Match.com (Volume 6)
Discussion
Well, since Rich has so eloquently summed up all of the wimmins and all of the gays, I'd love to hear his views on other pidgeonholable portions of the world's population. What are your feeling son foxhunters, taxi divers, estate agents, bankers, scots, southererns, welsh, gingers, short and fat populations?
Vaud said:
Your choice of course, but I don't think your comments reflect the majority.
Sharing challenges, events, coaching each other out of our comfort zones to do more (not just together), raising family - my toddler daughter brings me more joy than I thought possible, etc. Kids are different tbh. Your child will ALWAYS want you around. Wives can be swayed...
The closest couples I know balance each other, smooth some of the rougher edges of each other, whilst amplifying some of the previously hidden qualities whilst retaining identities - no "matching shell suits". Most go for the matching suits. It fulfils them
People are not static creatures - they evolve through life. Get complacent and Lazy
Being in a relationship does not mean "tied down". I don't think it is healthy to have all the same interests, or all the same friends, or do the same things. Where they overlap, great. Where they don't - it maintains personal space. I agree on the shared interests. I compete at a sport. I see a couple (that I don't know too well) that are only together because of that sport. How dull is that! I can think of another 4 couples I know, top of my head (2 married, 1 about 4 years, 1 about 8yrs with 2 kids) They have their own friends. But more often the guys will do what the lady says. Looking at their Facebook. They let the women run their lives. It's no balance. It's dominant and subservient. It's not freedom. They see her friends more than their own. In an extreme example 1 of the married guys hasn't seen (in the flesh) me or our mutual friends for over a year. He does what makes her happy. None of these groups above know each other. So the similarities are noticeable
As I said, I think you are wrong in casting a wide generalization. I do see couples that atrophy once becoming a couple, become dull, inseparable and inward looking; in others I see they both become even more brilliant people and learn new things. I think that is without doubt the minority
I'd have loved them as friends either way, but the couple are even more fun than the solo individual. The banter is amazing, for a start.And presumably the many tedious arguments. We've all been there when a couple are warring!. It's such a crowd pleaser
Sharing challenges, events, coaching each other out of our comfort zones to do more (not just together), raising family - my toddler daughter brings me more joy than I thought possible, etc. Kids are different tbh. Your child will ALWAYS want you around. Wives can be swayed...
The closest couples I know balance each other, smooth some of the rougher edges of each other, whilst amplifying some of the previously hidden qualities whilst retaining identities - no "matching shell suits". Most go for the matching suits. It fulfils them
People are not static creatures - they evolve through life. Get complacent and Lazy
Being in a relationship does not mean "tied down". I don't think it is healthy to have all the same interests, or all the same friends, or do the same things. Where they overlap, great. Where they don't - it maintains personal space. I agree on the shared interests. I compete at a sport. I see a couple (that I don't know too well) that are only together because of that sport. How dull is that! I can think of another 4 couples I know, top of my head (2 married, 1 about 4 years, 1 about 8yrs with 2 kids) They have their own friends. But more often the guys will do what the lady says. Looking at their Facebook. They let the women run their lives. It's no balance. It's dominant and subservient. It's not freedom. They see her friends more than their own. In an extreme example 1 of the married guys hasn't seen (in the flesh) me or our mutual friends for over a year. He does what makes her happy. None of these groups above know each other. So the similarities are noticeable
As I said, I think you are wrong in casting a wide generalization. I do see couples that atrophy once becoming a couple, become dull, inseparable and inward looking; in others I see they both become even more brilliant people and learn new things. I think that is without doubt the minority
I'd have loved them as friends either way, but the couple are even more fun than the solo individual. The banter is amazing, for a start.And presumably the many tedious arguments. We've all been there when a couple are warring!. It's such a crowd pleaser
ali_kat said:
Because you don't realise it now, but there is something missing in your life. Someone nagging me presumably 
Warning - soppy alert - thought I was unbelievably happy when I met J, then we got married & only then did we realise that we were 'complete'. Utterly content with life. Nothing is ever complete, until the day you die. It's all just passing the time until then
Alert over
You sound very young for your 3ish years, how long did your longest r/s last out of curiosity? Little under 2 years, though there was a "break" in there of 3 months. New rule. Don't EVER go back
Warning - soppy alert - thought I was unbelievably happy when I met J, then we got married & only then did we realise that we were 'complete'. Utterly content with life. Nothing is ever complete, until the day you die. It's all just passing the time until then
Alert over
You sound very young for your 3ish years, how long did your longest r/s last out of curiosity? Little under 2 years, though there was a "break" in there of 3 months. New rule. Don't EVER go back
g3org3y said:
I'd wager you haven't been in a good meaningful relationship with a decent woman. If you had, you would realise the absurdity of your comments.
I'd wager you're just sleepwalking towards retirement. Doing the 2.4 kids, house, pensions 9-5 thing. It's because peer pressure expects of you. You don't question it. You feel empty without those things. I feel sorry for you. You're just not indulging in critical thought of your decisions.g3org3y said:
As I've mentioned previously, I genuinely feel that your attitude says much more about your social group (and the associated women you encounter through this) than any discovered 'truth'.
Again, all IMVHO.
I (like everyone has) have met, seen and interacted with women from all ages and most backgrounds. You think Kate Middleton married him because he made her laugh? You think that vacuous Bimbo who married a Oil billionaire did because they "completed each other" Again, all IMVHO.
Gump.
You misunderstand. I'm not judging anybody. I'm accepting them for how they are. And like anything, once you know how they are, you can move forward in the best way for yourself.
CharlesdeGaulle said:
I'm not so sure, I reckon he'd be better with women than Rich W.
Maybe Rich chooses not to have any romantic involvement with women? For all you know he could very easily entice any girl into his life but has decided he doesn't want to do that for his own very valid reasons.Might be worth pointing out this in Rich_W's profile:
Notes:
86% Trolling
14% Facts
If it's not the former, then the recent posts are some of the saddest (in the literal sense) stuff I've read in a long time. I'm lucky enough to have a beautiful g/f with an adorable persona, she does not conform to any of the s
t posted by Rich. In fact at the age of 40, I've never been in a relationship with someone like that...
Notes:
86% Trolling
14% Facts
If it's not the former, then the recent posts are some of the saddest (in the literal sense) stuff I've read in a long time. I'm lucky enough to have a beautiful g/f with an adorable persona, she does not conform to any of the s
t posted by Rich. In fact at the age of 40, I've never been in a relationship with someone like that...Impasse said:
CharlesdeGaulle said:
I'm not so sure, I reckon he'd be better with women than Rich W.
Maybe Rich chooses not to have any romantic involvement with women? For all you know he could very easily entice any girl into his life but has decided he doesn't want to do that for his own very valid reasons.I make polite excuses. It has no draw for me whatsoever.
Trackdemon
Give it a few years
Rich_W said:
g3org3y said:
I'd wager you haven't been in a good meaningful relationship with a decent woman. If you had, you would realise the absurdity of your comments.
I'd wager you're just sleepwalking towards retirement. Doing the 2.4 kids, house, pensions 9-5 thing. It's because peer pressure expects of you. You don't question it. You feel empty without those things. I feel sorry for you. You're just not indulging in critical thought of your decisions.k flannel and I suspect the majority of posters are more likely to agree with me.But oh wait, you know the 'truth'.
Yes, some people marry for cash, some marry for looks, some marry for convenience or fear of loneliness. But maybe, just maybe could you perhaps consider that some individuals enter relationships because they really enjoy each other's company. Being in a relationship doesn't mean fundamentally changing your personality or life, it's supposed to be symbiotic. I think Vaud has already described it quite eloquently.
No-one claims one should be in a relationship for the sake of it. Far from it. In fact, being in the wrong relationship is much worse than being in no relationship at all.
Rich_W said:
I (like everyone has) have met, seen and interacted with women from all ages and most backgrounds.
Do tell us more about the women who you 'interacted with' who wanted designer bags and a holiday in Kos that you seem to judge all women by. 
Rich_W said:
Some of my girl-friends (platonic type) often wonder why I have no GF. Recently 1 tried to get me along to a night out where she had arranged for a (single) girl we both knew to be there. The other day 1 asked "When are you going to get a GF?"
I make polite excuses. It has no draw for me whatsoever.
Trackdemon
Give it a few years
Judging by the amount of men on Tinder and POF who only use it for hookups, I would say more and more men are starting to think Like Rich. I don't know a single one of my married friends who is happy, most of them are just putting up with it for the kids or the fact that they would be financially screwed over if they split.I make polite excuses. It has no draw for me whatsoever.
Trackdemon
Give it a few years
Joey Deacon said:
Rich_W said:
Some of my girl-friends (platonic type) often wonder why I have no GF. Recently 1 tried to get me along to a night out where she had arranged for a (single) girl we both knew to be there. The other day 1 asked "When are you going to get a GF?"
I make polite excuses. It has no draw for me whatsoever.
Trackdemon
Give it a few years
Judging by the amount of men on Tinder and POF who only use it for hookups, I would say more and more men are starting to think Like Rich. I don't know a single one of my married friends who is happy, most of them are just putting up with it for the kids or the fact that they would be financially screwed over if they split.I make polite excuses. It has no draw for me whatsoever.
Trackdemon
Give it a few years
Joey Deacon said:
Judging by the amount of men on Tinder and POF who only use it for hookups, I would say more and more men are starting to think Like Rich. I don't know a single one of my married friends who is happy, most of them are just putting up with it for the kids or the fact that they would be financially screwed over if they split.
My marriage thankfully ended rather than continuing the nightmare that it had become. Whilst that has put me off marriage, I do however have a good few friends who are irritatingly happily married. I know a few others who have had marriage breakdowns over the last few years.But I do also see a few obviously married people on Tinder ....
At the risk of appearing on the cringeworthy thread, looks like a good old (very) small town dating "fun" here!
A female friend joined tinder the other day and we have both liked each other. No problem there, but she also went home with another friend recently after a night out. Good old very small town incestuous relationships!
A female friend joined tinder the other day and we have both liked each other. No problem there, but she also went home with another friend recently after a night out. Good old very small town incestuous relationships!
NRS said:
At the risk of appearing on the cringeworthy thread, looks like a good old (very) small town dating "fun" here!
A female friend joined tinder the other day and we have both liked each other. No problem there, but she also went home with another friend recently after a night out. Good old very small town incestuous relationships!
That's where finding someone attractive ends for me. Instantly. the idea that they have been with someone I know would make it a total non starter.A female friend joined tinder the other day and we have both liked each other. No problem there, but she also went home with another friend recently after a night out. Good old very small town incestuous relationships!
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