Ungrateful offspring....
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Keep it in your name. Do not give it to him. It is YOUR car. His birthday present shall be driving lessons, not his own motor.
He shall ask for it every time he would like to borrow it. He will very quickly appreciate what must be done to earn the privilege of having access to a vehicle. Maybe, if he's not a dick, he can have it for his 18th.
Driving is an important life skill, so you get the best of both worlds. You bestow that skill upon him like a good parent, but hold all the power until he learns some manners.
He shall ask for it every time he would like to borrow it. He will very quickly appreciate what must be done to earn the privilege of having access to a vehicle. Maybe, if he's not a dick, he can have it for his 18th.
Driving is an important life skill, so you get the best of both worlds. You bestow that skill upon him like a good parent, but hold all the power until he learns some manners.
TartanPaint said:
Keep it in your name. Do not give it to him. It is YOUR car. His birthday present shall be driving lessons, not his own motor.
He shall ask for it every time he would like to borrow it. He will very quickly appreciate what must be done to earn the privilege of having access to a vehicle. Maybe, if he's not a dick, he can have it for his 18th.
TBH i would say is birthday present should be bugger all for being so ungrateful - its a car, its freedom - so what if it does not have a CD player, its stupidly easy to fit a cd player to a car that age so he can go out and buy one himselfHe shall ask for it every time he would like to borrow it. He will very quickly appreciate what must be done to earn the privilege of having access to a vehicle. Maybe, if he's not a dick, he can have it for his 18th.
Edited as i forgot to say that the young-un should go buy a cd player himself for it
Edited by samuelellis on Tuesday 12th January 16:07
FredClogs said:
OP - Leave family home immediately, disown family and attempt to start life again putting into practice all the lessons you've learned over the last 17 years. You're offspring is clearly either spoilt, has no interest in cars or really doesn't like you - all of which is your fault.
This.Sell car, by Canoe and paddle out to sea never to be seen again ala John Darwin.
samuelellis said:
TBH i would say is birthday present should be bugger all for being so ungrateful - its a car, its freedom - so what if it does not have a CD player, its stupidly easy to fit a cd player to a car that age
No.Tape adapter!
FredClogs said:
OP - Leave family home immediately, disown family and attempt to start life again putting into practice all the lessons you've learned over the last 17 years. You're offspring is clearly either spoilt, has no interest in cars or really doesn't like you - all of which is your fault.
Time for the popcorn..Leave it on the drive, and contribute nothing further. Once the interest sets in and he realizes how much things actually cost he will want it. And he can have it. For £300 of his own money.
Edit to add: At 17, I had to buy my first car whereas mates were given 4-5 year old fiesta's etc. Those same mates still rely on parental handouts, trashing their own stuff as they have no value attached to it.
Edit to add: At 17, I had to buy my first car whereas mates were given 4-5 year old fiesta's etc. Those same mates still rely on parental handouts, trashing their own stuff as they have no value attached to it.
Edited by Dgr90 on Tuesday 12th January 15:33
I know the first inclination will be to put an advert on eBay and flog it fast, but then I'm not sure what stroppy teenagers go for these days. However...
Any chance of retrieving the situation, by getting him involved in the process of doing it up a bit? Personally I also think this is a fairly cool first car, so if that fails I'm sure one of his mates will take it instead. That's sure to piss him off
Any chance of retrieving the situation, by getting him involved in the process of doing it up a bit? Personally I also think this is a fairly cool first car, so if that fails I'm sure one of his mates will take it instead. That's sure to piss him off
I remember being 17 and my priorities for a car were similar to his. My car had a tape deck with an aux-in converter on it which suited me fine, but I wanted something 'cool'. All my mates were bought new-ish Minis, Polos etc. My dad got my a SEAT Arosa and I spent 6 months telling everyone "but it's basically a Volkswagen..."
While your priorities are to teach him maintenance, his are to get from A to B with a perceived level of 'coolness'.
If he has no interest in maintenance or fiddling with an older car, your goodwill gesture isn't going to go down how you'd hoped and you may have done better giving him £150 "towards" his car which he can choose himself.
Although, either way, he should have at least said bloody thank you!
While your priorities are to teach him maintenance, his are to get from A to B with a perceived level of 'coolness'.
If he has no interest in maintenance or fiddling with an older car, your goodwill gesture isn't going to go down how you'd hoped and you may have done better giving him £150 "towards" his car which he can choose himself.
Although, either way, he should have at least said bloody thank you!
Soov535 said:
Ungrateful little turd.
Sell the car and take your missus out for a nice meal.
Jesus.
This.Sell the car and take your missus out for a nice meal.
Jesus.
A second class ride is better than a first class walk.
I had a burgundy Citroen BX with an interior in 'hearing aid' beige for my 18th.
Forget about a CD player, it didn't even have self cancelling indicators.
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