Match.com (Volume 6)
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Oh the teachers, responsible for me popping my first cherry and in more recent history sleeping with the girl with the biggest tits I've ever had the fortune to sleep with.
POF is full of em for some reason.
As above, fill your boots and enjoy - there is a whole untapped market of these creatures stuck with female colleagues and dubious IT teacher men with nose hair issues. If you can't get one of them - give up now
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POF is full of em for some reason.
As above, fill your boots and enjoy - there is a whole untapped market of these creatures stuck with female colleagues and dubious IT teacher men with nose hair issues. If you can't get one of them - give up now
.
CountZero23 said:
Oh the teachers, responsible for me popping my first cherry and in more recent history sleeping with the girl with the biggest tits I've ever had the fortune to sleep with.
POF is full of em for some reason.
As above, fill your boots and enjoy - there is a whole untapped market of these creatures stuck with female colleagues and dubious IT teacher men with nose hair issues. If you can't get one of them - give up now
.
From what I've seen teachers and nurses tend to make up a large percentage of people online dating.POF is full of em for some reason.
As above, fill your boots and enjoy - there is a whole untapped market of these creatures stuck with female colleagues and dubious IT teacher men with nose hair issues. If you can't get one of them - give up now
.
L55
I wouldn't call it banter, more important to be easy going, relaxed and have a giggle. I still get the nervs sometimes but just learn to take a deep breath and roll with it.
No need to try and impress with fancy restaurants or gifts but a good knowledge of cosy pubs with lovely views and decent house reds wont do you any harm (and that used to work when i was younger than you).
Good to see your recent efforts are working but word to the wise, the "nice tits" and "chubby" talk doesn't come across very well.
I wouldn't call it banter, more important to be easy going, relaxed and have a giggle. I still get the nervs sometimes but just learn to take a deep breath and roll with it.
No need to try and impress with fancy restaurants or gifts but a good knowledge of cosy pubs with lovely views and decent house reds wont do you any harm (and that used to work when i was younger than you).
Good to see your recent efforts are working but word to the wise, the "nice tits" and "chubby" talk doesn't come across very well.
Mashedpotatoes said:
L55
Good to see your recent efforts are working but word to the wise, the "nice tits" and "chubby" talk doesn't come across very well.
That was my first thought. When I read that I instantly thought that your attitude towards women might be part of the problem, funnily enough most women don't like to be seen as a pair of nice tits.Good to see your recent efforts are working but word to the wise, the "nice tits" and "chubby" talk doesn't come across very well.
SpunkyGlory said:
Mashedpotatoes said:
L55
Good to see your recent efforts are working but word to the wise, the "nice tits" and "chubby" talk doesn't come across very well.
That was my first thought. When I read that I instantly thought that your attitude towards women might be part of the problem, funnily enough most women don't like to be seen as a pair of nice tits.Good to see your recent efforts are working but word to the wise, the "nice tits" and "chubby" talk doesn't come across very well.
SpunkyGlory said:
Mashedpotatoes said:
L55
Good to see your recent efforts are working but word to the wise, the "nice tits" and "chubby" talk doesn't come across very well.
That was my first thought. When I read that I instantly thought that your attitude towards women might be part of the problem, funnily enough most women don't like to be seen as a pair of nice tits.Good to see your recent efforts are working but word to the wise, the "nice tits" and "chubby" talk doesn't come across very well.
For me its an "odd attitude" up there with describing sleeping with a woman as a destructive event - "I smashed that", etc (which indicates a slight misunderstanding of the two way nature of sex) and the "she was pure filth" type descriptions for, what seems to be, any woman that simply enjoys the same things the man does! In my experience women may sometimes have slightly higher comfort hurdles to overcome but once relaxed in the relationship will happily enjoy exactly the same activities as the average man. Or at least enjoy doing things the guy likes as a means of pleasing him (in the same way, one hopes, the guy might) Maybe guys that like to smash the s
t out of the girl never find them quite so willing to leap their comfort hurdles hence, when the odd one does, they find the remarkable event best described as having found themselves a filthy bh......no doubt with great tits!L555BAT said:
I'm in a bit of a wilderness on the dating front and have been for several years. I'm 27 now and most of the single women on online sites are younger than me. I feel that unless I make some progress on turning it around in the next year or so, it'll be the scrapheap for me.
