The Cancer Kiss off - being dumped after diagnosis

The Cancer Kiss off - being dumped after diagnosis

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sk7ine man

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604 posts

191 months

Friday 8th February 2013
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Evening all. I had the mods delete the other thread for legal reasons but i've started this one so i can keep everyone updated.

As mentioned on the previous thread, I have sent a letter to my solicitor to update her on the outcome of the hearing and i will be appealing the legal aid refusal and will be contesting the restricted access to my son. in hindsight i made the mistake of choosing to represent myself and to be fair i had no choice as i was not able to afford the legal costs. I'm not sure what steps i can take to perhaps appeal the decision and i'll not be stopping until i get my equal time with my son.

As you are aware, she emptied my bank accounts and i was left car less. Today I picked up my new Astra GTC Sri 2.0cdti Auto. I have the DWP to thank for awarding me the higher rate mobility and DLA. Im quite pleased with it and its nice to be able to get around now a lot easier.

Puggit

48,422 posts

248 months

Friday 8th February 2013
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I'm sorry - run that past me again. You were refused legal aid?!

Du1point8

21,606 posts

192 months

Friday 8th February 2013
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Maybe they see the house as an asset, which must be sold first before, then all money used before you can claim?

sk7ine man

Original Poster:

604 posts

191 months

Friday 8th February 2013
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Puggit said:
I'm sorry - run that past me again. You were refused legal aid?!
Yes I was refused legal aid.

They only looked at mortgage and rental income which covers itself so there's no extra money there.

Rushmore

1,223 posts

142 months

Friday 8th February 2013
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BTW how is your health?

harry010

4,423 posts

187 months

Friday 8th February 2013
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I cannot help unfortunately as I know little of family law, but surely there must be someone who will be able to take this on pro bono - ill have a think of my colleagues OP and hopefully others will forge same.

Best of luck smile

anonymous-user

54 months

Friday 8th February 2013
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don't history but what cancer have you got. Are you disabled by it?

BlackVanDyke

9,932 posts

211 months

Saturday 9th February 2013
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The Spruce goose said:
don't history but what cancer have you got. Are you disabled by it?
Suffice to say potentially life-limiting. The rules on when someone can get high rate mobility DLA as a result of cancer are very tight indeed.

sk7ine man

Original Poster:

604 posts

191 months

Saturday 9th February 2013
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It's colorectal cancer. It affects my ability to walk as its grown into and pressing on nerves leading down my my leg which has resulted in foot drop and loss of sensation in my foot. This makes it difficult walking without a stick. Walking also causes pressure on the tumour and excruciating pain.

I'm on my 3rd round of chemo Monday, which will be followed by a mri scan the following week, so will know the what the progress is with the chemo. I saw my oncologist today (Friday), she was keen for me to start radiotherapy after my fourth dose of chemo.

Animal

5,246 posts

268 months

Saturday 9th February 2013
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Not much to add OP, just wanted to say fingers crossed that your treatment goes well!

CoolC

4,215 posts

214 months

Saturday 9th February 2013
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Hopefully your solicitor can get things moving for better access and legal aid.

All the best for the case and the chemo.

sk7ine man

Original Poster:

604 posts

191 months

Saturday 9th February 2013
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I was daydreaming about approaching the media about this and outing her, I don't know how detrimental/effective it would be?

BlackVanDyke

9,932 posts

211 months

Saturday 9th February 2013
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sk7ine man said:
I was daydreaming about approaching the media about this and outing her, I don't know how detrimental/effective it would be?
Not until things are long long long settled, if at all. The court would be unimpressed to say the least, and the repercussions on your son could be nasty.

Fubar1977

916 posts

140 months

Saturday 9th February 2013
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Nothing useful to add, just wanted to wish you all the best sk7ine.
You are dealing with a horrendous situation with amazing dignity and composure.
You have my utmost respect.

Animal

5,246 posts

268 months

Saturday 9th February 2013
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sk7ine man said:
I was daydreaming about approaching the media about this and outing her, I don't know how detrimental/effective it would be?
As the saying goes, revenge is a dish best served cold - and you don't want to give her any ammunition to use against you. For all you know she's following this thread...

prand

5,913 posts

196 months

Saturday 9th February 2013
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Publicising your wife's actions may well be perfect for the Daily Mail, but would be very unwise. So you really want to expose your whole life to the world? Your son lives with her, he would suffer too, so really it's catch 22. Save it for a lot, lot later, if at all. Your best revenge is to move on and be happy and successful without this woman, ignoring her attention seeking attempts to derail you. By all means see if there is any mileage in proving her recent actions have been illegal, but don't stir things up unneccesarily when it could backfire on you.

Edited by prand on Saturday 9th February 20:48


Edited by prand on Saturday 9th February 20:50

205alive

6,087 posts

176 months

Saturday 9th February 2013
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OP, have you heard of DCA (dichloroacetate) and it's use against cancers? It's a very cheap drug which has shown a lot of promise, with a very well informed online community based at http://www.thedcasite.com/

Specifically, have a look at http://www.thedcasite.com/Laurine_Kress_colon_canc...

and

http://www.thedcasite.com/Colo_rectal_to_liver.htm...

http://www.thedcasite.com/dca-forum/topic/new-idea...

There is a huge amount of good info at the above site - give it a good read through, eh?

Edited to add, this is the first paper which was published about the use of this drug against cancer and the results:

http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S...



Edited by 205alive on Saturday 9th February 21:24

MrBrightSi

2,912 posts

170 months

Sunday 10th February 2013
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We've all still got your back Sam.

Like i said in the other thread forza 4 and an xbox 360 will see you right.

sk7ine man

Original Poster:

604 posts

191 months

Sunday 10th February 2013
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205alive said:
OP, have you heard of DCA (dichloroacetate) and it's use against cancers? It's a very cheap drug which has shown a lot of promise, with a very well informed online community based at http://www.thedcasite.com/

Specifically, have a look at http://www.thedcasite.com/Laurine_Kress_colon_canc...

and

http://www.thedcasite.com/Colo_rectal_to_liver.htm...

http://www.thedcasite.com/dca-forum/topic/new-idea...

There is a huge amount of good info at the above site - give it a good read through, eh?

Edited to add, this is the first paper which was published about the use of this drug against cancer and the results:

http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S...



Edited by 205alive on Saturday 9th February 21:24
Thank you, I'll have a look at that smile

mjb1

2,556 posts

159 months

Sunday 10th February 2013
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Did you get to see your son yesterday? How did it go?