Match.com (Volume 5)
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Ha well not sure I fit in with this thread...
Went on my first date since splitting up with my wife (before xmas) last night. The lady was nice, not quite what I expected, but I didn't really feel it. Today I messaged politely, to say I wasn't keen and now feel really bad about that!
I am sure this is the game, and part of the rules of engagement.
It was a bizarre evening - I kept finding myself giving anecdotes, that [I knew] were mainly about stuff I've done over the last 10 years with my wife ffs.
Part of the learning curve?
How people have a few on the go at once blows my mind ATM!
Went on my first date since splitting up with my wife (before xmas) last night. The lady was nice, not quite what I expected, but I didn't really feel it. Today I messaged politely, to say I wasn't keen and now feel really bad about that!
I am sure this is the game, and part of the rules of engagement.
It was a bizarre evening - I kept finding myself giving anecdotes, that [I knew] were mainly about stuff I've done over the last 10 years with my wife ffs.
Part of the learning curve?
How people have a few on the go at once blows my mind ATM!
Glade said:
Ha well not sure I fit in with this thread...
Went on my first date since splitting up with my wife (before xmas) last night. The lady was nice, not quite what I expected, but I didn't really feel it. Today I messaged politely, to say I wasn't keen and now feel really bad about that!
I am sure this is the game, and part of the rules of engagement.
It was a bizarre evening - I kept finding myself giving anecdotes, that [I knew] were mainly about stuff I've done over the last 10 years with my wife ffs.
Part of the learning curve?
How people have a few on the go at once blows my mind ATM!
The key may well be ATM. Went on my first date since splitting up with my wife (before xmas) last night. The lady was nice, not quite what I expected, but I didn't really feel it. Today I messaged politely, to say I wasn't keen and now feel really bad about that!
I am sure this is the game, and part of the rules of engagement.
It was a bizarre evening - I kept finding myself giving anecdotes, that [I knew] were mainly about stuff I've done over the last 10 years with my wife ffs.
Part of the learning curve?
How people have a few on the go at once blows my mind ATM!
With practice you will be able to keep a few on the go.
Oh and, unless you have another on the go, don't send thanks but no thanks texts. You just never know when you might get the urge.
In what way wasn't she what you expected? And font worry too much about stuff you've done previously, as long as you don't come across as bitter or wistful it's what made you what you are.
Get stuck in fella.
Thankyou4calling said:
Oh and, unless you have another on the go, don't send thanks but no thanks texts. You just never know when you might get the urge.
Do not listen to this 'advice'. Any woman with half a brain can smell a Serial Dater like a fart in a car.Just be yourself and take things slowly.
It will feel strange at first talking about the past however many x years while someone was a big part of your life. Anyone a similar age will likely have some 'history' too.
How they talk about their ex can be very revealing. If they carp on about them all the time - even in a negative way - they're clearly not over them.
Mobile Chicane said:
Thankyou4calling said:
Oh and, unless you have another on the go, don't send thanks but no thanks texts. You just never know when you might get the urge.
Do not listen to this 'advice'. Any woman with half a brain can smell a Serial Dater like a fart in a car.Just be yourself and take things slowly.
It will feel strange at first talking about the past however many x years while someone was a big part of your life. Anyone a similar age will likely have some 'history' too.
How they talk about their ex can be very revealing. If they carp on about them all the time - even in a negative way - they're clearly not over them.
I took the kids out today with a good female friend of ours & her son.
She split up with her husband a few months ago & we were chatting about her dating exploits.
She joined a website for dating and has soon realised that all the blokes on there are just players and after one thing.
She's looking for someone a bit more serious for LTR, she's attractive, smart (good job) & witty.
Such a shame she has met a bunch of serial shaggers as it's really put her off dating now.
Censorious said:
Mobile Chicane said:
Thankyou4calling said:
Oh and, unless you have another on the go, don't send thanks but no thanks texts. You just never know when you might get the urge.
Do not listen to this 'advice'. Any woman with half a brain can smell a Serial Dater like a fart in a car.Just be yourself and take things slowly.
It will feel strange at first talking about the past however many x years while someone was a big part of your life. Anyone a similar age will likely have some 'history' too.
How they talk about their ex can be very revealing. If they carp on about them all the time - even in a negative way - they're clearly not over them.
I took the kids out today with a good female friend of ours & her son.
She split up with her husband a few months ago & we were chatting about her dating exploits.
She joined a website for dating and has soon realised that all the blokes on there are just players and after one thing.
She's looking for someone a bit more serious for LTR, she's attractive, smart (good job) & witty.
Such a shame she has met a bunch of serial shaggers as it's really put her off dating now.
That should sort it.
Thankyou4calling said:
The key may well be ATM.
With practice you will be able to keep a few on the go.
Oh and, unless you have another on the go, don't send thanks but no thanks texts. You just never know when you might get the urge.
In what way wasn't she what you expected? And font worry too much about stuff you've done previously, as long as you don't come across as bitter or wistful it's what made you what you are.
Get stuck in fella.
Judging from his posts and threads, I wonder what this guy's mum did to him. He has no respect for himself or women lolWith practice you will be able to keep a few on the go.
Oh and, unless you have another on the go, don't send thanks but no thanks texts. You just never know when you might get the urge.
In what way wasn't she what you expected? And font worry too much about stuff you've done previously, as long as you don't come across as bitter or wistful it's what made you what you are.
