Match.com (Volume 5)
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Ive been using Tinder lately. Its been going OK, my positivity seems to push me through.
One thing I have noticed is that the art of conversation seems to be dead, ive chatted to a few women who either weren't that interested (I don't think so though as they were trying to join in) or just wanted the guy to do all the work. Just felt like they expected me to constantly try to impress them and frankly (im gonna sound like a
now) some of these women, I am way out of their league.
One thing I have noticed is that the art of conversation seems to be dead, ive chatted to a few women who either weren't that interested (I don't think so though as they were trying to join in) or just wanted the guy to do all the work. Just felt like they expected me to constantly try to impress them and frankly (im gonna sound like a
now) some of these women, I am way out of their league.
Foliage said:
Ive been using Tinder lately. Its been going OK, my positivity seems to push me through.
One thing I have noticed is that the art of conversation seems to be dead, ive chatted to a few women who either weren't that interested (I don't think so though as they were trying to join in) or just wanted the guy to do all the work. Just felt like they expected me to constantly try to impress them and frankly (im gonna sound like a now) some of these women, I am way out of their league.
When the whole premise of the site is based on rating someone's physical attractiveness, you can't be too surprised that the conversation's a tad vapid.One thing I have noticed is that the art of conversation seems to be dead, ive chatted to a few women who either weren't that interested (I don't think so though as they were trying to join in) or just wanted the guy to do all the work. Just felt like they expected me to constantly try to impress them and frankly (im gonna sound like a
now) some of these women, I am way out of their league.Or that wimmins who have spent enormous sums of money on false nails/hair/tans/teeth/after-market body parts in order to 'improve' their appearance equate this investment with 'attractiveness attained'.
Mobile Chicane said:
Foliage said:
Ive been using Tinder lately. Its been going OK, my positivity seems to push me through.
One thing I have noticed is that the art of conversation seems to be dead, ive chatted to a few women who either weren't that interested (I don't think so though as they were trying to join in) or just wanted the guy to do all the work. Just felt like they expected me to constantly try to impress them and frankly (im gonna sound like a now) some of these women, I am way out of their league.
When the whole premise of the site is based on rating someone's physical attractiveness, you can't be too surprised that the conversation's a tad vapid.One thing I have noticed is that the art of conversation seems to be dead, ive chatted to a few women who either weren't that interested (I don't think so though as they were trying to join in) or just wanted the guy to do all the work. Just felt like they expected me to constantly try to impress them and frankly (im gonna sound like a
now) some of these women, I am way out of their league.Or that wimmins who have spent enormous sums of money on false nails/hair/tans/teeth/after-market body parts in order to 'improve' their appearance equate this investment with 'attractiveness attained'.
Quite literally, each day at 4pm she'd just have a scan through the 20 or so "want to get a drink?" messages she'd had that day - and pick a lucky guy to buy her a JD and coke. And never see them again after that. Even now, she'll get text's once a day from some random guy saying "how about that second drink"....which was a bit intimidating at first!
So, if you're wondering why you get no response...and she's half way hot - it's because there are a zillion others waiting for the response too and all you can do is stand out.
I was lucky in a way because she had a million single, players, mostly European living in central London.....I was the only "boring English guy with an ex-wife and kids from a little village called Reading" and it peaked her interest! Oddly!
Tiggsy said:
Been seeing someone from Tinder for a few months...a little while ago she asked that we both delete our Tinder accounts. In doing so we had a bit of a laugh at each others and I got to see Tinder from the hot womans side......and I'll tell you why they dont respond - hot women have THOUSANDS of men. She had hundreads of ignored messages. Her lifestyle had simply been to swipe on a few hot men a day, get a 90% hit rate and be sure she had someone to get her drinks after work any day she wanted. She had conversations beyond 3 or 4 responses with a handful, of which I was the only one that became a long conversation.
Quite literally, each day at 4pm she'd just have a scan through the 20 or so "want to get a drink?" messages she'd had that day - and pick a lucky guy to buy her a JD and coke. And never see them again after that. Even now, she'll get text's once a day from some random guy saying "how about that second drink"....which was a bit intimidating at first!
