Family and BF all don't want me to go biking..
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MotorsportTom said:
In short, Life is too short.
Long, my mum was against me having a bike. I just kept telling her I was goinf to get one up until the point I got one and through that time she began to accept it. Still doesn't like it and worries but she see's how happy it makes me.
My most recent ex hated bikes and so did her family after her uncle was killed on one.
From day 1 I told her bikes were the most important thing to me and she understood.. i think.
I expect with the mileage I do at some point I'll have a crash/accident on the roadz but I just hope it won't hurt too much.
If you can't accept that don't do it but really from the sounds of your mileage the risk will be reduced.
Probably no less dangerous than karting I expect.
If your boyf wanted to start a new hobby you didn't agree with but it made him happy would you stop him?
Just get it done!
Hell no I wouldn't! If he went out on a bike I think it's natural if you care for someone that you'd worry. Hand on heart I wouldn't stop him doing it because I'd feel that's just not fair on the life path he wants to choose, it's up to him.Long, my mum was against me having a bike. I just kept telling her I was goinf to get one up until the point I got one and through that time she began to accept it. Still doesn't like it and worries but she see's how happy it makes me.
My most recent ex hated bikes and so did her family after her uncle was killed on one.
From day 1 I told her bikes were the most important thing to me and she understood.. i think.
I expect with the mileage I do at some point I'll have a crash/accident on the roadz but I just hope it won't hurt too much.
If you can't accept that don't do it but really from the sounds of your mileage the risk will be reduced.
Probably no less dangerous than karting I expect.
If your boyf wanted to start a new hobby you didn't agree with but it made him happy would you stop him?
Just get it done!
I think if he was a massive peteolhead like me he'd understand why I want to do it so much. Instead he's pretty sure I'll die before my 27th birthday and It's a selfish act. Because he hated two wheels so much I dont think he gets why I enjoyed it.
It may have to just be a case of doing it and hoping I don't get dumped over it lol. Ah what a b
h.Mothers don't like bikes.
Recent (ish) ex-GF didn't want me to start riding and even now gives me grief about it.
The ex-wife is probably the only adult that is happy for my to ride.
My only concern is that if something awful happens my daughter will be brought up without a proper parent. Which does scare the absolute st out of me at times, particularly as I will really need to be there for her as she gets older.
Recent (ish) ex-GF didn't want me to start riding and even now gives me grief about it.
The ex-wife is probably the only adult that is happy for my to ride.
My only concern is that if something awful happens my daughter will be brought up without a proper parent. Which does scare the absolute s
t out of me at times, particularly as I will really need to be there for her as she gets older.CarlizzleFoSho said:
Hell no I wouldn't! If he went out on a bike I think it's natural if you care for someone that you'd worry. Hand on heart I wouldn't stop him doing it because I'd feel that's just not fair on the life path he wants to choose, it's up to him.
I think if he was a massive peteolhead like me he'd understand why I want to do it so much. Instead he's pretty sure I'll die before my 27th birthday and It's a selfish act. Because he hated two wheels so much I dont think he gets why I enjoyed it.
It may have to just be a case of doing it and hoping I don't get dumped over it lol. Ah what a bh.
In that case explain that and if he still doesn't understand tell him to get fI think if he was a massive peteolhead like me he'd understand why I want to do it so much. Instead he's pretty sure I'll die before my 27th birthday and It's a selfish act. Because he hated two wheels so much I dont think he gets why I enjoyed it.
It may have to just be a case of doing it and hoping I don't get dumped over it lol. Ah what a b
h.kedAlso him being sure you'll die early sounds like he has a lack of faith in your ability, kick him in the nads for that alone.
If you get dumped then look on the bright side, you'll have a bike to go to bike meets on and you'll be sure there's plenty of like minded guys to replace him with
Best of luck with the tests etc
MotorsportTom said:
If you get dumped then look on the bright side, you'll have a bike to go to bike meets on and you'll be sure there's plenty of like minded guys to replace him with
Best of luck with the tests etc
Haha! Ain't that the truth! Good way of thinking if it. My parents are more accepting of it than he is, I think they know me well enough to know whatever they say I'll do it anyway.Best of luck with the tests etc
MotorsportTom said:
If you get dumped then look on the bright side, you'll have a bike to go to bike meets on and you'll be sure there's plenty of like minded guys to replace him with
& you don't think that's a major concern for him anyway? I think we need a pic of the OP in leathers so that we can decide. Face doesn't need to be shown, but a head down arse up sports bike pose will be necessary.When I first got a bike in the UK I had the usual friends telling me I would get killed, wife not overly impressed. But she didn't stop me because I'm not an idiot, and she trusts me not to be stupid. I also noticed the large amounts of oaps who seem to be at every biker spot, they seem to have survived?
I now have 2 young children too, and every time I put my helmet on for a ride I think about the responsibility I have to them, so I don't take silly risks, if I'm not sure about a manoeuvre I leave it, but still ride and enjoy it.
I'd recommend advanced riding courses as they will teach you that you can ride on public roads safely, it's not inevitable that you will have an accident, only the ignorant think that.
With respect to your BF and family, they should respect your decision and trust that you are responsible enough to make your own choices. Good luck.
I now have 2 young children too, and every time I put my helmet on for a ride I think about the responsibility I have to them, so I don't take silly risks, if I'm not sure about a manoeuvre I leave it, but still ride and enjoy it.
I'd recommend advanced riding courses as they will teach you that you can ride on public roads safely, it's not inevitable that you will have an accident, only the ignorant think that.
