How to change partners bad driving habits
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...without causing offence?
She says I nag. Yes I think I do, but as ever, for good reasons.
Such as not tailgating people. She will do this pretty much all the time despite having smashed 4 vehicles in doing so.
She cuts lanes on roundabouts which really annoys me as one day there will be an accident.
She doesn't lock the car when driving so puts herself at risk of a car jacking. The last two auto locked, this one doesn't. I pointed out that the driver she has just cut up on a roundabout may catch up with her in a queue, and be a mentalist.
Sigh.
I wish I didn't nag, but I can't help it. I Want to point out that she also doesn't use mirrors enough when on the bike, but fear this will cause an argument... She changed lane on me, and failed to spot a police car that was following us!!!!
On the plus side, she parks the car better than I do!
If I didn't care I wouldn't say anything.
She says I nag. Yes I think I do, but as ever, for good reasons.
Such as not tailgating people. She will do this pretty much all the time despite having smashed 4 vehicles in doing so.
She cuts lanes on roundabouts which really annoys me as one day there will be an accident.
She doesn't lock the car when driving so puts herself at risk of a car jacking. The last two auto locked, this one doesn't. I pointed out that the driver she has just cut up on a roundabout may catch up with her in a queue, and be a mentalist.
Sigh.
I wish I didn't nag, but I can't help it. I Want to point out that she also doesn't use mirrors enough when on the bike, but fear this will cause an argument... She changed lane on me, and failed to spot a police car that was following us!!!!
On the plus side, she parks the car better than I do!
If I didn't care I wouldn't say anything.
The next time you're driving her, drive like she does.
Don't say anything, just replicate her faults. It might be a way of allowing her to bring the subject up, rather than her feeling like she's comstantly being criticised.
And you could buy her a book on advanced driving. If only someone would write one...
Don't say anything, just replicate her faults. It might be a way of allowing her to bring the subject up, rather than her feeling like she's comstantly being criticised.
And you could buy her a book on advanced driving. If only someone would write one...
My Mrs has this awful habit of pulling into gaps which aren't really there - at least not with the power the little 1.0 Picanto puts out. I've driven that car though and it does encourage you to maintain momentum because it's horrific when you put your foot down. It just makes a horrible noise.
My solution is to get her something with more power (shouldn't be difficult).
My solution is to get her something with more power (shouldn't be difficult).
HertsBiker said:
...without causing offence?
She says I nag. Yes I think I do, but as ever, for good reasons.
Such as not tailgating people. She will do this pretty much all the time despite having smashed 4 vehicles in doing so.
She cuts lanes on roundabouts which really annoys me as one day there will be an accident.
She doesn't lock the car when driving so puts herself at risk of a car jacking. The last two auto locked, this one doesn't. I pointed out that the driver she has just cut up on a roundabout may catch up with her in a queue, and be a mentalist.
Sigh.
I wish I didn't nag, but I can't help it. I Want to point out that she also doesn't use mirrors enough when on the bike, but fear this will cause an argument... She changed lane on me, and failed to spot a police car that was following us!!!!
On the plus side, she parks the car better than I do!
If I didn't care I wouldn't say anything.
send her to Reg to get edumacated ?She says I nag. Yes I think I do, but as ever, for good reasons.
Such as not tailgating people. She will do this pretty much all the time despite having smashed 4 vehicles in doing so.
She cuts lanes on roundabouts which really annoys me as one day there will be an accident.
She doesn't lock the car when driving so puts herself at risk of a car jacking. The last two auto locked, this one doesn't. I pointed out that the driver she has just cut up on a roundabout may catch up with her in a queue, and be a mentalist.
Sigh.
I wish I didn't nag, but I can't help it. I Want to point out that she also doesn't use mirrors enough when on the bike, but fear this will cause an argument... She changed lane on me, and failed to spot a police car that was following us!!!!
On the plus side, she parks the car better than I do!
If I didn't care I wouldn't say anything.
This is going to sound really awful so I apologise in advance, but everything you describe (including replicating behaviour that has caused accidents in the past) smacks of low intelligence.
People of average intelligence or better can usually work out the consequence of the driving you describe.
