Are all children annoying?
Discussion
Let's assume a range of 5 years old to about 12 years old...
1. They all seem to be extremely self-centered, spoilt and disgusting.
2. Everything must be bought for them NOW and when they get it, it's straight on to looking for the next thing to guilt trip their parents into buying.
3. They can't eat food without getting it all over themselves and the room they're in.
4. They're always bored but have thousands upon thousands of pounds worth of toys, video games, dvds, etc etc to keep them entertained. None of this is good enough because they want what they haven't got.
5. They lie about everything and constantly tell on other kids, in an effort to get the most brownie points and the most stuff bought for them
6. They refuse to go to sleep at the right time then wake up slightly more annoying the next day
7. They want to be able to do everything that adults can but can't even complete the simplest of tasks without assistance. Unfortunately they're too stupid to understand this when it's explained to them.
8. Everything they touch gets covered in chocolate, melted haribo or finger paint
9. They eat utter s
te food constantly. I'm talking several chocolate bars, bags of crisps & sweets, every day. Barely any fruit/veg. I think this is more to do with the parents than anything.
10. No respect for anything/anyone. If it breaks, they get a new one. If cry, they get sympathy.
This list could go on forever! It probably goes without saying that I have no children of my own. I do share a house with my SO, who has a child. Her family have children and so do a lot of her friends, meaning i'm surrounded by them the majority of the time. I really do find it hard to be patient and understanding, a lot of the time I just go out to get away from the noise.
Is anyone else in the same situation? What do you do? I'm sure it didn't used to be *quite* as bad when I was younger but honestly, I can't really remember. I just think kids lack respect & focus nowadays
1. They all seem to be extremely self-centered, spoilt and disgusting.
2. Everything must be bought for them NOW and when they get it, it's straight on to looking for the next thing to guilt trip their parents into buying.
3. They can't eat food without getting it all over themselves and the room they're in.
4. They're always bored but have thousands upon thousands of pounds worth of toys, video games, dvds, etc etc to keep them entertained. None of this is good enough because they want what they haven't got.
5. They lie about everything and constantly tell on other kids, in an effort to get the most brownie points and the most stuff bought for them
6. They refuse to go to sleep at the right time then wake up slightly more annoying the next day
7. They want to be able to do everything that adults can but can't even complete the simplest of tasks without assistance. Unfortunately they're too stupid to understand this when it's explained to them.
8. Everything they touch gets covered in chocolate, melted haribo or finger paint
9. They eat utter s
te food constantly. I'm talking several chocolate bars, bags of crisps & sweets, every day. Barely any fruit/veg. I think this is more to do with the parents than anything. 10. No respect for anything/anyone. If it breaks, they get a new one. If cry, they get sympathy.
This list could go on forever! It probably goes without saying that I have no children of my own. I do share a house with my SO, who has a child. Her family have children and so do a lot of her friends, meaning i'm surrounded by them the majority of the time. I really do find it hard to be patient and understanding, a lot of the time I just go out to get away from the noise.
Is anyone else in the same situation? What do you do? I'm sure it didn't used to be *quite* as bad when I was younger but honestly, I can't really remember. I just think kids lack respect & focus nowadays
Acehood said:
I really do find it hard to be patient and understanding, a lot of the time I just go out to get away from the noise.
I get the noise thing. The whinging gives me a headache.Don't recognise the food ones though, children in my family eat well and devour every last piece. They'll circling your plate too though if you're not quick enough.
Kids push boundaries. Unfortunately you have to go through the hassle of maintaining those boundaries on a regular basis and if you show weakness once they'll attack it relentlessly. Give in and you're at their mercy.
When it's yours the pros tend to outweigh the cons though.
OP, you are clearly trolling, but I'll bite....
My ten year old is extremely polite, cheeky and quick witted. He is highly intelligent and can mix easily in adult company. He thoroughly enjoys going to football with me home and away and can give as good as he gets with the banter, without being obnoxious. He can eat with a knife and fork or if called for a Big Mac without covering himself or anyone else in food/drink.
He has an Xbox and uses it only with permission and is currently reading Bravo Two Zero for his own amusement.
I would like to say all this is down to his mother and I as good parents, but it's not entirely. We instilled in him at an early age socially acceptable behaviour and manners. The rest has been largely down to him. Of course I am immensely proud of him as any parent should be.
I suggest you look at parents and their behaviour before you point the finger at their offspring.