With respect to your BF and family, they should respect your decision and trust that you are responsible enough to make your own choices. Good luck.
I think I've just got to accept the fact that very few people will ever be over the moon with the decision to ride a motorbike. Hopefully that will change.
One thing though, I've been advised that at my age (26) I'm better off doing cbt, then full test then get a big bike. Wouldn't it be better to do a cbt and gain experience on a 125 first than get the bike of my dreams straight up?
One thing though, I've been advised that at my age (26) I'm better off doing cbt, then full test then get a big bike. Wouldn't it be better to do a cbt and gain experience on a 125 first than get the bike of my dreams straight up?
CarlizzleFoSho said:
I think I've just got to accept the fact that very few people will ever be over the moon with the decision to ride a motorbike. Hopefully that will change.
One thing though, I've been advised that at my age (26) I'm better off doing cbt, then full test then get a big bike. Wouldn't it be better to do a cbt and gain experience on a 125 first than get the bike of my dreams straight up?
I went straight onto a 600 and it was fine, it was far from the bike of my dreams but it did the job. One thing though, I've been advised that at my age (26) I'm better off doing cbt, then full test then get a big bike. Wouldn't it be better to do a cbt and gain experience on a 125 first than get the bike of my dreams straight up?
If I had bought a 125 I'd have been bored incredibly quickly and it wouldn't be suited to my commute in the slightest.
Sure riding a 125 will give you experience on a bike that isn't intimidating and is forgiving/easy to ride but ultimately you'll get bored quickly, spend more money and have more hassle as opposed to getting on a larger, more comfortable machine.
You'll have fun on whatever you get and it entirely depends on what bike you want to get, i promise you what you want now will differ from what you want after you've passed and starting browsing.
MotorsportTom said:
I went straight onto a 600 and it was fine, it was far from the bike of my dreams but it did the job.
If I had bought a 125 I'd have been bored incredibly quickly and it wouldn't be suited to my commute in the slightest.
Sure riding a 125 will give you experience on a bike that isn't intimidating and is forgiving/easy to ride but ultimately you'll get bored quickly, spend more money and have more hassle as opposed to getting on a larger, more comfortable machine.
You'll have fun on whatever you get and it entirely depends on what bike you want to get, i promise you what you want now will differ from what you want after you've passed and starting browsing.
Do you think it'd be wise to hop on to something like a Yamaha xv950r as a first bike? Or should I get some experience in first on something else?If I had bought a 125 I'd have been bored incredibly quickly and it wouldn't be suited to my commute in the slightest.
Sure riding a 125 will give you experience on a bike that isn't intimidating and is forgiving/easy to ride but ultimately you'll get bored quickly, spend more money and have more hassle as opposed to getting on a larger, more comfortable machine.
You'll have fun on whatever you get and it entirely depends on what bike you want to get, i promise you what you want now will differ from what you want after you've passed and starting browsing.
My cousin kind of said well it's only going to go as fast as you'll let it and the xv950 is quite forgiving. Apparently.
Well I have never ridden that bike and have only ridden one that could be considered cruiser style, apart from the reach to the pegs it was incredibly easy to ride.
It probably has less power than the 600 I had but it'll have a good wedge of torque instead, both of your feet will be able to touch the ground easily and it probably won't make you want to corner hard which is where it's easiest to come unstuck imo.
I have no idea how sensible or not you are so as to whether YOU will be ok on it I don't know, I wouldn't expect you'll have many if any problems with that although is it wise? Well does it matter?
Enjoy the twin vibes
It probably has less power than the 600 I had but it'll have a good wedge of torque instead, both of your feet will be able to touch the ground easily and it probably won't make you want to corner hard which is where it's easiest to come unstuck imo.
I have no idea how sensible or not you are so as to whether YOU will be ok on it I don't know, I wouldn't expect you'll have many if any problems with that although is it wise? Well does it matter?
Enjoy the twin vibes
I was in our local Aprilia dealer taking mine in for its MOT the other day and the owner urged me to have a sit on the Indian Scout (since they are also Indian dealers) and guess the weight. I would have guessed at about 160kg! It felt like a 125, turns out its 255kg but the packaging is so clever it feels superlight. They are about £8k new and beautifully built. Consider one of these as a similar cost to the Yamaha. Indian is owned by Polaris as is Victory, quality is superb.
I have! I'm undecided on the look of it, but like the fact as you say that it's aimed at women. I'm 5'11" so height wise I'm OK. In fact the 125 I was using at the weekend felt kind of awkward, with my legs up I felt way too tall for it.
My only concern is the weight of the bike, I'm strong but not as strong as a bloke (obviously)! So wheeling something in and out of the garage could be tricky. Might just have to take some 'roids.
My only concern is the weight of the bike, I'm strong but not as strong as a bloke (obviously)! So wheeling something in and out of the garage could be tricky. Might just have to take some 'roids.
Unless it falls over you don't have to worry about the weight so much, it's on wheels after all!
Jewelly_Boy said:
Life is too short to be a complete pussy.
Exactly! Man up! (...?)moanthebairns said:
Cruiser. That's it I'm out.
Yup this forum is definitely more sports bike orientated!gwm said:
Yup this forum is definitely more sports bike orientated!
Ahh screw the haters! Each to their own right :P My cousins have all had cruisers and I know they get a st tonne of hate but I've always been a fan. My parents are American Italian so technically I should be on a cruiser or a vespa. Cruiser wins.Gassing Station | Biker Banter | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff