Family and BF all don't want me to go biking..
Discussion
Weird one, basically had a go on a bike today and loved it. Took to it quite quickly too.
Tempted to go do a cbt and all the rest. I've always wanted a bike.
I used to go motor racing and my parents are aware that if I want to do something I will.
However, the long term bf has had a friend die on two wheels, a family member have an amputated leg from it and he had a crash and went to 4 wheels. I don't want to upset anyone but it's something I want to do, (when I have the money).
Really not sure where to go on this one, but looking for advice I suppose. And no I won't dump him :P
Tempted to go do a cbt and all the rest. I've always wanted a bike.
I used to go motor racing and my parents are aware that if I want to do something I will.
However, the long term bf has had a friend die on two wheels, a family member have an amputated leg from it and he had a crash and went to 4 wheels. I don't want to upset anyone but it's something I want to do, (when I have the money).
Really not sure where to go on this one, but looking for advice I suppose. And no I won't dump him :P
I don't think any amount of advice is going to help you, it's something that you'll have to decide for yourself.
My other half hates bikes, I'm not sure why as she hasn't had any of the misfortunes that your family have went through, but she understands that she can't change my mind about them and seems to accept that (reluctantly!)
I would say go for it, but it's not me who has to deal with your family when they are worrying about you
My other half hates bikes, I'm not sure why as she hasn't had any of the misfortunes that your family have went through, but she understands that she can't change my mind about them and seems to accept that (reluctantly!)
I would say go for it, but it's not me who has to deal with your family when they are worrying about you
Your life, you choice.
I can understand their reservations having experienced loss themselves, but in the end it's your own decision and they should respect that.
I've had relatives die from lung cancer, I don't tell my dad not to smoke, it's his choice.
Blunt way of looking at it I suppose..
I can understand their reservations having experienced loss themselves, but in the end it's your own decision and they should respect that.
I've had relatives die from lung cancer, I don't tell my dad not to smoke, it's his choice.
Blunt way of looking at it I suppose..
You all echo my views exactly! My decision would be simple if at least the bf was encouraging about it. Or someone was!
His dad has been riding bikes for 30 years and thinks I should just go for it. When I have the money of course.
I said to the bf that I do want to go for it and will eventually, he just says well I won't be very happy about it when you do. I really don't want you to do it, you'll kill yourself.
It makes me doubt my decision as I don't want to be selfish and upset people but if I died and never did it it'd be a regret.
Sorry I'm turning this into an agony aunt column! I just need to vent. I'm nervous about the risks too, but I hope it'll be worth it.
His dad has been riding bikes for 30 years and thinks I should just go for it. When I have the money of course.
I said to the bf that I do want to go for it and will eventually, he just says well I won't be very happy about it when you do. I really don't want you to do it, you'll kill yourself.
It makes me doubt my decision as I don't want to be selfish and upset people but if I died and never did it it'd be a regret.
Sorry I'm turning this into an agony aunt column! I just need to vent. I'm nervous about the risks too, but I hope it'll be worth it.
Tricky one.
I've lost friends through bikes, but also through cars, unexpected natural causes, suicide and murder.
I found out on Monday morning that a lad I played rugby with this last season died in a bike crash on Sunday age 23, girlfriend and unborn son left behind. Far too young.
I ride a bike, my wife rides a bike, my dad and brother both used to before age/disability stopped them.
We've all had minor accidents (a couple of mine slightly less than minor) but all lived to tell the tale; many others haven't been so lucky.
If we hadn't been riding bikes none of them would have happened, but at the same time you can cycle off the pavement looking the wrong way, pick the wrong wild mushroom for your morning omelette or fall out of a window sleep-walking and end up in a hospital bed, a wheelchair or even a box.
I even know a man who walked out after a passing tram in Krakow, right into the path of the tram going the other way on the track behind it, suffering massive and life-changing head injuries.
Life is full of risk, from crossing the road to base-jumping; you can reduce some of the risks of motorcycling by taking further training, riding a modern well maintained bike, keeping within your limits, wearing the best protective clothing etc etc, but some risk will always remain.
You need to find the level that both you and those around you are willing to accept.
I've lost friends through bikes, but also through cars, unexpected natural causes, suicide and murder.