My ten year old is extremely polite, cheeky and quick witted. He is highly intelligent and can mix easily in adult company. He thoroughly enjoys going to football with me home and away and can give as good as he gets with the banter, without being obnoxious. He can eat with a knife and fork or if called for a Big Mac without covering himself or anyone else in food/drink.
He has an Xbox and uses it only with permission and is currently reading Bravo Two Zero for his own amusement.
I would like to say all this is down to his mother and I as good parents, but it's not entirely. We instilled in him at an early age socially acceptable behaviour and manners. The rest has been largely down to him. Of course I am immensely proud of him as any parent should be.
I suggest you look at parents and their behaviour before you point the finger at their offspring.
Mine are 4 and 8. If we let them they would probably behave as you list.
We try and encourage them to think of others clean up after themselves etc etc.
Some of their friends are annoying and trash the house within ten minutes of getting here. Some of them are very well behaved, well mannered, and fun to be around.
Look at the parents if kids are behaving as you detail above. If you spoil a kid and don't teach them how to behave and how to eat reasonably what do you expect them to turn out like.
We try and encourage them to think of others clean up after themselves etc etc.
Some of their friends are annoying and trash the house within ten minutes of getting here. Some of them are very well behaved, well mannered, and fun to be around.
Look at the parents if kids are behaving as you detail above. If you spoil a kid and don't teach them how to behave and how to eat reasonably what do you expect them to turn out like.
LOL at the OP - poor you HA HA.
Children are a blank canvass (up to a point) - the parenting of those children produces the behaviours that they exhibit.
If the parents feed them sweets - expect a sugar rush of activity and then a comedown of whinging
If the parents spoil them rotten and give in to their demands for new toys etc then the child will carry on that trait of demanding new toys and expecting to be given them.
Basically children with good parenting will be well behaved most of the time and wont act in the manner you describe - however all children have melt downs, its due to their inability to emotionally deal with certain situations (OP please take note) caused by an undeveloped frontal lobe which is responsible for planning, logic, reasoning, working memory and self-control.
You are doing the right thing by removing yourself from the situation if YOU cant handle it.
A mature grown up would be able to though.
Children are a blank canvass (up to a point) - the parenting of those children produces the behaviours that they exhibit.
If the parents feed them sweets - expect a sugar rush of activity and then a comedown of whinging
If the parents spoil them rotten and give in to their demands for new toys etc then the child will carry on that trait of demanding new toys and expecting to be given them.
Basically children with good parenting will be well behaved most of the time and wont act in the manner you describe - however all children have melt downs, its due to their inability to emotionally deal with certain situations (OP please take note) caused by an undeveloped frontal lobe which is responsible for planning, logic, reasoning, working memory and self-control.
You are doing the right thing by removing yourself from the situation if YOU cant handle it.
A mature grown up would be able to though.
Tyre Smoke said:
I suggest you look at parents and their behaviour before you point the finger at their offspring.
^^ This, this and this...Sometimes the lack of parenting consistency and subsequent results are terrifying. You can't expect children to be angels, but table manners and politeness are pre-requisite.I'd've said yes to all of these until I met my step sister (she was 5 when I met her and is now 10..
1. They all seem to be extremely self-centered, spoilt and disgusting. Nope
2. Everything must be bought for them NOW and when they get it, it's straight on to looking for the next thing to guilt trip their parents into buying. I tried to teach her this one - not a clue.
3. They can't eat food without getting it all over themselves and the room they're in. Very well mannered at the table although she does have a penchant for spilling drinks..
4. They're always bored but have thousands upon thousands of pounds worth of toys, video games, dvds, etc etc to keep them entertained. None of this is good enough because they want what they haven't got. Always happy to entertain herself just doing art or playing the flute etc - she does have an iPod touch and DS but would rather be out with friends
5. They lie about everything and constantly tell on other kids, in an effort to get the most brownie points and the most stuff bought for them She CANNOT lie. It got me in trouble a few times. She is a tell tale but only because she's been taught to tell the truth to adults
6. They refuse to go to sleep at the right time then wake up slightly more annoying the next day Who wants to go to sleep? Not sure children are able to understand how vital good sleep is and just want to carry on playing
7. They want to be able to do everything that adults can but can't even complete the simplest of tasks without assistance. Unfortunately they're too stupid to understand this when it's explained to them. If they don't understand something it's not being explained correctly. Being a child is ALL about learning and gaining knowledge and for most children this will mean getting hands on. Making mistakes is part of the learning and should not only be excused but celebrated. Learn from it and move on.