So, if you're wondering why you get no response...and she's half way hot - it's because there are a zillion others waiting for the response too and all you can do is stand out.
I was lucky in a way because she had a million single, players, mostly European living in central London.....I was the only "boring English guy with an ex-wife and kids from a little village called Reading" and it peaked her interest! Oddly!
That's quite insightful, Quite literally, each day at 4pm she'd just have a scan through the 20 or so "want to get a drink?" messages she'd had that day - and pick a lucky guy to buy her a JD and coke. And never see them again after that. Even now, she'll get text's once a day from some random guy saying "how about that second drink"....which was a bit intimidating at first!
So, if you're wondering why you get no response...and she's half way hot - it's because there are a zillion others waiting for the response too and all you can do is stand out.
I was lucky in a way because she had a million single, players, mostly European living in central London.....I was the only "boring English guy with an ex-wife and kids from a little village called Reading" and it peaked her interest! Oddly!
Mobile Chicane said:
When the whole premise of the site is based on rating someone's physical attractiveness, you can't be too surprised that the conversation's a tad vapid.
Or that wimmins who have spent enormous sums of money on false nails/hair/tans/teeth/after-market body parts in order to 'improve' their appearance equate this investment with 'attractiveness attained'.
They are the women I go out of my way to avoid though, just for that reason.Or that wimmins who have spent enormous sums of money on false nails/hair/tans/teeth/after-market body parts in order to 'improve' their appearance equate this investment with 'attractiveness attained'.
I have started to swipe 'yes' for everyone now just to see what happens and the consensus of opinion seems to be that the larger lady finds me attractive.. I must admit though that in the last couple of days I have talked to some very nice women. As I've said I'm not an attractive chap so its interesting to hear why people have hit the 'yes' for me.
anonymous said:
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My point wasnt that it was one drink or two....or that she was sweet and innocent! It was that hot women are quite able to fill their diary with any man from a VERY long list. So people wondering why their message gets no response might now see why.Actually, what I found quite interesting was that I was worried she'd see me as inexperienced having been with the same person (married) for 100 years....while she was divorced at 22 and spent 15 years all over Europe doing what hot women do in places like Italy where she was picking up numbers from guys on the way to work (she was quite disappointed that the same doesnt happen in England on the tube!)
But it was actually her that had a far harder time coming to terms with the fact I had a very serious, long term love for someone else.....and she couldnt get why I would have an issue with the fact she had 3 guys on the go who she dropped to start seeing me because they "meant nothing"!
It actually worked quite well....we both had to get used to the idea that each of us had "pasts" that the other couldnt understand and felt a bit threatened by. So we did. And it works well......there are things you learn (in every sense) about relationships when you have lots of them with loads of different people for a variety of lengths of time - and there are things you learn when you practice for 20 years with the same woman (as I did) - so you both bring something to the table. Neither better than the other, just different.
Tiggsy said:
she was divorced at 22 and spent 15 years all over Europe doing what hot women do in places like Italy where she was picking up numbers from guys on the way to work (she was quite disappointed that the same doesnt happen in England on the tube!)
That explains a lot.Italian men seem to consider it their duty to pester any single female they see. I was completely turned-off Italy by this.
It happens everywhere - I was even groped in the queue waiting to get into The Vatican.
Now I know why they do it. It must work.
A workmate of mine has an amazing success rate with Tinder. He's 20 years my junior and a Geordie so to put it bluntly he has short conversations finishing with 'Go on! ow about a shag' and the next thing they are either turning up at his door or he's invited round to theirs.
Currently he's juggling three of them and whenever he's out of town working he uses it to get 'company'.
Maybe it's an age thing and works for the 20/30 year olds. He and they basically flick right on everyone then make their choices from the subsequent matches. No point being fussy as it will never work.
I'm surprised there isn't a 'Select All' button.
Currently he's juggling three of them and whenever he's out of town working he uses it to get 'company'.
Maybe it's an age thing and works for the 20/30 year olds. He and they basically flick right on everyone then make their choices from the subsequent matches. No point being fussy as it will never work.
I'm surprised there isn't a 'Select All' button.
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