stopped the car and parked, in order to get out, you had to pull the interior door handle open once, then allow it to return to it's resting place, and then pull it a second time to get out. Basically, the first pull unlocked the door, and the second pull opened it.
Despite telling my G/F this over a billion times, and owning the car for over four years - the dopey woman never got it!
We'd park up, she would pull the door handle, see that the door hadn't opened - and so continue to PULL the bloody handle even harder and harder towards her, all the while cursing that she couldn't get out. I am surprised that the damn handle didn't snap off - testament, I guess, to Porsche build quality and metal handles.
All she had to do was release the handle and pull it once more. But no....she just never got that!!! Arrrgghhh!!!!
My car has the same sort of function as your car (as default). My wife has the same sort of function as your wife (as default).However, my last G/F used to do it when OPENING the car door, despite being told time and time again!
I had a Porsche 911, which had a feature where once the car was moving over 5mph, would automatically lock the doors. I quite liked the feature - I guess it might stop someone running up and yanking the door over in traffic?
Anyway - once the doors were locked, when I stopped the car and parked, in order to get out, you had to pull the interior door handle open once, then allow it to return to it's resting place, and then pull it a second time to get out. Basically, the first pull unlocked the door, and the second pull opened it.
Despite telling my G/F this over a billion times, and owning the car for over four years - the dopey woman never got it!
We'd park up, she would pull the door handle, see that the door hadn't opened - and so continue to PULL the bloody handle even harder and harder towards her, all the while cursing that she couldn't get out. I am surprised that the damn handle didn't snap off - testament, I guess, to Porsche build quality and metal handles.
All she had to do was release the handle and pull it once more. But no....she just never got that!!! Arrrgghhh!!!!
No matter that I told her every time, that she needed to let go and pull agian....
I think the usual words were, "if it doesn't work the answer is never PULL HARDER"
After about the 20th time I found the function to disable it (in the car, not the wife)
Ray Luxury-Yacht said:
Yep. My last G/F, and every one I can remember, have all done this.
However, my last G/F used to do it when OPENING the car door, despite being told time and time again!
I had a Porsche 911, which had a feature where once the car was moving over 5mph, would automatically lock the doors. I quite liked the feature - I guess it might stop someone running up and yanking the door over in traffic?
Anyway - once the doors were locked, when I stopped the car and parked, in order to get out, you had to pull the interior door handle open once, then allow it to return to it's resting place, and then pull it a second time to get out. Basically, the first pull unlocked the door, and the second pull opened it.
Despite telling my G/F this over a billion times, and owning the car for over four years - the dopey woman never got it!
We'd park up, she would pull the door handle, see that the door hadn't opened - and so continue to PULL the bloody handle even harder and harder towards her, all the while cursing that she couldn't get out. I am surprised that the damn handle didn't snap off - testament, I guess, to Porsche build quality and metal handles.
All she had to do was release the handle and pull it once more. But no....she just never got that!!! Arrrgghhh!!!!
Long time lurker - but this drives me loopy. It's when they pull the handle further, tell me it's broken, try again, get out, then slam the sodding door.However, my last G/F used to do it when OPENING the car door, despite being told time and time again!
I had a Porsche 911, which had a feature where once the car was moving over 5mph, would automatically lock the doors. I quite liked the feature - I guess it might stop someone running up and yanking the door over in traffic?
Anyway - once the doors were locked, when I stopped the car and parked, in order to get out, you had to pull the interior door handle open once, then allow it to return to it's resting place, and then pull it a second time to get out. Basically, the first pull unlocked the door, and the second pull opened it.
Despite telling my G/F this over a billion times, and owning the car for over four years - the dopey woman never got it!
We'd park up, she would pull the door handle, see that the door hadn't opened - and so continue to PULL the bloody handle even harder and harder towards her, all the while cursing that she couldn't get out. I am surprised that the damn handle didn't snap off - testament, I guess, to Porsche build quality and metal handles.
All she had to do was release the handle and pull it once more. But no....she just never got that!!! Arrrgghhh!!!!
In my old car I had several scratches down the glove box where she brought her bag in (with pointless jaggy bits on the outside) pushes it against the glove box then scrapes it down taking chunks of plastic with it. She was adamant it wasn't her. I just watched her do it! I even wrapped a bit of trim in carbon fibre wrap after the aluminium took some dents from the bags, 3 days later the wrap is covered in scratches. "I don't know how that happened...." REALLY?
Thankfully the new car has a smaller glove box. No scratches yet.
Thankfully the new car has a smaller glove box. No scratches yet.
Before you've stopped the car they have their belt off, hand on the door ready to rock - then the door is blasted open whilst you're still parking, bang, they're out and beginning the sprint to the front door, car door swinging back with enough force to rupture your ear drums as it permanently shock welds to the frame.
"I didnt slam it!"
"I didnt slam it!"
And of course with the auto locking handles they cant open whilst you are moving - so they just hang their body weight off of it.
"Its not opening!"
'Just wait until the car has stopped moving and it'll unlock itself.'
[door handle now seperated from the door and held aloft in hand] "I cant get out."
"Its not opening!"
'Just wait until the car has stopped moving and it'll unlock itself.'
