Family and BF all don't want me to go biking..
Discussion
CarlizzleFoSho said:
RemaL said:
+3
How old are you OP?
if your over 18 you can do what you want. Your not married so it's not like you need get their view on this before you learn to ride.
Yeh I'm 26. Not married and we don't plan to be (we both don't really believe in it). I guess I just hate upsetting people or thinking they're worried about me all the time. At the same time, there's been hobbies he's done which have taken up loads of time....I expressed negativity but never said to stop it as I knew he wouldn't. Admittedly these hobbies aren't as dangerous.How old are you OP?
if your over 18 you can do what you want. Your not married so it's not like you need get their view on this before you learn to ride.
He's a worrier and I would worry too if he got a bike. HOWEVER, hand on my heart I'd say "Look after yourself, don't drive like a dick & do what makes you happy." Relationships are important but at the end of the day a strong one is where you let each other follow a life path they want to take. Whatever that may be.
I'm not asking to do the bloody Isle of Man TT!
People who love you will not stop you doing things you love. or they should not.
I would take more advice from people/family/friends who ride. if your BF and family do not ride then they really don't know what they are talking about.
best advice I can say is do your CBT/DAS. if it's for you then you will love it. if not then you don't need to keep riding.
My dad was seriously hurt on a bike long before I was born so getting a bike didn't go down well with her.
But I still got one and continue to ride many years later.
It's natural for someone who loves you to worry but you just reassure them as best you can, you shouldn't not go riding.
The thing that brought that point home was I went out on my bike with my wife for a spin. We went further than we thought, stopped for lunch and got home much later than planned. When I walked into the house my youngest teenage daughter burst into tears.
So, do your test, buy your bike but understand how some people are going to worry.
I bloody love both the Moto Guzzi and the Triumph! I've got a friend with a Triumph cafe racer who said they're a bit uncomfortable, but my god they sound a look stunning.
Indeed, my O/H in fact had a very very bad car crash before I knew him. Going way too fast and only escaped death due to hitting a caravan in a lay by and not a concrete wall.
Just got to buy some motorbike boots and then I can do the CBT! Can't wait
Indeed, my O/H in fact had a very very bad car crash before I knew him. Going way too fast and only escaped death due to hitting a caravan in a lay by and not a concrete wall.
Just got to buy some motorbike boots and then I can do the CBT! Can't wait
It was completely different for me. There was little to no resistance from the missus when I decided to start riding.
I got a little bit worried when she repeatedly asked me to run errands on my bike. She said 'because it used less fuel'. I suspect it was more to do with my life insurance
I got a little bit worried when she repeatedly asked me to run errands on my bike. She said 'because it used less fuel'. I suspect it was more to do with my life insurance
I've had mates have big accidents in cars and on bikes (I've had a big crash in a car already). Life is dangerous so if you fancy it go for it.
I decided to go for mine when I was 25, got my CBT and a little Suzi GS125 to test the water... Liked it so much I have a little GS500 and a full license . Family were a little unimpressed but they no full well if I want to drive/ride something I'll give it a go. The girlfriend just wants to know when I'll revoke my 'no pillion' rule so she can come out with me!
I decided to go for mine when I was 25, got my CBT and a little Suzi GS125 to test the water... Liked it so much I have a little GS500 and a full license . Family were a little unimpressed but they no full well if I want to drive/ride something I'll give it a go. The girlfriend just wants to know when I'll revoke my 'no pillion' rule so she can come out with me!
Yeh I'm starting to think that, some have said just hop on a big bike. Personally I think psychologically it would work better for me if I did the cbt, got a 125 for a few months or a year then do the DAS.
Mentally I'd feel better prepared than hopping straight on a big bike! Even though the one I'm looking at is fairly tame (Yamaha xv950). At least the 125 could be used as a deposit!
Mentally I'd feel better prepared than hopping straight on a big bike! Even though the one I'm looking at is fairly tame (Yamaha xv950). At least the 125 could be used as a deposit!
A 950 is still a hulluva step up from a 125. My 500 is A2 compliant but still a noticeable difference (jumped back on my 125 earlier and it felt like a toy!)
I started a thread last year about starting out and alot of the regulars on here gave some brilliant advice (along with some of the usual stick )
http://www.pistonheads.com/gassing/topic.asp?h=0&a...
I started a thread last year about starting out and alot of the regulars on here gave some brilliant advice (along with some of the usual stick )
http://www.pistonheads.com/gassing/topic.asp?h=0&a...
CarlizzleFoSho said:
Do you reckon it's best to do a cbt, learn the ropes on a 125 for a year and then take a DAS and get a big bike?
Yes. At least, that's what I did and it worked well for me. U turns didn't come naturally, but after nearly a year of practice I could finally do them Then did my test and was restricted to 33bhp for 2 years, which was frustrating at times but probably saved me from disaster (ham fisted acceleration in the rain, heavy footed panic braking) had I had more power. It was for the best!
