Tracing a registered keeper
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So , that age old question of chasing a registered keeper via DVLA . Long story short but I have just found out that my partner of 2 1/2 years has been seeing someone else for the past 10 months (we both have children so live seperately ). I turned up at his house last Saturday night and her car was there ( midnight ). She was obviously inside ..... I rang him twice to save a scene but he didn't pick up ..... I banged on the door and he came to the door " what are you doing here ". He begged me not to make a scene as his daughter was in bed upstairs and didn't want me to wake her up !!!!! Usual tears and tantrums at the front door , but I agreed and drove away . ( I got the car details of her car before I left ). So , the week that has followed has been hell ...,,, he loves us both bla bla bla , doesn't know which way to turn , wants headspace etc !! 😡😡 He has told me her name but no more ....., ( he's obviously doing everything in his power to not lose one of us ). He also admitted to having had 2 other "relationships " in the time we have been together !!! Omg .
So , I have decided I'd like to let her know what she is dealing with ...... I know it won't fix anything for me , but I am so angry that he can do this and walk away Scot free . plus she has 2 children too and I think she should know what she's dealing with !!! I'm not a revenge / vindictive person , but in saying that I have never been in this position before . My last relationship ended amicably after we grew apart and we are still friends !! But I can't move on until I've been and had the conversation with her .... And I am aware I can't believe a word he tells me now !!! I rang DVLA on Monday , and they advised me to send in a form ( I said her car had been blocking my access to my drive all weekend ). I really don't want to sit outside his house and stalk her / him but I wondered if anyone had ever used the service ..... And how successful they had been . If they say no , I don't know what to do next ...... Meanwhile he's gone on holiday to get some much needed " head space " 😡😡
So , I have decided I'd like to let her know what she is dealing with ...... I know it won't fix anything for me , but I am so angry that he can do this and walk away Scot free . plus she has 2 children too and I think she should know what she's dealing with !!! I'm not a revenge / vindictive person , but in saying that I have never been in this position before . My last relationship ended amicably after we grew apart and we are still friends !! But I can't move on until I've been and had the conversation with her .... And I am aware I can't believe a word he tells me now !!! I rang DVLA on Monday , and they advised me to send in a form ( I said her car had been blocking my access to my drive all weekend ). I really don't want to sit outside his house and stalk her / him but I wondered if anyone had ever used the service ..... And how successful they had been . If they say no , I don't know what to do next ...... Meanwhile he's gone on holiday to get some much needed " head space " 😡😡
You need "reasonable cause" to obtain such details from the DVLA.
https://www.gov.uk/request-information-from-dvla
https://www.gov.uk/request-information-from-dvla
Hi , I'm aware that the DVLA service isn't there to help sort out cheating partners, ..... ( thanks for that ) but am not sure what else I can do ..... I'm open to suggestions obviously .... I phoned a private investigator ( once I started to suspect ) , about 3 weeks ago , and they wanted £70 an hour ..... And reckon I'd be looking at Around 10 hours !!!
I know that's what I should do ...... I have to say I had no clue she exists , and have been with him for 2 1/2 years now . If what he says is true he has been with her for almost a year , so he's obviously a bloody good liar ..... I feel like if I could have a conversation with her and get to the bottom of the truth then I could start to think about moving on . I haven't even told my kids yet ...... They think the sun shines out of him
She probably already knows about her being the third person in your relationship, so to speak, so what are you actually telling her that she doesn't already know.
Hold your head up and walk away with your pride and dignity intact. That will probably piss him off more than you trying to get even. Have no further contact, he will wonder what you are doing and that will play on his mind. If he doesn't care you have had a lucky escape, put it down to experience and move on.
Failing that hire a professional hit, not a private dick, more effective in the long run, but no paper trail mind.
Some of the above advice is not meant to be taken seriously, just do the hit.
Hold your head up and walk away with your pride and dignity intact. That will probably piss him off more than you trying to get even. Have no further contact, he will wonder what you are doing and that will play on his mind. If he doesn't care you have had a lucky escape, put it down to experience and move on.