If that is the issue, then you're never going to change it because the mental capacity to understand the reason for change is lacking.
Sorry to be so blunt, I don't mean to be rude, but in my experience people who drive badly due to inability to work through the consequences will never ever change because they will never ever understand the need to (even if they crash, which will somehow be either someone else's fault, or the car's fault for 'not stopping quickly enough' or mysteriously 'going out of control').
People of average intelligence or better can usually work out the consequence of the driving you describe.
If that is the issue, then you're never going to change it because the mental capacity to understand the reason for change is lacking.
Sorry to be so blunt, I don't mean to be rude, but in my experience people who drive badly due to inability to work through the consequences will never ever change because they will never ever understand the need to (even if they crash, which will somehow be either someone else's fault, or the car's fault for 'not stopping quickly enough' or mysteriously 'going out of control').
TooMany2cvs said:
HertsBiker said:
She doesn't lock the car when driving so puts herself at risk of a car jacking.
Seriously?And you ride a bike, too? Do you padlock yourself to that?
Ari said:
This is going to sound really awful so I apologise in advance, but everything you describe (including replicating behaviour that has caused accidents in the past) smacks of low intelligence.
People of average intelligence or better can usually work out the consequence of the driving you describe.
If that is the issue, then you're never going to change it because the mental capacity to understand the reason for change is lacking.
Sorry to be so blunt, I don't mean to be rude, but in my experience people who drive badly due to inability to work through the consequences will never ever change because they will never ever understand the need to (even if they crash, which will somehow be either someone else's fault, or the car's fault for 'not stopping quickly enough' or mysteriously 'going out of control').
This is utter nonsense.People of average intelligence or better can usually work out the consequence of the driving you describe.
If that is the issue, then you're never going to change it because the mental capacity to understand the reason for change is lacking.
Sorry to be so blunt, I don't mean to be rude, but in my experience people who drive badly due to inability to work through the consequences will never ever change because they will never ever understand the need to (even if they crash, which will somehow be either someone else's fault, or the car's fault for 'not stopping quickly enough' or mysteriously 'going out of control').
I've met some extremely intelligent and highly educated individuals who couldn't drive a greasy stick up a dogs arse.
Poor driving ability is in no way an indication of poor intelligence.
mph1977 said:
send her to Reg to get edumacated ?
Cheap prices for March - very cheap.R_U_LOCAL said:
This is utter nonsense.
I've met some extremely intelligent and highly educated individuals who couldn't drive a greasy stick up a dogs arse.
Poor driving ability is in no way an indication of poor intelligence.
I'm talking about the ability to process the fact that crashing four times into the back of other cars indicates a need to change behaviour slightly...I've met some extremely intelligent and highly educated individuals who couldn't drive a greasy stick up a dogs arse.
Poor driving ability is in no way an indication of poor intelligence.
Ari said:
This is going to sound really awful so I apologise in advance, but everything you describe (including replicating behaviour that has caused accidents in the past) smacks of low intelligence.
People of average intelligence or better can usually work out the consequence of the driving you describe.
If that is the issue, then you're never going to change it because the mental capacity to understand the reason for change is lacking.
Sorry to be so blunt, I don't mean to be rude, but in my experience people who drive badly due to inability to work through the consequences will never ever change because they will never ever understand the need to (even if they crash, which will somehow be either someone else's fault, or the car's fault for 'not stopping quickly enough' or mysteriously 'going out of control').
Not sure about this - some of the thickest people I've known, were (or are) pretty good drivers.People of average intelligence or better can usually work out the consequence of the driving you describe.
If that is the issue, then you're never going to change it because the mental capacity to understand the reason for change is lacking.
Sorry to be so blunt, I don't mean to be rude, but in my experience people who drive badly due to inability to work through the consequences will never ever change because they will never ever understand the need to (even if they crash, which will somehow be either someone else's fault, or the car's fault for 'not stopping quickly enough' or mysteriously 'going out of control').
On a different note, Mrs Andyrun is learning to drive (again). We pulled out of the drive the other evening with her at the wheel and she started driving on the wrong side of the road. You think you have a problem...
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