Rio Ferdinand: Being mum and dad.

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susanq

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638 posts

175 months

Tuesday 28th March 2017
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On now, BBC1. Documentary about how he's coping following the premature death of his wife. cry

SydneyBridge

8,592 posts

158 months

Tuesday 28th March 2017
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Heartbreaking
Sure he would give up every penny he ever earned to have his wife back
Huge credit to him for the programme

RedWhiteMonkey

6,850 posts

182 months

Tuesday 28th March 2017
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The poor bloke who lost his wife and kid, how the hell do you keep going?

Phil Dicky

7,162 posts

263 months

Tuesday 28th March 2017
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SydneyBridge said:
Heartbreaking
Sure he would give up every penny he ever earned to have his wife back
Huge credit to him for the programme
Watching it myself, massive credit to the bloke.

Randy Winkman

16,130 posts

189 months

Tuesday 28th March 2017
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Really first class programme.

bigandclever

13,787 posts

238 months

Tuesday 28th March 2017
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Great tv. I hope he got what he wants out of it.

citizensm1th

8,371 posts

137 months

Tuesday 28th March 2017
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good old bbc, superb program.

full marks to RF to open up like that to the general public ,im sure more than a few widowers feel less alone tonight

Granfondo

12,241 posts

206 months

Tuesday 28th March 2017
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Lump in the throat!

checkmate91

851 posts

173 months

Tuesday 28th March 2017
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Was hard to watch, his mother was quite choked up too. Some of us (especially men who are quite bad at it ) need to learn to have a good old cry

Zad

12,699 posts

236 months

Wednesday 29th March 2017
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I will be watching this later. My mum died on Saturday. While I'm not 10 years old, dad is still dad, and I'm still their child. Obviously there are major differences due to age, but I'm open to any help that comes my way. Getting the bottle to watch it though is difficult right now...

However, I did catch part of a very good Radio 4 programme today on the same subject. Anyone interested can hear it here: http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b08k19r8


susanq

Original Poster:

638 posts

175 months

Wednesday 29th March 2017
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Sorry to hear that, Zad. Please accept my condolences.

Pieman68

4,264 posts

234 months

Wednesday 29th March 2017
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Watched this with my wife and stepson last night. She lost her mum 18 months ago, and the lad was very close to his Grandma.

It was very raw and very close to the feelings in our house at times. I commented last night how brave it was of him to open himself up in such a way when his background is in such a "macho" world. He just came across as a decent guy trying to do his best for his kids. Just goes to show that money cannot guarantee anything in life

I am not particularly a follower of football, as rugby is my thing, but I gained a lot of respect for Rio from watching this last night!

GTO-3R

7,479 posts

213 months

Wednesday 29th March 2017
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Fantastic yet heartbreaking programme and huge respect to Rio for doing it. I hope it raises awareness to others in the same position.


STe_rsv4

657 posts

98 months

Wednesday 29th March 2017
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Excellent program, genuinly had me rubbing the dust from my eye, although as harsh as it sounds, at least Rio has the comfort of a few million quid to help his financial side of looking after the kids. I dont mean that as a negative and fair play to the guy for making the money he has, but just think about the "normal" guy that this has happenend to and the strain it must put on them having to raise the kids / do the day job.
pretty much a similar situation at the place I work - guy lost his wife in a sudden accident and left him looking after his 3 kids. He had a year off and is back working. Gotta respect the way he has came through it and came back, hats off to him.

ArtyP

28 posts

94 months

Wednesday 29th March 2017
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As a bloke whose just lost his partner (not married) to the big C, and now finds himself with three stepchildren (late teen/early twenties), i found it a difficult and thought provoking watch, although the top trumps comments made me smile, well done to Rio and his family for discussing what can be an intensely private topic so openly

chrisb92

1,051 posts

124 months

Wednesday 29th March 2017
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Really good programme. Rio was someone I always looked up to as he was in his prime for United when I was growing up, so it's awful to see what's happened to him. Massive respect for him for doing it as others have said. It took a lot of bravery.

I think that is the first time ever that both me and my dad have shed a tear at the same programme.

Justin S

3,641 posts

261 months

Wednesday 29th March 2017
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Total respect for Rio. Was a real heart breaking programme to watch . My daughters boyfriend lost his mother at a very early age and was brought up by his step father and it has shed a different light on what he and his step dad must have gone through. Total admiration on the way it was shown and yes, the room was very dusty in our house last night. I always thought of him as a nice guy , as I believe he puts a lot of money into inner town youth projects from the days when he was a lad . But money doesnt bring back the one he adored. As for people saying about having money, there is a 'system' to help bereaved family members that does help you and from what I read Rio was trying to push for changes again to it.

Tuvra

7,921 posts

225 months

Wednesday 29th March 2017
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Pieman68 said:
Watched this with my wife and stepson last night. She lost her mum 18 months ago, and the lad was very close to his Grandma.

It was very raw and very close to the feelings in our house at times. I commented last night how brave it was of him to open himself up in such a way when his background is in such a "macho" world. He just came across as a decent guy trying to do his best for his kids. Just goes to show that money cannot guarantee anything in life

I am not particularly a follower of football, as rugby is my thing, but I gained a lot of respect for Rio from watching this last night!
I always cringe inside when people slate footballers as some kind of lesser class, yes, they earn lots of money, yes, some of them (not all of them) have poor taste in cars and yes, they earn more than most of us can ever begin to imagine, but so what? They were born with a natural gift and are suitably rewarded for their hard work, dedication and given talent. Footballers are human beings, their money does not make them any different from you or I, they bleed, they hurt and they lose those they love dearly, as Rio's story shows frown

I haven't seen the program yet but I will be watching it later, probably with a tear in the eye. I've always been a fan of Rio.

JiggyJaggy

1,451 posts

140 months

Wednesday 29th March 2017
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Always had a soft spot for Rio, seems a real lads lad. Just watched this tear jerker. Love the Top Trumps moment as well as the "jars" moment. Really great watch for the wrong reasons but was really well put together and no doubt will give a lot of people the confidence to open up.

J4CKO

41,543 posts

200 months

Wednesday 29th March 2017
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Didnt see the programme but his kids went to the same one mine did, nobody had a bad word to say about him.