Evil angry ex...
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Just wanted your thoughts on how I should deal with an ex girlfriend whom I split up with just after this past January (10 month relationship). I know there's no good time
to split but the relationship was at a dead end. We even spent Xmas + New Year and had a nice time knowing that we would part ways in a nice way. We were both quite
adult about things and she seemed to be ok to go our separate ways at the time or so I thought...
In the last week or so, I've been getting phone calls from her asking how I was etc, whether I was seeing anyone. The conversation was polite at first but then she started
to sound very angry and started to get an absolute earbashing - I did hang up a couple of times and tried to tell her that it's not a good idea to remain in contact and will
be changing my number.
Then she started shouting over the phone and threaten to make my life hell for how I've treated her which I had taken aback as it was her instability which caused me
to end our relationship. She started going on about all the 'wrongs' I've done in the last 10 months, etc.
To make matters worse, she says that she will do things to make my life hell by threatening to damage my car etc. That I can go to the Police should the worse happens but
then she said I wanted to end the relationship so I can date a younger girl than her (she is in her mid 30's).
Now obviously a bloke thinking that is nothing wrong but what has made me sick to the stomach was when she starts making false acusation that I'm into 'younger girls' and would
find out where I work and write a letter to my employers making false acusations just to make my life hell.
I'm quite disturbed that people would stoop that low - I'm quite disgusted someone would consider doing that to another person. My work colleagues knows that
we had our ups and downs and most of them thought it was wise to get rid of her because of her bunny boiling traits. I thought I did the right thing by moving on but
now I get this
Not sure what to do? Is this a matter for the Police?
to split but the relationship was at a dead end. We even spent Xmas + New Year and had a nice time knowing that we would part ways in a nice way. We were both quite
adult about things and she seemed to be ok to go our separate ways at the time or so I thought...
In the last week or so, I've been getting phone calls from her asking how I was etc, whether I was seeing anyone. The conversation was polite at first but then she started
to sound very angry and started to get an absolute earbashing - I did hang up a couple of times and tried to tell her that it's not a good idea to remain in contact and will
be changing my number.
Then she started shouting over the phone and threaten to make my life hell for how I've treated her which I had taken aback as it was her instability which caused me
to end our relationship. She started going on about all the 'wrongs' I've done in the last 10 months, etc.
To make matters worse, she says that she will do things to make my life hell by threatening to damage my car etc. That I can go to the Police should the worse happens but
then she said I wanted to end the relationship so I can date a younger girl than her (she is in her mid 30's).
Now obviously a bloke thinking that is nothing wrong but what has made me sick to the stomach was when she starts making false acusation that I'm into 'younger girls' and would
find out where I work and write a letter to my employers making false acusations just to make my life hell.
I'm quite disturbed that people would stoop that low - I'm quite disgusted someone would consider doing that to another person. My work colleagues knows that
we had our ups and downs and most of them thought it was wise to get rid of her because of her bunny boiling traits. I thought I did the right thing by moving on but
now I get this
Not sure what to do? Is this a matter for the Police?
You can try and report it to the Police as harassment if you've had a couple of calls from her. Do you want her arresting? Do you want her spoken to and warned off by the POlice? How far are you prepared to go - Court?
Practically, you need to stop answering her calls/texts/letters. Do not delete them in case they are needed later. If you get a letter, keep the envelope too. make a note in a diary of every single call/text etc - time, date and content. Write them down while they are fresh in your mind.
With regard to your employer, depending on how big the company, speak to your line manager/boss/HR, and forewarn them they mey get "a letter" fom your ex.
Practically, you need to stop answering her calls/texts/letters. Do not delete them in case they are needed later. If you get a letter, keep the envelope too. make a note in a diary of every single call/text etc - time, date and content. Write them down while they are fresh in your mind.
With regard to your employer, depending on how big the company, speak to your line manager/boss/HR, and forewarn them they mey get "a letter" fom your ex.
or the sort that still attend School?Hell have no fury like a woman scorned..........!
I would warn her that you are going to the police as a last ditched attempt for her to see the error of her ways but even if you did go to the police they prob won't be able to do anything until she starts causing physical damage; hope she sees sense for your sake.
How did you manage to date someone for so long without them knowing where you work? hardly sounds like a serious relationship?
I would warn her that you are going to the police as a last ditched attempt for her to see the error of her ways but even if you did go to the police they prob won't be able to do anything until she starts causing physical damage; hope she sees sense for your sake.
How did you manage to date someone for so long without them knowing where you work? hardly sounds like a serious relationship?
Dibble said:
You can try and report it to the Police as harassment if you've had a couple of calls from her. Do you want her arresting? Do you want her spoken to and warned off by the POlice? How far are you prepared to go - Court?
Practically, you need to stop answering her calls/texts/letters. Do not delete them in case they are needed later. If you get a letter, keep the envelope too. make a note in a diary of every single call/text etc - time, date and content. Write them down while they are fresh in your mind.
With regard to your employer, depending on how big the company, speak to your line manager/boss/HR, and forewarn them they mey get "a letter" fom your ex.
I'm thinking about reporting it to the Police and speaking to my line manager but not sure if my work can do anything really. I do get on quite well with my boss though.Practically, you need to stop answering her calls/texts/letters. Do not delete them in case they are needed later. If you get a letter, keep the envelope too. make a note in a diary of every single call/text etc - time, date and content. Write them down while they are fresh in your mind.
With regard to your employer, depending on how big the company, speak to your line manager/boss/HR, and forewarn them they mey get "a letter" fom your ex.
amare32 said:
I'm thinking about reporting it to the Police and speaking to my line manager but not sure if my work can do anything really. I do get on quite well with my boss though.
It's more a case of letting work know it's a baseless accusation - forewarned is forearmed. Imagine the tittle tattle if a letter arrives about "Pervy amare32", and gets discussed by the girls in HR...Er radical I know but how about talking to her.
Phone her back, ask to meet up for a drink, ask her in an adult fashion what is the problem, tell her your side of where it all went wrong.
I would guess that she doesn't understand why it ended, and therefore is lashing out.
Lance the boil before it really festers... ffs man up and go a talk to her.
As for people suggesting the police, what is that all about, Bet they love those calls. "hi my ex got pissed up a few days ago and said she'd do something really really bad to me, can you help me ?"
"No problem sir, if its that serious I'll just call Jack Reagan."
Talk to her..... sober and in an adult calm way
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