child benefit problems, OH not paying up.
Discussion
i'll try to be brief.
me and my ex split up about 3 yrs ago, we lived in the house i own for roughly 4 years. she gets the child benefit payments from the government. we take care of our child equally - alternate weeks and have a verbal agreement whereby she pays me half the benefit each month. last december the payments stopped, i was very patient and gave her some leeway, agreeing after her wedding (may this year) that she would pay me the full benefit each month untill such time she had paid what was owed. however payments have stopped again.
my patience has run out and i have threatened to get the csa involved, to which her reply was she will claim for half of my house for the time we lived together.
so can she make a retrograde claim for half of my stuff? (we were never married)
can we claim half the benefit each?
is there a stress free way for me to claim whats owed?
me and my ex split up about 3 yrs ago, we lived in the house i own for roughly 4 years. she gets the child benefit payments from the government. we take care of our child equally - alternate weeks and have a verbal agreement whereby she pays me half the benefit each month. last december the payments stopped, i was very patient and gave her some leeway, agreeing after her wedding (may this year) that she would pay me the full benefit each month untill such time she had paid what was owed. however payments have stopped again.
my patience has run out and i have threatened to get the csa involved, to which her reply was she will claim for half of my house for the time we lived together.
so can she make a retrograde claim for half of my stuff? (we were never married)
can we claim half the benefit each?
is there a stress free way for me to claim whats owed?
I have read on here of some people saying they have had to make a payment to an ex unmarried partner even though they paid nothing into the home, so such claims can be genuine the claim being based on part of capital gain of the property during the time they shared it.
But going by your dates, about 2007 to 2011 must have been the time you lived together, more likely to have lost equity rather than gained it during that period, perhaps you should suggest you would be happy for her to make you a payment sharing in that loss.
But going by your dates, about 2007 to 2011 must have been the time you lived together, more likely to have lost equity rather than gained it during that period, perhaps you should suggest you would be happy for her to make you a payment sharing in that loss.
ging84 said:
I have read on here of some people saying they have had to make a payment to an ex unmarried partner even though they paid nothing into the home, so such claims can be genuine the claim being based on part of capital gain of the property during the time they shared it.
But going by your dates, about 2007 to 2011 must have been the time you lived together, more likely to have lost equity rather than gained it during that period, perhaps you should suggest you would be happy for her to make you a payment sharing in that loss.
That's probably trueBut going by your dates, about 2007 to 2011 must have been the time you lived together, more likely to have lost equity rather than gained it during that period, perhaps you should suggest you would be happy for her to make you a payment sharing in that loss.
She will also owe you 150 loads of washing and about 300 sex sessions.
Is your income greater than her income including child maintenance? If you follow the simple logic of you paying her maintenance for the week she has the child, and she pays you for the week you do, the one earning the most will pay something to the other in proportion to the difference.
Jon1967x said:
Is your income greater than her income including child maintenance? If you follow the simple logic of you paying her maintenance for the week she has the child, and she pays you for the week you do, the one earning the most will pay something to the other in proportion to the difference.
i probably do earn more than she, however im not sure, from what ive read, that the legal system follows your simple logic.ging84 said:
I have read on here of some people saying they have had to make a payment to an ex unmarried partner even though they paid nothing into the home, so such claims can be genuine the claim being based on part of capital gain of the property during the time they shared it.
But going by your dates, about 2007 to 2011 must have been the time you lived together, more likely to have lost equity rather than gained it during that period, perhaps you should suggest you would be happy for her to make you a payment sharing in that loss.
this does seem to be valid and usefull ammo, i mean info.But going by your dates, about 2007 to 2011 must have been the time you lived together, more likely to have lost equity rather than gained it during that period, perhaps you should suggest you would be happy for her to make you a payment sharing in that loss.
LarJammer said:
Jon1967x said:
Is your income greater than her income including child maintenance? If you follow the simple logic of you paying her maintenance for the week she has the child, and she pays you for the week you do, the one earning the most will pay something to the other in proportion to the difference.
i probably do earn more than she, however im not sure, from what ive read, that the legal system follows your simple logic.LarJammer said:
i cant see the risk to my financial situation if the csa are involved. am i missing something?
to clarify no maintenance payments are made by either party since the childcare is shared equally.
This might come as a shock then:to clarify no maintenance payments are made by either party since the childcare is shared equally.
Edited by LarJammer on Saturday 26th July 21:52
CSA is paid by the person who doesn't receive CB to the person who does as the children are deemed to live with the person who receives CB.
You will end up paying 15-25% of your income to your ex, with reductions based on the amount of time the children spend with you.
But you WILL end up paying a lot more via CSA than you will lose if you don't get your 1/2 of CB.
Don't wake the CSA monster......
https://www.gov.uk/calculate-your-child-maintenanc...
Put in your figures and see if the 10/week (half of child benefit) is worth the risk
Put in your figures and see if the 10/week (half of child benefit) is worth the risk
CSA has nothing to do with child benefit, they are there to use your earnings as the non resident parent to fund the upkeep of the child at the resident parents home. If you have no written agreement for child support the resident parent can claim a % of your earnings, so the question is do you really want to lose a possible 20% of your weekly income over £20 child benefit? The CSA would also back date this from separation. Let her have the child benefit, let her have her new life, keep seeing your child and be grateful you can have all your wages and access to you kid.
Fozziebear said:
CSA has nothing to do with child benefit, they are there to use your earnings as the non resident parent to fund the upkeep of the child at the resident parents home. If you have no written agreement for child support the resident parent can claim a % of your earnings, so the question is do you really want to lose a possible 20% of your weekly income over £20 child benefit? The CSA would also back date this from separation. Let her have the child benefit, let her have her new life, keep seeing your child and be grateful you can have all your wages and access to you kid.
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