I found out on Monday morning that a lad I played rugby with this last season died in a bike crash on Sunday age 23, girlfriend and unborn son left behind. Far too young.
I ride a bike, my wife rides a bike, my dad and brother both used to before age/disability stopped them.
We've all had minor accidents (a couple of mine slightly less than minor) but all lived to tell the tale; many others haven't been so lucky.
If we hadn't been riding bikes none of them would have happened, but at the same time you can cycle off the pavement looking the wrong way, pick the wrong wild mushroom for your morning omelette or fall out of a window sleep-walking and end up in a hospital bed, a wheelchair or even a box.
I even know a man who walked out after a passing tram in Krakow, right into the path of the tram going the other way on the track behind it, suffering massive and life-changing head injuries.
Life is full of risk, from crossing the road to base-jumping; you can reduce some of the risks of motorcycling by taking further training, riding a modern well maintained bike, keeping within your limits, wearing the best protective clothing etc etc, but some risk will always remain.
You need to find the level that both you and those around you are willing to accept.
I'd be commuting in my car and more than likely I see the bike as a weekend fairweather kind of thing. Expensive hobby I suppose!
The o/h had a scooter when he was 17 for two years (he's now 28) and got rear ended and said he hated riding it and got a car as soon as he could. I'm a HUGE petrol head and motor racing that I did for 10 years came with its risks too, but now I no longer do it I crave the adrenalin and freedom.
I'd just feel terrible thinking he'd constantly be worrying about me everytime I'd head out, which makes me worry. Just wish he wasn't so anti it.
The o/h had a scooter when he was 17 for two years (he's now 28) and got rear ended and said he hated riding it and got a car as soon as he could. I'm a HUGE petrol head and motor racing that I did for 10 years came with its risks too, but now I no longer do it I crave the adrenalin and freedom.
I'd just feel terrible thinking he'd constantly be worrying about me everytime I'd head out, which makes me worry. Just wish he wasn't so anti it.
Statisticly fatty foods, drink and fags kill more people than bikes. then it's sharks, vending machines, pen tips and Mrs brown marathons.
A) tell your boyfriend to stop being such a queer hawk and get one
Or
B) talk it over some more with complete strangers who you nothing about other than they all like bikes. Wait for a reasoned opinion from everyone who posts that has a bike to help you even more.
While your at it go to your local church and ask Christians if there is a god
That really is how stupid it is asking on here
A) tell your boyfriend to stop being such a queer hawk and get one
Or
B) talk it over some more with complete strangers who you nothing about other than they all like bikes. Wait for a reasoned opinion from everyone who posts that has a bike to help you even more.
While your at it go to your local church and ask Christians if there is a god
That really is how stupid it is asking on here
CarlizzleFoSho said:
Thanks for your blunt opinion. However I was just looking for other people's personal experiences, but yours was amusing..even if that wasn't your intention.
MTB makes a valid point though. Asking here whether you should get a bike is like going to Church and asking if there's a God.The real question however, is how are you and the OH going to manage you heading out for half a day riding?? Somehow I doubt he'll be keen to be jumping on the back....
bass gt3 said:
MTB makes a valid point though. Asking here whether you should get a bike is like going to Church and asking if there's a God.
The real question however, is how are you and the OH going to manage you heading out for half a day riding?? Somehow I doubt he'll be keen to be jumping on the back....
Good point, I can't say I really have given it that much thought. I can't imagine he'd have an issue with it as he plays golf most weekends on either the Sat or Sun, so I wouldn't feel too guilty about it.The real question however, is how are you and the OH going to manage you heading out for half a day riding?? Somehow I doubt he'll be keen to be jumping on the back....
I understand both your points of view, and I agree. I guess I just needed to know whether this is unusual.
Need some time to think long and hard about it!
CarlizzleFoSho said:
Good point, I can't say I really have that much thought. I can't imagine he'd have an issue with it as he plays golf most weekends on either the Sat or Sun, so I wouldn't feel too guilty about it.
I understand both your points of view, and I agree. I guess I just needed to know whether this is unusual.
Need some time to think long and hard about it!
Only you can decide. It might be that the second time you're caught in the cold or wet you decide that's enough, or, like most here, once you're off there'll be no turning back.I understand both your points of view, and I agree. I guess I just needed to know whether this is unusual.