8. Everything they touch gets covered in chocolate, melted haribo or finger paint She Washes her hands after everything as her mum is a bit of a clean freak
9. They eat utter ste food constantly. I'm talking several chocolate bars, bags of crisps & sweets, every day. Barely any fruit/veg. I think this is more to do with the parents than anything. She had a big box FULL of chocolate and sweets collected at christmas, birthdays etc and I was forced to help her finish them as she wasn't interested. Obviously she liked crisps and other nice things but they were the bits that came back in her lunch box if she was full - she always ate her sandwiches first. Teaching about balanced diet was quite important to her mum I think
10. No respect for anything/anyone. If it breaks, they get a new one. If cry, they get sympathy. If it breaks or she loses it, it's gone. She knows that and her mum and my dad stick to it. If she deserves it, she will get another at christmas/birthday but no amount of whining will help
Some Children do lack respect and can be overly annoying but the respect thing is down to the parents not having enough will power with them and the annoyance is usually just a child trying to learn so you have to go with it!
1. They all seem to be extremely self-centered, spoilt and disgusting. Nope
2. Everything must be bought for them NOW and when they get it, it's straight on to looking for the next thing to guilt trip their parents into buying. I tried to teach her this one - not a clue.
3. They can't eat food without getting it all over themselves and the room they're in. Very well mannered at the table although she does have a penchant for spilling drinks..
4. They're always bored but have thousands upon thousands of pounds worth of toys, video games, dvds, etc etc to keep them entertained. None of this is good enough because they want what they haven't got. Always happy to entertain herself just doing art or playing the flute etc - she does have an iPod touch and DS but would rather be out with friends
5. They lie about everything and constantly tell on other kids, in an effort to get the most brownie points and the most stuff bought for them She CANNOT lie. It got me in trouble a few times. She is a tell tale but only because she's been taught to tell the truth to adults
6. They refuse to go to sleep at the right time then wake up slightly more annoying the next day Who wants to go to sleep? Not sure children are able to understand how vital good sleep is and just want to carry on playing
7. They want to be able to do everything that adults can but can't even complete the simplest of tasks without assistance. Unfortunately they're too stupid to understand this when it's explained to them. If they don't understand something it's not being explained correctly. Being a child is ALL about learning and gaining knowledge and for most children this will mean getting hands on. Making mistakes is part of the learning and should not only be excused but celebrated. Learn from it and move on.
8. Everything they touch gets covered in chocolate, melted haribo or finger paint She Washes her hands after everything as her mum is a bit of a clean freak
9. They eat utter s
te food constantly. I'm talking several chocolate bars, bags of crisps & sweets, every day. Barely any fruit/veg. I think this is more to do with the parents than anything. She had a big box FULL of chocolate and sweets collected at christmas, birthdays etc and I was forced to help her finish them as she wasn't interested. Obviously she liked crisps and other nice things but they were the bits that came back in her lunch box if she was full - she always ate her sandwiches first. Teaching about balanced diet was quite important to her mum I think10. No respect for anything/anyone. If it breaks, they get a new one. If cry, they get sympathy. If it breaks or she loses it, it's gone. She knows that and her mum and my dad stick to it. If she deserves it, she will get another at christmas/birthday but no amount of whining will help
Some Children do lack respect and can be overly annoying but the respect thing is down to the parents not having enough will power with them and the annoyance is usually just a child trying to learn so you have to go with it!
Acehood said:
I do share a house with my SO, who has a child.
I can understand your frustration and bitterness, essentially you are experiencing all the downsides of having a child without the satisfaction of knowing he/she is a product of you and being able to watch them grow up. Which, let's face it, is the only reason most parents can tolerate their children.
at the thread.You just need to learn how to manage them. I've worked with children as a sports coach. They say you shouldn't work with children or animals. I've done both. Dunno what they're complaining about.
Mind you, I am awesome so maybe that's why I don't have a problem with kids. But yes, sticky fingers always.
voicey said:
As the saying goes... Children are like farts - you can just about tolerate your own.
If I'm perfectly honest I'm not even sure I tolerate my own any more, other peoples children always seem to be so much more polite...That said, everyone else says mine are lovely so they must save their recalcitrance for when they're at home.
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