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Piglet

6,046 posts

138 months

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Monday 8th October 2012 quote quote all
Sorry Bex, I've been so caught up in our own problems that I hadn't seen your thread.

Really hope things work out for Ren and Fitz, our animals really do put us through the wringer don't they?

bexVN

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10,725 posts

94 months

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Monday 8th October 2012 quote quote all
Piglet said:
Sorry Bex, I've been so caught up in our own problems that I hadn't seen your thread.

Really hope things work out for Ren and Fitz, our animals really do put us through the wringer don't they?
Please don't worry, you're going through enough and yes they do. I'm having sleepless nights. Speaking to my friend has helped, I can think a bit clearer... for now

bexVN

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Tuesday 9th October 2012 quote quote all
Thank you Karyn, for your words. Sorry I've only just replied. I missed your post earlier.

bexVN

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Tuesday 13th November 2012 quote quote all
Wasn't sure whether to post or not but everyone had been so considerate in the time they too to reply sending Ren their best I thought it would be ok to.

So after another month of still not knowing even with lots of tests the inevitable abdominal mass was found by the vet yest. It's small but she is so skinny now (just 2.46kg) that even I can feel it. So 10mg steroids a day and Upto 2 weeks to see if they help. If they do I may have her another couple months, if not Fitz will be saying farewell to his dear friend (he's spent almost all day and night for the last few days curled up next to her in her favourite bed) and we will saying goodbye to a sweet and gentle cat (unless you were a mouse!) very very soon.

So there it is, in my heart from the start I suspected this would be the outcome, wish it had been her thyroid now frown.

I'm still in some denial, the battle isn't over just yet but I fear it soon will be and I think Ren and I will have lost and now I'm tearing up, so I'll stop babbling now.

Jasandjules

50,391 posts

112 months

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Tuesday 13th November 2012 quote quote all
As long as Ren is happy it is ok.

Wish you all the best.
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Karyn

5,992 posts

51 months

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Tuesday 13th November 2012 quote quote all
^^Wot 'e sed.



As long as Ren isn't suffering, then the battle can be waged!



It's distressing seeing them so skinny though, isn't it... our mog is coming up to 20, and is less than half his body-weight, despite still eating like a trooper. frown

Vets can't find much wrong with him (aside from his benign nose-skin-tumour and some suspect kidney activity as associated with such longevity...)




Thoughts are with you, Bex... it's never easy, but there'll always be a time where you have to say goodbye. frown x

SPR2

2,309 posts

79 months

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Tuesday 13th November 2012 quote quote all
Sorry Bex to hear this.Thinking of you.

bexVN

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10,725 posts

94 months

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Fitz (ginger and white)taking care of Ren, he has rarely left her side the last few days.

ali_kat

26,246 posts

104 months

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Tuesday 13th November 2012 quote quote all
Oh no frown

Oh Becks weeping


K77 CTR

1,111 posts

65 months

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Tuesday 13th November 2012 quote quote all
So sorry to hear this bex, you've always been here for us to lean on, so we will always be here for you. Hope the medication works, big hugs xx

Jasandjules

50,391 posts

112 months

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Tuesday 13th November 2012 quote quote all
If there is anything we can do to help, just say.

bexVN

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10,725 posts

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Tuesday 13th November 2012 quote quote all
Jasandjules said:
If there is anything we can. do to help, just say.
Thankyou, you've been such a help with Fitz. I did wonder about Zaras tea but I just don't think I could get her to take it. She is being very difficult re food and she is hard to medicate orally.

She has a really bad tummy now, very smelly! I actually got as far as arranging her final visit for Thurs, typically her appetite picked up this evening and whilst she is still doing very little she seemed a bit perkier tonight. We'll see how she goes over next 48hrs.

Bacardi

1,759 posts

159 months

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Tuesday 13th November 2012 quote quote all
Just read this thread. I really feel for you bex frown I'm old enough to have been there too many times and it doesn't get any easier, hard to medicate, in denial, living in (usually false) hope. But it is the price we pay for taking on pets, for being animal lovers. But in the grand scheme of things, they do pay us back in love, so we have to be thankful for that.

Best wishes.

ali_kat

26,246 posts

104 months

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Thursday 15th November 2012 quote quote all
Been thinking of you all today Bex

Axx

bexVN

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10,725 posts

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Thursday 15th November 2012 quote quote all
That means so much Ali. Today was almost the day but I cancelled it as she ate better overnight. But I think I made a mistake as she has not eaten at all well today and now she keeps shaking her head and falling to her left when she does.

She did go for a quick potter in the garden but that was just to go to loo (she doesn't seem to want to poo in her tray (poss cos she has a poorly tummy).

Just don't know what to do, I'm working all day tom, away on a course Sat but I'm not sure she is going to cope much longer. (I don't want to take her in on a day I'm working frown)

Bacardi

1,759 posts

159 months

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Friday 16th November 2012 quote quote all
Again, I so feel for you bex frown It's the most awful thing. The last cat I adopted from friends was a handsome silver tabby called Birch. He was 10 years old and healthy. I had had a string of sick cats over the last 6 years before, backwards and forwards to vets, all with the inevitable outcome frown

When I took him for his annual jab I remember feeling happy taking him, a healthy cat and what a change it was from the stress of taking sick cats... alas, I was told he had a large growth in his stomach. Nothing they could do frown

Over the years I have learnt that postponing the inevitable doesn't help, as much as we want our pets to enjoy life as much as possible. I have this idea that while a cat sings and eats, I will do my utmost for them. Whilst he was happy, I wasn't going to call the vet round. Birch, whilst he lost so much weight, was singing his heart out the day before he disappeared. Never saw him again, although I searched high and low in neighbours gardens. In a way, he had a natural parting.

As a veterinary nurse, you don't need me to tell you what you know in your heart, what and when you have to do the right thing. I'm sure, sadly, I'd know what you would say to other people in the same position.... but so difficult when you are in that position frown

It's gut wrenching. Life sucks.

But, if you can, not now, but in the future, remember all the happiness and fun you had with her before.


ali_kat

26,246 posts

104 months

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Friday 16th November 2012 quote quote all
You are the only one that knows the best time; all we can do is support you. You know that Work will understand if you feel you have to take today off at short notice, or cancel the course.

Best wishes xx

Karyn

5,992 posts

51 months

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Friday 16th November 2012 quote quote all
Oh, Bex!

It all sounds like it's breaking your heart frown


Work would understand... more so than any other place of work, surely?


Thinking of you continuously, and sending vibes of strength your way xx

bexVN

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10,725 posts

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Friday 16th November 2012 quote quote all
Today we said goodbye to a dear little four legged friend. My boss admitted it was a tough decision due to her slow but steady decline (with moments of hope) but she felt it really was the right call to make.

I'm truly grateful to her for her honesty and I really appreciate the time everyone took to write on here. Bacardi thankyou for sharing it helped clarify things a bit more for me.

So off you go little Ren (Aug 97-Nov 12) to the wonder that is the rainbow bridge, our hearts have been broken and are heavy now but one day we will be able to smile at your memories again.

Bacardi

1,759 posts

159 months

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Saturday 17th November 2012 quote quote all
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I know it's so very hard bex, but I'm sure you know in your heart that it was the right decision. I have made the mistake of letting animals carry on in false hope and it's just not fair to them.... or you.

Little Ren knows you loved her and she loved you back, of that I have no doubt. That is something you can take forward and be happy about because it's a very special thing, that bond between our pets and us.

Grief is the price we pay for love. Hope your broken heart mends and you can smile at the memories of her soon.

Sincerely
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