Get stuck in fella.
Glade said:
It was a bizarre evening - I kept finding myself giving anecdotes, that [I knew] were mainly about stuff I've done over the last 10 years with my wife ffs.
That's normal....I came out of a 20 year relationship (at age 40) with 4 kids.....neither of which I discussed with any dates - but obviously any story from age 19 onwards was one that (i knew) involved wife/kids - but so what? When they say "yeah, I've been to X/Y/Z city too" they didnt go with their mum. Everyone's life is full of a past they pick the bits from to share with you.I was actually very surprised how little (as in never) I was asked a question that I would need to lie to. I never mentioned wife/kids once as I was never asked.....until someone flat out asked "where are your kids today" as she had a hunch! (Still with her 2 months later though!)
QueenBee said:
Thankyou4calling said:
The key may well be ATM.
With practice you will be able to keep a few on the go.
Oh and, unless you have another on the go, don't send thanks but no thanks texts. You just never know when you might get the urge.
In what way wasn't she what you expected? And font worry too much about stuff you've done previously, as long as you don't come across as bitter or wistful it's what made you what you are.
Get stuck in fella.
Judging from his posts and threads, I wonder what this guy's mum did to him. He has no respect for himself or women lolWith practice you will be able to keep a few on the go.
Oh and, unless you have another on the go, don't send thanks but no thanks texts. You just never know when you might get the urge.
In what way wasn't she what you expected? And font worry too much about stuff you've done previously, as long as you don't come across as bitter or wistful it's what made you what you are.
Get stuck in fella.
Well I've made it (or should I say she's made it) past the 12 date mark, which is about triple the norm before I get bored or realise they're completely mental.
Now the only question that remains is which one of us gets bored or has a commitment freak out and runs first
As for dating multiple people at the same time... It's almost normal to be dating a few these days until you become exclusive or agree not to. Online dating has dragged Brits into the American dating style and if you expect someone not to be you're most likely in for a surprise, and not a good one.
Now the only question that remains is which one of us gets bored or has a commitment freak out and runs first
As for dating multiple people at the same time... It's almost normal to be dating a few these days until you become exclusive or agree not to. Online dating has dragged Brits into the American dating style and if you expect someone not to be you're most likely in for a surprise, and not a good one.
Glade said:
Ha well not sure I fit in with this thread...
Went on my first date since splitting up with my wife (before xmas) last night. The lady was nice, not quite what I expected, but I didn't really feel it. Today I messaged politely, to say I wasn't keen and now feel really bad about that!
I am sure this is the game, and part of the rules of engagement.
It was a bizarre evening - I kept finding myself giving anecdotes, that [I knew] were mainly about stuff I've done over the last 10 years with my wife ffs.
Part of the learning curve?
How people have a few on the go at once blows my mind ATM!
It all seems normal to me. It will take a few months to find your feet though.Went on my first date since splitting up with my wife (before xmas) last night. The lady was nice, not quite what I expected, but I didn't really feel it. Today I messaged politely, to say I wasn't keen and now feel really bad about that!
I am sure this is the game, and part of the rules of engagement.
It was a bizarre evening - I kept finding myself giving anecdotes, that [I knew] were mainly about stuff I've done over the last 10 years with my wife ffs.
Part of the learning curve?
How people have a few on the go at once blows my mind ATM!
One bit of advice while you're getting the hang of it would be not to initiate the message saying you don't want to meet again, unless they were genuinely unhinged or dangerous. Going on another date is not necessarily a case of hanging on for a shag, more learning about yourself and the process whilst having some company and a good night out. And you might end up liking each other
In your case I would message back saying you were being a bit hasty in your inexperience and try for another date.BTW there are plenty of serial daters on the female side too - I learnt a lot from them
Council Baby said:
Well I've made it (or should I say she's made it) past the 12 date mark, which is about triple the norm before I get bored or realise they're completely mental.
Now the only question that remains is which one of us gets bored or has a commitment freak out and runs first
As for dating multiple people at the same time... It's almost normal to be dating a few these days until you become exclusive or agree not to. Online dating has dragged Brits into the American dating style and if you expect someone not to be you're most likely in for a surprise, and not a good one.
CB. You are something of a legend on this thread and your exploits are entertaining and educational. Are you now saying that you are exclusive with this woman and, at present and for the foreseeable you are off the market? If that's the case then I look forward to progress updates and advice for newbies and established posters.Now the only question that remains is which one of us gets bored or has a commitment freak out and runs first
As for dating multiple people at the same time... It's almost normal to be dating a few these days until you become exclusive or agree not to. Online dating has dragged Brits into the American dating style and if you expect someone not to be you're most likely in for a surprise, and not a good one.
Thankyou4calling said:
CB. You are something of a legend on this thread and your exploits are entertaining and educational. Are you now saying that you are exclusive with this woman and, at present and for the foreseeable you are off the market? If that's the case then I look forward to progress updates and advice for newbies and established posters.
Yep, for now it's exclusive and we'll see how it goes. It takes a lot longer than a dozen dates to really get to know someone so time will tell.
Mobile Chicane said:
Suggest that she asks any potential long-termers to attend the local GUM Clinic for a full STI Screen before she'll sleep with them.
That should sort it.
Errr, they'll walk in, say "Hi Glenda, here for my regular check up" and give potential date the all-clear-bit-of-paper.That should sort it.
People may be "serial shaggers", but the majority are sensible with it.
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