So it depends on how much confidence you have and whether you'll be able to keep your adrenaline urges in line with your ability level.
I was told the Yamaha 950r is quite 'beginner friendly'. V twin, 55bhp 950cc loads of low down torque. I do definitely want one, but in my heart of hearts I feel like it makes sense to learn the ropes on something lesser like a 125cc. Then I wouldn't think, st what if I drop it or give it too many beans!
I was in a similar position to you.
Parents are against it, missus was unsure on it, friends reckoning I will die.
I cracked on with it, sorted out decent life insurance and medical care, and committed to the CBT and DAS.
Several months in now; riding a zx6r, no issues or complaints. I simply just ride sensibly, I've no interest in power or knee down, I'll save that for the track.
I am granted a fair weather weekend warrior, or evening after 730pm ; )
I say communicate with the other half, explain that you want to do it, my missus luckily is rather forgiving and let's me crack on with what I want, however it's give and take.
Parents are against it, missus was unsure on it, friends reckoning I will die.
I cracked on with it, sorted out decent life insurance and medical care, and committed to the CBT and DAS.
Several months in now; riding a zx6r, no issues or complaints. I simply just ride sensibly, I've no interest in power or knee down, I'll save that for the track.
I am granted a fair weather weekend warrior, or evening after 730pm ; )
I say communicate with the other half, explain that you want to do it, my missus luckily is rather forgiving and let's me crack on with what I want, however it's give and take.
CarlizzleFoSho said:
I was told the Yamaha 950r is quite 'beginner friendly'. V twin, 55bhp 950cc loads of low down torque. I do definitely want one, but in my heart of hearts I feel like it makes sense to learn the ropes on something lesser like a 125cc. Then I wouldn't think, st what if I drop it or give it too many beans!
I had a XV950 as a loan bike recently while the CB1300 was getting serviced. They're not a scary bike in the slightest, all the power is smooth and pretty low down and unless you're a complete muppet giving it 'too many beans' isn't really a risk.
In fact I was quite surprised to find out it was a 950 when I looked at the key fob as the engine size isn't displayed on the bike.
They handle quite well for the style of bike though and I had quite an enjoyable run. I think if you like that style you could do a lot worse for a first bike.
I was happy to get the Honda back though!
I'd go for direct access, bigger bikes are easier to ride.
It really irritates me when people who've never had or rode a bike tell me how dangerous they are.
The brakes never fade, you can put yourself in a better road position, you have better vision, you control the bike. If you don't know the roads then ride to your ability.
On Feb 4th this year I lost my best friend to a brain tumour - He was an ultra endurance athlete and had completed double marathons - He was 40 years old - When I sat in the hospice I realised how many 'young' and 'old' folk were seeing their days out.
The reason I say this do what 'YOU' want - I commute to Surrey daily on my VFR and see nothing but car crashes, car/lorry fires, roof being cut from a car on the M40 last month.
Life's a risk, playing sports a risk, but I'd rather have risk than be someone who talks other people out of what they wanna do.
The week after my mate died I missed a flight to Murcia (Spain) to see BSB testing, I couldn't get another flight and wanted to go so I decided to ride the bike - Northants to Spain (1400 miles) - The 'car' drivers at work - Said "That's a long way to go on a bike" - How clueless is that?
Going over the French Pyrnees at 530 in the morning - Grinning, laughing.
Bikes are a way of life, these people who talk you out of them haven't rode one or don't have them in their blood.
I lost a friend to a bike accident, I lost a friend to cancer and I've lost two through car accidents. Its statistics - Enjoy your life do what you want.
The brakes never fade, you can put yourself in a better road position, you have better vision, you control the bike. If you don't know the roads then ride to your ability.
On Feb 4th this year I lost my best friend to a brain tumour - He was an ultra endurance athlete and had completed double marathons - He was 40 years old - When I sat in the hospice I realised how many 'young' and 'old' folk were seeing their days out.
The reason I say this do what 'YOU' want - I commute to Surrey daily on my VFR and see nothing but car crashes, car/lorry fires, roof being cut from a car on the M40 last month.
Life's a risk, playing sports a risk, but I'd rather have risk than be someone who talks other people out of what they wanna do.
The week after my mate died I missed a flight to Murcia (Spain) to see BSB testing, I couldn't get another flight and wanted to go so I decided to ride the bike - Northants to Spain (1400 miles) - The 'car' drivers at work - Said "That's a long way to go on a bike" - How clueless is that?
Going over the French Pyrnees at 530 in the morning - Grinning, laughing.
Bikes are a way of life, these people who talk you out of them haven't rode one or don't have them in their blood.
I lost a friend to a bike accident, I lost a friend to cancer and I've lost two through car accidents. Its statistics - Enjoy your life do what you want.
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