Rarely get replies on POF. I've been on it off and on for about 3 years, from that I've had 2 dates - last one a year and a half ago. All my effort of writing thought-out messages, tweaking profile text, taking good photos when doing stuff (never used to) for my profile, always come down to nothing. I must have messages over a thousand girls on there by now, I've even tried bottom of the barrel girls just to see if they'd reply.
Had a small number of matches on Tinder, didn't turn into anything. Now they have the likes limit, girls are being more picky and I get no matches at all.
I live in a big city but no other sites have many members here, even OkCupid and Match which I've tried on a few occasions. I live here for work, so no friends here except "work friends" for Friday night drinks. I have friends in other cities, some have tried to set me up with their girlfriends' friends but they are competitive and are always careful to choose someone worse than their own girlfriend for me in case it works out and damages their position, nothing came out of this and it annoyed me. The "always single" etc. thing is always a jibe that's thrown my way when someone is on the losing side of banter, I find myself keeping quiet at times and just letting other things wash over me, this leads to accusations of becoming boring, it saddens me.
I'm afraid it's getting me down big time, I know it shouldn't. Many people I know are starting to move in together, marry, have kids, couples dinner parties etc. I have no desire to do that now, but I have absolutely nothing, zero, and have never had more than a date. My hair is starting to thin out in parts, and the front is receding. I may need to have glasses in the next 2 years. I go to the gym a few times a week, it keeps me fit but no visible results. By the end of the work week, I'm really tired. Not sure I'd have the energy for any relationship and keeping up with work. I see guys everywhere I go happy, successful, fit, tall, well dressed, good looking, popular, nice car, etc., which just confirms to me why the hell would any girl have interest in me. I had none of those things a few years ago, all I have now is success, nice clothes and car. I feel left out when I see friends and relationships are discussed, for some of them its become a taboo subject to bring up because they know my situation. I'm always the single one at family events, people used to joke in a friendly way but now it's a no-go topic. It feels like I'm already on the conveyor belt to the scrapheap, and everyone knows it.
What the fk do I do, PH?
Sorry, been out for a while. Rarely get replies on POF. I've been on it off and on for about 3 years, from that I've had 2 dates - last one a year and a half ago. All my effort of writing thought-out messages, tweaking profile text, taking good photos when doing stuff (never used to) for my profile, always come down to nothing. I must have messages over a thousand girls on there by now, I've even tried bottom of the barrel girls just to see if they'd reply.
Had a small number of matches on Tinder, didn't turn into anything. Now they have the likes limit, girls are being more picky and I get no matches at all.
I live in a big city but no other sites have many members here, even OkCupid and Match which I've tried on a few occasions. I live here for work, so no friends here except "work friends" for Friday night drinks. I have friends in other cities, some have tried to set me up with their girlfriends' friends but they are competitive and are always careful to choose someone worse than their own girlfriend for me in case it works out and damages their position, nothing came out of this and it annoyed me. The "always single" etc. thing is always a jibe that's thrown my way when someone is on the losing side of banter, I find myself keeping quiet at times and just letting other things wash over me, this leads to accusations of becoming boring, it saddens me.
I'm afraid it's getting me down big time, I know it shouldn't. Many people I know are starting to move in together, marry, have kids, couples dinner parties etc. I have no desire to do that now, but I have absolutely nothing, zero, and have never had more than a date. My hair is starting to thin out in parts, and the front is receding. I may need to have glasses in the next 2 years. I go to the gym a few times a week, it keeps me fit but no visible results. By the end of the work week, I'm really tired. Not sure I'd have the energy for any relationship and keeping up with work. I see guys everywhere I go happy, successful, fit, tall, well dressed, good looking, popular, nice car, etc., which just confirms to me why the hell would any girl have interest in me. I had none of those things a few years ago, all I have now is success, nice clothes and car. I feel left out when I see friends and relationships are discussed, for some of them its become a taboo subject to bring up because they know my situation. I'm always the single one at family events, people used to joke in a friendly way but now it's a no-go topic. It feels like I'm already on the conveyor belt to the scrapheap, and everyone knows it.