[door handle now seperated from the door and held aloft in hand] "I cant get out."
jamieduff1981 said:
Does nobody consider losing their temper once in a while? You know, to remind these self-absorbed idiots you live with that ocassionally you f***ing well mean it when you tell them repeatedly not to do something?
Sometimes the hairdrier treatment is the only language people understand when they've heard and understood what you've said but dismissed your needs and wants as unimportant to them.
Yup.Sometimes the hairdrier treatment is the only language people understand when they've heard and understood what you've said but dismissed your needs and wants as unimportant to them.
Our house was built circa 1910 and had (yes, had) a full complement of original locks and latches on the internal doors. One of the things that charmed me into buying the place as many original features remained.
With a month of moving in the OH had slammed the kitchen door so hard the latch exploded into many fragments.
I went f
kIN APE!! "TWO WORLD WARS, COUNTLESS OCCUPANTS INCLUDING HALF A DOZEN f
kING STUDENTS AND THEN YOU COME ALONG WITH THE FORETHOUGHT OF GUPPY AND SMASH A 100 YEAR OLD LOCK OUT OF NOTHING MORE THAN CARELESSNESS!!!!!!"I wish I could tell you she'd improved but they just don't seem wired to give a f
k. Next time she breaks something, kerbs a wheel, dents a bumper I am resolved to make her fix it herself as I'm convinced this is the only way. My old man made me (as an 8 year old) chip the putty out of window where I'd smashed an original Georgian pane.... didn't happen again.
Definitely not limited to women - my neighbour is a complete oaf and unfortunately we live in a cul-de-sac with parking spaces arranged like a supermarket car park. When I have the misfortune to have him park next to me I can pretty much expect some door to panel action. He did it the other week while I was putting something in the boot - thunk goes the door on his rusty £200 Fiesta against the once-immaculate side of my 12 year old S8! What makes it even more stupid is that generally he'll open it with reasonable care, then attempt to extract himself from the seat with a couple of bags of shopping and will then just shove it open to the point of contact....I asked him to take more care since I'd had that side of the car resprayed once already, and all I got in reply was an 'oh'. Cars in his ownership generally have a 6-12 month life expectancy before they're crashed irretrievably...
My wife isn't too bad with doors, although boot lids are more of a challenge (she's not short so gets a good swing on the lid when it slams shut!) but I get the bag dragged needlessly across the leather dash and glovebox lid effect on my car - it seems it's impossible to complete any length of journey without life's detritus within 2 feet reach. Stick a bag in the boot, are you mad?! Been made worse since the front passenger seat had to be moved forward to stop our son kicking the crap out of the seat back, so now the bag has to be shoved between dash and knees to force it into the footwell once seated <sigh>
On the wheel front my wife has dropped off a kerbed wheel for refurbing - she denies all knowledge of mullering the week before the car gets sold, despite her being the only person to drive it since I rotated the tyres! To top it off she's ground the edge of a rim on the replacement on the same weekend trying to negotiate out of a parking space - luckily before the wheels have been refurbed. On the basis she's paid for the car I'm doing my best not to get overexcited until she's got used to the dimensions, but I was adamant I wasn't dropping the wheel off!
Definitely an over-arching lack of mechanical sympathy evident here in most posts!
My wife isn't too bad with doors, although boot lids are more of a challenge (she's not short so gets a good swing on the lid when it slams shut!) but I get the bag dragged needlessly across the leather dash and glovebox lid effect on my car - it seems it's impossible to complete any length of journey without life's detritus within 2 feet reach. Stick a bag in the boot, are you mad?! Been made worse since the front passenger seat had to be moved forward to stop our son kicking the crap out of the seat back, so now the bag has to be shoved between dash and knees to force it into the footwell once seated <sigh>
On the wheel front my wife has dropped off a kerbed wheel for refurbing - she denies all knowledge of mullering the week before the car gets sold, despite her being the only person to drive it since I rotated the tyres! To top it off she's ground the edge of a rim on the replacement on the same weekend trying to negotiate out of a parking space - luckily before the wheels have been refurbed. On the basis she's paid for the car I'm doing my best not to get overexcited until she's got used to the dimensions, but I was adamant I wasn't dropping the wheel off!
Definitely an over-arching lack of mechanical sympathy evident here in most posts!
Not personally had experience of this, and luckily my SO doesn't slam doors.
However her Grandmother goes food shopping with her parents every week, and the other week her dad had started to notice her GM was slamming the door on his new 500 on every occasion. He let it pass the first few times but eventually had enough and politely requested she stopped slamming his door.
The following week when weekly food shop day came around, they received a call from her GM saying she isn't coming food shopping any more with them and is going to a different supermarket with a friend instead!
Touchy touchy!
But on a more related note, my experience has told me that the thought process is "it's built to withstand all sorts of abuse, I'm sure it can handle a door being slammed shut".
However her Grandmother goes food shopping with her parents every week, and the other week her dad had started to notice her GM was slamming the door on his new 500 on every occasion. He let it pass the first few times but eventually had enough and politely requested she stopped slamming his door.
The following week when weekly food shop day came around, they received a call from her GM saying she isn't coming food shopping any more with them and is going to a different supermarket with a friend instead!
Touchy touchy!
But on a more related note, my experience has told me that the thought process is "it's built to withstand all sorts of abuse, I'm sure it can handle a door being slammed shut".
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