Failing that hire a professional hit, not a private dick, more effective in the long run, but no paper trail mind.
Some of the above advice is not meant to be taken seriously, just do the hit.
Don't give either of them the feeling that you are going to any effort – they aren't worth it. You won't make the other woman come to her senses so leave them to it. He's cheated on you and it sounds like he's already cheated on her. Let her do all the sausage-hammering when she finds out in due course.
The harshest and most effective breaks are when one partner simply says 'Enough' and slams the metaphorical door firmly shut with a second thought, leaving the spurned partner with no way to worm back in.
Use the time and money you would have spent on private investigators to treat yourself and/or your children.
Walk (or drive) away and don't look back. It's a rubbish situation but you will come out the other side in one piece and hopefully with no rash decisions to regret either. Act in haste, repent at leisure.
All the best.
The harshest and most effective breaks are when one partner simply says 'Enough' and slams the metaphorical door firmly shut with a second thought, leaving the spurned partner with no way to worm back in.
Use the time and money you would have spent on private investigators to treat yourself and/or your children.
Walk (or drive) away and don't look back. It's a rubbish situation but you will come out the other side in one piece and hopefully with no rash decisions to regret either. Act in haste, repent at leisure.
All the best.
According to the gov.uk website DVLA requires request in writing for the information you require:
https://www.gov.uk/get-vehicle-information-from-dv...
Following the link will get you to the relevant form V888:
https://www.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploa...
I'd suggest you read that very carefully, especially the bit on page 2 of the form where it states:
"• It is a criminal offence under Section 55 of the Data Protection Act 1998 to unlawfully procure or sell personal information. The maximum penalty is a £5,000 fine."
Appreciate you're not best pleased, but going on the info in your first post it seems like you've had a lucky escape.
In view of his admissions of multiple partners you may want to seek medical advice.
https://www.gov.uk/get-vehicle-information-from-dv...
Following the link will get you to the relevant form V888:
https://www.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploa...
I'd suggest you read that very carefully, especially the bit on page 2 of the form where it states:
"• It is a criminal offence under Section 55 of the Data Protection Act 1998 to unlawfully procure or sell personal information. The maximum penalty is a £5,000 fine."
Appreciate you're not best pleased, but going on the info in your first post it seems like you've had a lucky escape.
In view of his admissions of multiple partners you may want to seek medical advice.
Lady,
Have had a quick read of your posts and I think if you carry on the way you are you may get in trouble.....this guy is no good for you and I am sure his girlfriend knows all about you.
You would be better off looking for a new man in your life and this web site should be just the right place I expect....they love a good story!!
Better still post pictures that will get you all the attention you can handle I expect!?
Life is good and I am sure that you and your children will be better off once you forget the loser and get back on your feet. My ex was similar in many ways which is why we are no longer an item....
Good luck.
Have had a quick read of your posts and I think if you carry on the way you are you may get in trouble.....this guy is no good for you and I am sure his girlfriend knows all about you.
You would be better off looking for a new man in your life and this web site should be just the right place I expect....they love a good story!!
Better still post pictures that will get you all the attention you can handle I expect!?
Life is good and I am sure that you and your children will be better off once you forget the loser and get back on your feet. My ex was similar in many ways which is why we are no longer an item....
Good luck.
Thanks for all your input ..... Some of your responses have made me chuckle!! I didn't post this to ask to be judged , so the ones who have done so I will just ignore . I intend to move on , however I don't know if any of you have ever heard the terms " Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned ". And "revenge is a dish best served cold ". Well as its less than a week since I found out that the person I loved with all my heart has done this , then forgive me if I feel
Upset , angry and like I want to " do " something , rather than just allow the pair of them to walk away into the sunset hand in hand !!!! I know time is a healer bla bla bla , but right now I want to go to her house and ask her what's been going on !! He tells me she thought she was the only one too !!
Upset , angry and like I want to " do " something , rather than just allow the pair of them to walk away into the sunset hand in hand !!!! I know time is a healer bla bla bla , but right now I want to go to her house and ask her what's been going on !! He tells me she thought she was the only one too !!
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