What the f
k do I do, PH?You've already convinced yourself you're s
t, I guess you to change that mindset. If I may though, quite a lot of what you've said is b
ks. Reliance on Tinder/Match/PoF will push you into a corner because of limited quantity sample and the quality isnt great. That's not the only place to meet people or women. They're everywhere. Being 27, not being able to find a partner, on the scrapheap. b
ks. I had a dry spell in my late 20s, it sorted itself out again soon as I hit 30, and I married at 37. The paranoia is creeping in with you saying things like your mates will only set you up with a munter because they see you as competition. That doesnt happen, they're not saving the good ones for themselves, they're rating you as what they see you and relating that to who might be best suited for you.
It sounds like you're having an argument in your head as to where you stand. You want a girl who's a solid 8 or a 9 but your confidence says you're a 4. Your head says you should be a 8 but your mates and probably the noanswers on POF probably see you as a 6.
If you can get away from the ladder, you might see people as people instead of a points system, and will probably get on better with them because you're not ranking them on their tits or how pretty their face is.
Seems to me that many of the women on tinder fall into 3 distinct categories.
1. Ugly
2. Second time around (often with sprogs)
3. Transient in the lifestyle (often through work) and never settled as a result.
Been an interesting sociological experiment dipping my toe in to it for the last fortnight, having never done any internet dating or such like before. At a guess I swiped 1 in 20 of the women and didn't have the age ranges set to extremities and nor distance.
Been quite enjoyable but my attention span is waning and texting so many people all at once is time consuming and distracting me. Wasn't so bad when it was through tinder itself as you can wait until you've got a 30 min free time and blitz them back, but once it moves over to text or whatsapp its then almost constant and was fast becoming flattering but annoying. Add to that a few organic captures in the last fortnight on night's out and I could spend 24/7 tapping into my phone rather than getting on with enjoying life.
I think that is part of the issue with this sort of "dating" - it's not like being introduced to a friend of a friend at a wedding, where its 1 on 1 and you can weigh each other up. Instead its a blitz of 75 "matches" all at once and trying to separate the wheat from the chaff and possibly overlooking some better matches purely because its almost window shopping, and purely based on aesthetics at that. It's all a bit overwhelming to the extent I am not sure I can be arsed with feeling like part of an ebay auction.
All that said, it's been a big eye-opener.
1. Ugly
2. Second time around (often with sprogs)
3. Transient in the lifestyle (often through work) and never settled as a result.
Been an interesting sociological experiment dipping my toe in to it for the last fortnight, having never done any internet dating or such like before. At a guess I swiped 1 in 20 of the women and didn't have the age ranges set to extremities and nor distance.
Been quite enjoyable but my attention span is waning and texting so many people all at once is time consuming and distracting me. Wasn't so bad when it was through tinder itself as you can wait until you've got a 30 min free time and blitz them back, but once it moves over to text or whatsapp its then almost constant and was fast becoming flattering but annoying. Add to that a few organic captures in the last fortnight on night's out and I could spend 24/7 tapping into my phone rather than getting on with enjoying life.
I think that is part of the issue with this sort of "dating" - it's not like being introduced to a friend of a friend at a wedding, where its 1 on 1 and you can weigh each other up. Instead its a blitz of 75 "matches" all at once and trying to separate the wheat from the chaff and possibly overlooking some better matches purely because its almost window shopping, and purely based on aesthetics at that. It's all a bit overwhelming to the extent I am not sure I can be arsed with feeling like part of an ebay auction.
All that said, it's been a big eye-opener.
Tiggsy said:
SpunkyGlory said:
Mashedpotatoes said:
L55
Good to see your recent efforts are working but word to the wise, the "nice tits" and "chubby" talk doesn't come across very well.
That was my first thought. When I read that I instantly thought that your attitude towards women might be part of the problem, funnily enough most women don't like to be seen as a pair of nice tits.Good to see your recent efforts are working but word to the wise, the "nice tits" and "chubby" talk doesn't come across very well.