Need some time to think long and hard about it!
So if the OH is Golfing, you can go hang around overweight men in unfeasibly tight leathers, or guys in flip up lids, textiles and a bad case of Adenoids.
Suddenly, Golf seems appealing hey ??
Doesn't take much thinking does it? If you want to do then do it. Life is too short.
I've a couple of serious accidents (coma, broken bones etc) but I still ride. Some of my family aren't big biking fans but they can like it or lump it. I like riding bikes so that's what I'm going to do.
Selfish? Pehaps it is a little but my life is for me to do the things I want to do.
I've a couple of serious accidents (coma, broken bones etc) but I still ride. Some of my family aren't big biking fans but they can like it or lump it. I like riding bikes so that's what I'm going to do.
Selfish? Pehaps it is a little but my life is for me to do the things I want to do.
I bought myself a scooter at 16 having worked all summer after I finished school. No one in the family encouraged it, some were indifferent, others loathed the idea. I think that helped me out in the long run as they couldn't wait to get me off it and into a car 
My dad (who I don't and haven't seen since age 7) broke his back when I was a toddler having come off on a test ride, hence much of the dismay.
So at 21 I returned the favour and did the DAS despite more moaning from family about two wheels. I love bikes, it's a great summer hobby and I've got the option for commuting to work.
My dad (who I don't and haven't seen since age 7) broke his back when I was a toddler having come off on a test ride, hence much of the dismay. So at 21 I returned the favour and did the DAS despite more moaning from family about two wheels. I love bikes, it's a great summer hobby and I've got the option for commuting to work.
I think of this from 24 hrs in A&E http://www.thisislocallondon.co.uk/whereilive/sout...amazingSt_George_s_Hospital_staff/?ref=rss
Very good episode if you can see it
And i have a very good pal wheelchair bound and in pain with a broken back for
the last 10 years since he came off his bike.
To level it up i know a biker still biking with no issues after 25 years.
From a previous job attending accidents which involved bikes, most came off pretty badly sometimes even wearing all the gear.
Very good episode if you can see it
And i have a very good pal wheelchair bound and in pain with a broken back for
the last 10 years since he came off his bike.
To level it up i know a biker still biking with no issues after 25 years.
From a previous job attending accidents which involved bikes, most came off pretty badly sometimes even wearing all the gear.
Hi, my first post here, so Hello everyone
This thread struck a chord. Like most people have said, it's your decision but always useful to see what other people have experienced and how they dealt with it.
My family and husband were against me getting a bike but I had a yearning for one, which I tried to justify by saying that it was only a 125 for short trips round the lanes, better than using my diesel car, not like I was going to commute or anything...
Fast forward two years by which time I had 2 sports bikes, was commuting on the motorways, riding across Wales at the weekends and addicted to trackdays.
I had near misses (most my own fault), other times the bike kept me sane in really bad times.
Then I had a family and now riding a bike is more of a moral issue for me (and endless fodder for the anti-bike-ists!). Riding at the weekend for no good reason other than my own fun seems like the wrong thing to do now. There are other sources of fun to be had. I desperately miss biking but I'm more risk averse now. So I'm quitting while my luck's in and selling my road bike.
Not saying any of this is right, just my story.
Why not try a cbt, see how you feel after that?
This thread struck a chord. Like most people have said, it's your decision but always useful to see what other people have experienced and how they dealt with it.
My family and husband were against me getting a bike but I had a yearning for one, which I tried to justify by saying that it was only a 125 for short trips round the lanes, better than using my diesel car, not like I was going to commute or anything...
Fast forward two years by which time I had 2 sports bikes, was commuting on the motorways, riding across Wales at the weekends and addicted to trackdays.
I had near misses (most my own fault), other times the bike kept me sane in really bad times.
Then I had a family and now riding a bike is more of a moral issue for me (and endless fodder for the anti-bike-ists!). Riding at the weekend for no good reason other than my own fun seems like the wrong thing to do now. There are other sources of fun to be had. I desperately miss biking but I'm more risk averse now. So I'm quitting while my luck's in and selling my road bike.
Not saying any of this is right, just my story.
Why not try a cbt, see how you feel after that?
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