Neighbours, their kids, the things you hear......
Discussion
So anyway, over the last few weeks the heated discussions we have little choice but to listen to through the walls have included choice phrases such as:
"You do absolutely f
k all round the house"
"You lazy fking cow"
and
"Yeah? Well I don't wanna be in this fking marriage either"
Then, last night, two police cars outside at midnight, then this morning a plain clothes chap knocks on our door......
"Hello, I'm DC Plod.....we're just doing some door to door enquires regarding an incident next door. Did you.....'hear'....anything?"
"What sort of time?"
"Well the incident was around 21:30 but......did you hear anything leading up to that point?"
"Last night specifically, or in general?"
"Either......"
"Well, no idea if it's the type of incident in question but since you ask, they have lots of errr......heated discussions......once a week at least, without fail.....and we're treated to every word of it"
"Hmmm, I see, could I take your details please? We might need to get in touch"
Just normal family life you say?
"You do absolutely f
k all round the house""You lazy f
king cow"and
"Yeah? Well I don't wanna be in this f
king marriage either"Then, last night, two police cars outside at midnight, then this morning a plain clothes chap knocks on our door......
"Hello, I'm DC Plod.....we're just doing some door to door enquires regarding an incident next door. Did you.....'hear'....anything?"
"What sort of time?"
"Well the incident was around 21:30 but......did you hear anything leading up to that point?"
"Last night specifically, or in general?"
"Either......"
"Well, no idea if it's the type of incident in question but since you ask, they have lots of errr......heated discussions......once a week at least, without fail.....and we're treated to every word of it"
"Hmmm, I see, could I take your details please? We might need to get in touch"
Just normal family life you say?
oh dear, I must admit I thought it was more than normal neighbour noise when I started reading the first page. Mum sounded like she had lost control or even had some of the baby blues whilst Dad wasn't understanding and became argumentative/defensive at any comment hence heated arguments 
Difficult for yourself, where's the line? I wouldn't know. If you're hearing it everyday you might get used to it or reason against it. Although you can hear every word you can't see their body language so difficult to tell if something is going terribly wrong very quickly behind those walls.
Difficult for yourself, where's the line? I wouldn't know. If you're hearing it everyday you might get used to it or reason against it. Although you can hear every word you can't see their body language so difficult to tell if something is going terribly wrong very quickly behind those walls.
When we lived in a 1950's semi in the UK we had a young guy next door for three years, and we assumed the walls were a foot think because we never heard a peep. Then he left and some other tenants moved in, with 23 young children.
I guess there were 23 kids because the sheer volume of noise they put out was breathtaking.
We could hear them as they walked around the house, ran up the stairs, every time one laughed, every time the babies cried, every time the mum told a joke and laughed her head off........ 24 hours a day, every fkin' day!
I soon realised there must be nothing more than a layer of wallpaper separating our houses.
We solved the problem eventually: we moved 8000 miles away.
I guess there were 23 kids because the sheer volume of noise they put out was breathtaking.
We could hear them as they walked around the house, ran up the stairs, every time one laughed, every time the babies cried, every time the mum told a joke and laughed her head off........ 24 hours a day, every f
kin' day!I soon realised there must be nothing more than a layer of wallpaper separating our houses.
We solved the problem eventually: we moved 8000 miles away.
randlemarcus said:
Make sure you are totally honest with the nice policemen. Unless you saw an ambulance last night, it's probably the wife getting her pre-emptive "ooh, he hits me" divorce strategy in place. /cynicmode
Bit mysogynist? You've not idea what it "probably" is. Beak out.Advice to be honest with police is good though.
randlemarcus said:
Make sure you are totally honest with the nice policemen. Unless you saw an ambulance last night, it's probably the wife getting her pre-emptive "ooh, he hits me" divorce strategy in place. /cynicmode
Why does there have to be an ambiwlans involved before it's deemed serious?To be honest, I couldn't care less who's taking chunks out of who, as long as this episode shuts them the f
k up.Edited by anonymous-user on Sunday 9th February 17:18
So, on we stagger.....