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andy-xr said:
Sorry, been out for a while.
You've already convinced yourself you're st, I guess you to change that mindset.
If I may though, quite a lot of what you've said is bks. Reliance on Tinder/Match/PoF will push you into a corner because of limited quantity sample and the quality isnt great. That's not the only place to meet people or women. They're everywhere.
Being 27, not being able to find a partner, on the scrapheap. bks. I had a dry spell in my late 20s, it sorted itself out again soon as I hit 30, and I married at 37.
The paranoia is creeping in with you saying things like your mates will only set you up with a munter because they see you as competition. That doesnt happen, they're not saving the good ones for themselves, they're rating you as what they see you and relating that to who might be best suited for you.
It sounds like you're having an argument in your head as to where you stand. You want a girl who's a solid 8 or a 9 but your confidence says you're a 4. Your head says you should be a 8 but your mates and probably the noanswers on POF probably see you as a 6.
If you can get away from the ladder, you might see people as people instead of a points system, and will probably get on better with them because you're not ranking them on their tits or how pretty their face is.
Cheers. I am and always have been hard on myself on how good I am with everything from school to DIY to work.You've already convinced yourself you're s
t, I guess you to change that mindset. If I may though, quite a lot of what you've said is b
ks. Reliance on Tinder/Match/PoF will push you into a corner because of limited quantity sample and the quality isnt great. That's not the only place to meet people or women. They're everywhere. Being 27, not being able to find a partner, on the scrapheap. b
ks. I had a dry spell in my late 20s, it sorted itself out again soon as I hit 30, and I married at 37. The paranoia is creeping in with you saying things like your mates will only set you up with a munter because they see you as competition. That doesnt happen, they're not saving the good ones for themselves, they're rating you as what they see you and relating that to who might be best suited for you.
It sounds like you're having an argument in your head as to where you stand. You want a girl who's a solid 8 or a 9 but your confidence says you're a 4. Your head says you should be a 8 but your mates and probably the noanswers on POF probably see you as a 6.
If you can get away from the ladder, you might see people as people instead of a points system, and will probably get on better with them because you're not ranking them on their tits or how pretty their face is.
Yes about the head argument. Not quite wanting an 8 or 9 - a 6 or 7 would be perfectly fine although I don't have a points mindset. As long as I'm attracted and like her for who she is, that's ok. I don't rank people, but I don't pretend I could be happy with someone I don't find attractive either. If we're talking points though, I think I'm a bit unbalanced being maybe 8 on most things but a 3-4 for dating, and a 5 for physical attractiveness.
After reading this thread, and out of curiosity, i downloaded Tinder, Happn & OKCupid apps last week.
I separated from my wife a few months ago, so thought it was time to 'test the water'.
To keep it fair, the age range was kept the same, as was the geographic radius reached.
I live in Hertfordshire, in a medium size town, fairly busy and with a good catchment area.
Tinder produced very little in the way of selectable ladies.
Swiping right (or more frequently left!) got pretty boring, pretty quickly.
Not a single reply to any that received the right swipe.
Is this worth the effort, or are replies minimal, but worth waiting for?
OKCupid offered me a selection of 6 ladies locally!
Not a huge choice, although I did receive 2 messages (the 1st as it was sent mid sentence!) from a 44 y/o lady, who sadly had hit a few branches on her fall from a certain tree!!
Happn, was interesting.
3 'paths were crossed' in my local town over the course of a week!
Over the weekend, i went to Central London, and my phone went nuts!
Are all these apps aimed at a more vibrant / city dwelling lifestyle?
If so, I either need to accept that:
a) I need to move.
b) Shack up with a 44 year old cave beast.
c) get the hell away from a computer and do things the old fashioned way.
I separated from my wife a few months ago, so thought it was time to 'test the water'.
To keep it fair, the age range was kept the same, as was the geographic radius reached.
I live in Hertfordshire, in a medium size town, fairly busy and with a good catchment area.
Tinder produced very little in the way of selectable ladies.
Swiping right (or more frequently left!) got pretty boring, pretty quickly.
Not a single reply to any that received the right swipe.
Is this worth the effort, or are replies minimal, but worth waiting for?
OKCupid offered me a selection of 6 ladies locally!
Not a huge choice, although I did receive 2 messages (the 1st as it was sent mid sentence!) from a 44 y/o lady, who sadly had hit a few branches on her fall from a certain tree!!
Happn, was interesting.
3 'paths were crossed' in my local town over the course of a week!
Over the weekend, i went to Central London, and my phone went nuts!
Are all these apps aimed at a more vibrant / city dwelling lifestyle?
If so, I either need to accept that:
a) I need to move.
b) Shack up with a 44 year old cave beast.
c) get the hell away from a computer and do things the old fashioned way.
Hi - always an amusing and interesting thread!
Despite being becoming single after 15 years in 2013 I have not had to resort to any internet stuff due to, you know, talking to people in the real world. So I'm not here to ask advice for myself.
However I am here to 'pimp out' a good friend of mine - she is bemoaning her single life and when we went to dinner last Sunday showed me the responses she has been getting on one of these internet dating sites.
She pays £15 a month (I think) and the quality of potential suitors is dire. She has an age range of 40-55 selected and it was a list of overweight blokes, people wearing awful clothes, guys with their wedding photos as profile photo, one chap seemed to be sexually assaulting a dolphin in his profile, one guy clearly astride his mobility scooter etc...very slim pickings!
She has a distance set of 30 miles (lives in London) and there just must be some decent men out there surely..?!
She is 40s, English (with a mix of middle east and Indian - bit exotic), very interesting job, travels, has a nice place in North London, slim, does pilates and other exercise, great fun on a night out, loves a good dance and a few drinks, excellent company etc...thinks her hair and eyes are her best features..I just can't recommend her highly enough, an absolute top mate and must be a good catch for the right guy.
No, I'm not posting a photo here.
But, if you are in that age range, look after yourself reasonably well, like to travel, can talk about things other than football, like the odd night out and live in that catchment area please pm me. As she said on Sunday she just wants to meet people to go for a coffee and see if they get on.
Also, just to add to the thread now having seen a load of profile photos - why, just why would you have your 'advertisement' i.e. your profile with the main photo of you in a carpark in a cheap anorak, a wedding photo with what I presume is your ex-wife, in the sea in trunks when you have clearly let yourself go, looking miserable as fk or tiling an awful looking bathroom - just why?!? Unbelievable!!
Despite being becoming single after 15 years in 2013 I have not had to resort to any internet stuff due to, you know, talking to people in the real world. So I'm not here to ask advice for myself.
However I am here to 'pimp out' a good friend of mine - she is bemoaning her single life and when we went to dinner last Sunday showed me the responses she has been getting on one of these internet dating sites.
She pays £15 a month (I think) and the quality of potential suitors is dire. She has an age range of 40-55 selected and it was a list of overweight blokes, people wearing awful clothes, guys with their wedding photos as profile photo, one chap seemed to be sexually assaulting a dolphin in his profile, one guy clearly astride his mobility scooter etc...very slim pickings!
She has a distance set of 30 miles (lives in London) and there just must be some decent men out there surely..?!
She is 40s, English (with a mix of middle east and Indian - bit exotic), very interesting job, travels, has a nice place in North London, slim, does pilates and other exercise, great fun on a night out, loves a good dance and a few drinks, excellent company etc...thinks her hair and eyes are her best features..I just can't recommend her highly enough, an absolute top mate and must be a good catch for the right guy.
No, I'm not posting a photo here.
But, if you are in that age range, look after yourself reasonably well, like to travel, can talk about things other than football, like the odd night out and live in that catchment area please pm me. As she said on Sunday she just wants to meet people to go for a coffee and see if they get on.
Also, just to add to the thread now having seen a load of profile photos - why, just why would you have your 'advertisement' i.e. your profile with the main photo of you in a carpark in a cheap anorak, a wedding photo with what I presume is your ex-wife, in the sea in trunks when you have clearly let yourself go, looking miserable as f
k or tiling an awful looking bathroom - just why?!? Unbelievable!!Gassing Station | The Lounge | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff