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Gwagon111

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My job often leaves me wound up by the weekend. I like to go out to bars and clubs to unwind. I prefer to be by myself, I don't know why, I just like it like that. I often find myself being invited to join groups of complete strangers, which is very kind of them I guess. However, I do actually like being on my Jack Jones, nine times out of ten. At which point does folk being nice, become folk being annoying? I don't wish to appear rude to these folk, how do I tell them I wish to be left alone without seeming rude or mental?

Papa Hotel

12,753 posts

68 months

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Why don't you put on a dirty old coat with a bit of string tied around your waist? The friendly wkers will leave you alone, works for me. Although I sometimes have to soil myself.

Gwagon111

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Papa Hotel said:
Why don't you put on a dirty old coat with a bit of string tied around your waist? The friendly wkers will leave you alone, works for me. Although I sometimes have to soil myself.
That might just be worth a punt scratchchin

Cotty

27,710 posts

170 months

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Just say "im waiting for someone". They will leave you alone.

Carthage

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30 months

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I have a similar problem in that random strangers talk to me.

I have been told (by a PHer so it must be true tongue out) that I tend to look at people too directly, maybe even make eye contact without realising, and this is what triggers it.

I'm going to perfect my spitting technique and aim. That should put them off.


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Gwagon111

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Carthage said:
I have a similar problem in that random strangers talk to me.

I have been told (by a PHer so it must be true tongue out) that I tend to look at people too directly, maybe even make eye contact without realising, and this is what triggers it.

I'm going to perfect my spitting technique and aim. That should put them off.
That makes sense. I do tend to look straight into people's eyes when I look at them. It's involuntary, but I deffinately do it.

dibbers006

6,414 posts

104 months

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Sit with the paper and a notepad and pen in front of you.

lazygraduand

1,629 posts

47 months

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Wear some of these:


Fozziebear

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26 months

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Folk tend to steer clear of me, but I do tend to look very angry all the time smile

Vespid

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62 months

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Gwagon111 said:
My job often leaves me wound up by the weekend. I like to go out to bars and clubs to unwind. I prefer to be by myself, I don't know why, I just like it like that. I often find myself being invited to join groups of complete strangers, which is very kind of them I guess. However, I do actually like being on my Jack Jones, nine times out of ten. At which point does folk being nice, become folk being annoying? I don't wish to appear rude to these folk, how do I tell them I wish to be left alone without seeming rude or mental?
If you like being alone (and I can't say I blame you) why do you go to clubs and bars?

Why not sit at home with a drink/DVD/Sky/curry/computer game/porn?

Nobody going to bother you there.

Adam B

8,579 posts

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Gwagon111 said:
My job often leaves me wound up by the weekend. I like to go out to bars and clubs to unwind. I prefer to be by myself, I don't know why, I just like it like that.
out of curiosity what do you do? just find an empty bar stool, nurse a drink, people watch and go home?

i only ask as i have done this a couple of times when single and mates were all busy/doing couple things - sometimes it ends well and i end up meeting new people, others i feel slightly self-conscious of appearing a billy-no-mates (which i guess i am for an evening)

tyrewrecker

6,419 posts

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Adam B said:
out of curiosity what do you do? just find an empty bar stool, nurse a drink, people watch and go home?

i only ask as i have done this a couple of times when single and mates were all busy/doing couple things - sometimes it ends well and i end up meeting new people, others i feel slightly self-conscious of appearing a billy-no-mates (which i guess i am for an evening)
I only do this in local for a couple...feel odd doing that although I've done it plenty...

Adam B

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tyrewrecker said:
I only do this in local for a couple...feel odd doing that although I've done it plenty...
that i would do no problem, read the paper with a couple of pints on my tod (local boozer type of gaff) but a bar/club is a bit different

GTIR

24,544 posts

152 months

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I find only misfits and sad singletons go out on their own and stay like that. yes

I can't think of a time when I've gone out on my own and stayed out like that.
Unless I'm meeting someone of course.

Very odd.

Eddh

4,328 posts

78 months

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Oh so you are 'that guy'... the one who sits in the corner on their own and oggles the 18 year old girls jiggling around?

tyrewrecker

6,419 posts

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Adam B said:
that i would do no problem, read the paper with a couple of pints on my tod (local boozer type of gaff) but a bar/club is a bit different
Thanks I feel a lot better

I usually read paper, watch tv or there are usually a few chaps there in same boat who are good to chat to

tyrewrecker

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GTIR said:
I find only misfits and sad singletons go out on their own and stay like that. yes

I can't think of a time when I've gone out on my own and stayed out like that.
Unless I'm meeting someone of course.

Very odd.
Who do you end up with? Joining groups of guys or girls ?

Monkeylegend

5,178 posts

117 months

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Wear a badge with Bert written on it, that should work.

Gwagon111

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Eddh said:
Oh so you are 'that guy'... the one who sits in the corner on their own and oggles the 18 year old girls jiggling around?
Not really. The only 18 yr olds I'm interested in tend to be single malts. Sitting at home would bore the crap out of me, I don't mind being in a group once in a while, it's just when I'm trying to be alone, to de-stress, and regroup my thoughts, it's kind if odd (but strangely flattering) that complete strangers seem to want to 'help' me out. I guess it's not a bad thing, I just need a plan of action that doesn't involve offending them.

GTIR

24,544 posts

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tyrewrecker said:
GTIR said:
I find only misfits and sad singletons go out on their own and stay like that. yes

I can't think of a time when I've gone out on my own and stayed out like that.
Unless I'm meeting someone of course.

Very odd.
Who do you end up with? Joining groups of guys or girls ?
Either and mixed, I am a social butterfly.
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