The dad has definitely buggered off for good and came to collect all his stuff this week.
Since he's been gone the older of the two kids (circa 5yo) has degenerated in to a destructive delinquent about whom the mother doesn't give a toss. His only mode of play seems to be smashing stuff up. Every time he's out in the garden it's noticeable that he's alone, and he just beats things with a broken broom handle.....the garden furniture....his bike.....our fence.....When the cat appears, he chases after that, not in a "Com'ere and have a hug" way but in a "I'm gonna rip your fking head off" way, actually growling at the poor creature. All the toys that get flung over the fence by accident are broken or damaged.......
So sad, and no doubt bigger problems down the line......
The dad has definitely buggered off for good and came to collect all his stuff this week.
Since he's been gone the older of the two kids (circa 5yo) has degenerated in to a destructive delinquent about whom the mother doesn't give a toss. His only mode of play seems to be smashing stuff up. Every time he's out in the garden it's noticeable that he's alone, and he just beats things with a broken broom handle.....the garden furniture....his bike.....our fence.....When the cat appears, he chases after that, not in a "Com'ere and have a hug" way but in a "I'm gonna rip your f
king head off" way, actually growling at the poor creature. All the toys that get flung over the fence by accident are broken or damaged.......So sad, and no doubt bigger problems down the line......
Crossflow Kid said:
So, on we stagger.....
The dad has definitely buggered off for good and came to collect all his stuff this week.
Since he's been gone the older of the two kids (circa 5yo) has degenerated in to a destructive delinquent about whom the mother doesn't give a toss. His only mode of play seems to be smashing stuff up. Every time he's out in the garden it's noticeable that he's alone, and he just beats things with a broken broom handle.....the garden furniture....his bike.....our fence.....When the cat appears, he chases after that, not in a "Com'ere and have a hug" way but in a "I'm gonna rip your fking head off" way, actually growling at the poor creature. All the toys that get flung over the fence by accident are broken or damaged.......
So sad, and no doubt bigger problems down the line......
Consider a call to social services? It's a terrible thing to see in such a young child. The dad has definitely buggered off for good and came to collect all his stuff this week.
Since he's been gone the older of the two kids (circa 5yo) has degenerated in to a destructive delinquent about whom the mother doesn't give a toss. His only mode of play seems to be smashing stuff up. Every time he's out in the garden it's noticeable that he's alone, and he just beats things with a broken broom handle.....the garden furniture....his bike.....our fence.....When the cat appears, he chases after that, not in a "Com'ere and have a hug" way but in a "I'm gonna rip your f
king head off" way, actually growling at the poor creature. All the toys that get flung over the fence by accident are broken or damaged.......So sad, and no doubt bigger problems down the line......
Crossflow Kid said:
Yeah mebbe. Thing is, the st (as I've nicknamed him) isn't in any obvious distress or neglected state. He's just ignored all the time and lacking any kind of guidance whatsoever.
Not sure that's actually an issue is it? Not how I'd raise a child but it's not my kid.
It's still neglect, I've seen kids took into care for the same issues. t (as I've nicknamed him) isn't in any obvious distress or neglected state. He's just ignored all the time and lacking any kind of guidance whatsoever. Not sure that's actually an issue is it? Not how I'd raise a child but it's not my kid.
Crossflow Kid said:
Last year he about "about" three.
Now he's circa 5
Shall we say four and be done with it?
Now he's circa 5
Shall we say four and be done with it?
Ye, lets be done with it shall we. Your ongoing commentary on the breakdown of a family and it's effect on a 4 yr old boy is making you look a bit callous. What business is it of yours to post on the internet? Ok, you started off asking for advice which is fair enough. But what you actually did was absolutely nothing, except to post snide opinions and judgments on a 4 yr old and his mum.
my advice would be to get a life of your own.
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