Match.com (Volume 6)
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Out of interest you mention all these great features but don't mention if she's good looking. Is this because she isn't, or simply because you forgot or didn't deem it necessary information?
I'm in a completely different age range by the way so not asking for myself, just curious as to why these sites aren't working for her.
I'm in a completely different age range by the way so not asking for myself, just curious as to why these sites aren't working for her.
SpunkyGlory said:
Out of interest you mention all these great features but don't mention if she's good looking. Is this because she isn't, or simply because you forgot or didn't deem it necessary information?
I'm in a completely different age range by the way so not asking for myself, just curious as to why these sites aren't working for her.
as above - as a 40 something who did Tinder in London....I can assure you there is no shortage of decent men who will find the hot women online. I'm in a completely different age range by the way so not asking for myself, just curious as to why these sites aren't working for her.
SpunkyGlory said:
Out of interest you mention all these great features but don't mention if she's good looking. Is this because she isn't, or simply because you forgot or didn't deem it necessary information?
I'm in a completely different age range by the way so not asking for myself, just curious as to why these sites aren't working for her.
Yep, good looking girl.I'm in a completely different age range by the way so not asking for myself, just curious as to why these sites aren't working for her.
She has been using one website for a month or so. Reasonable amount of interest but the responders are just awful.
jdw100 said:
SpunkyGlory said:
Out of interest you mention all these great features but don't mention if she's good looking. Is this because she isn't, or simply because you forgot or didn't deem it necessary information?
I'm in a completely different age range by the way so not asking for myself, just curious as to why these sites aren't working for her.
Yep, good looking girl.I'm in a completely different age range by the way so not asking for myself, just curious as to why these sites aren't working for her.
She has been using one website for a month or so. Reasonable amount of interest but the responders are just awful.
jdw100 said:
Tiggsy said:
as above - as a 40 something who did Tinder in London....I can assure you there is no shortage of decent men who will find the hot women online.
She doesn't want to do Tinder - is looking for someone equally as interested in a proper relationship.Which site is she using?
Match seesm to be the one with the most people looking for something serious.
Lady of the same kind of age in the office had a fair bit of success with Soul Mates on the Guardian - well, ok one had a nervous breakdown and the other broke his hip and after her nursing him for a few months declared maybe they should just be friends.
Ok, maybe avoid Soul Mates...
CountZero23 said:
jdw100 said:
Tiggsy said:
as above - as a 40 something who did Tinder in London....I can assure you there is no shortage of decent men who will find the hot women online.
She doesn't want to do Tinder - is looking for someone equally as interested in a proper relationship.CountZero23 said:
Tinder has a undeserved reputation as a hookup app, all sorts on there looking for diffferent things. Definetly worth a shot, just avoid the bathroom selfy / tiger stroking crew.
Which site is she using?
Match seesm to be the one with the most people looking for something serious.
Lady of the same kind of age in the office had a fair bit of success with Soul Mates on the Guardian - well, ok one had a nervous breakdown and the other broke his hip and after her nursing him for a few months declared maybe they should just be friends.
Ok, maybe avoid Soul Mates...
Yeah...not really selling it to me there....Which site is she using?
Match seesm to be the one with the most people looking for something serious.
Lady of the same kind of age in the office had a fair bit of success with Soul Mates on the Guardian - well, ok one had a nervous breakdown and the other broke his hip and after her nursing him for a few months declared maybe they should just be friends.
Ok, maybe avoid Soul Mates...
Tinder is not a hook up app....its just an online "bar" (or insert any other place you might catch someones eye)
People are on there to meet someone, that's all....whether they want a long term thing or a one nighter is no more likely than random person in a bar.
The ONLY reason not to use it is if you are not at least a 6/10 looks/body wise
People are on there to meet someone, that's all....whether they want a long term thing or a one nighter is no more likely than random person in a bar.
The ONLY reason not to use it is if you are not at least a 6/10 looks/body wise
Exactly my experience Tiggsy (albeit brief).
To discount it because of some stigma seems somewhat absurd. It really is no different to looking around a crowded bar, seeing who you fancy, seeing if that is mutual and then striking up small talk.
Indeed, its the very same people that are in these bars that have a tinder profile also; it's not some sub-breed (well, not all of them are..).
To discount it because of some stigma seems somewhat absurd. It really is no different to looking around a crowded bar, seeing who you fancy, seeing if that is mutual and then striking up small talk.
Indeed, its the very same people that are in these bars that have a tinder profile also; it's not some sub-breed (well, not all of them are..).
yep - I met all sorts after all sorts. And not age related either, in fact the people I met my age (35-45) where often after something less serious than friends of my other halfs that are on there (mid 20's)
The "hook up" thing is normally a lined used by people that would struggle on there.
The "hook up" thing is normally a lined used by people that would struggle on there.
Calza said:
Got nearly two weeks between first and seconds dates (genuine reasons - unavoidable).
Talk about pressure to keep up the right level of conversation / interest!
To be honest, just bin it. There's a rich seam of fanny to be mined, and for the rights and wrongs you can be selfish and picky if you want. Careful though, seasoned pros bin women for scarily spurious reasons, that might become a habit. Talk about pressure to keep up the right level of conversation / interest!
Blown2CV said:
Calza said:
Got nearly two weeks between first and seconds dates (genuine reasons - unavoidable).
Talk about pressure to keep up the right level of conversation / interest!
To be honest, just bin it. There's a rich seam of fanny to be mined, and for the rights and wrongs you can be selfish and picky if you want. Careful though, seasoned pros bin women for scarily spurious reasons, that might become a habit. Talk about pressure to keep up the right level of conversation / interest!
I'd suggest sending her the odd text when you feel like it while hitting Tinder like a ginger stepchild to get some more lined up. Enjoy your freedom while you still have it.
Best way to f
k things up is to be overly bothered about the girl. Get a fk buddy, keep yourself busy - tends to work much better if they sense you're willing to walk away.There are lots of great options out there for you - act like it!
CountZero23 said:
No pressure at all, it's currently just some girl you've been on a date with
I'd suggest sending her the odd text when you feel like it while hitting Tinder like a ginger stepchild to get some more lined up. Enjoy your freedom while you still have it.
Best way to fk things up is to be overly bothered about the girl. Get a fk buddy, keep yourself busy - tends to work much better if they sense you're willing to walk away.
There are lots of great options out there for you - act like it!
Totally agree. Putting women on a pedestal and getting overly bothered about them is the best way to scare them away. You need to be casual and act like you have options and are more than happy to walk away. I know this is quite a difficult thing to pull off initially, but the more women you date, the more buddies you will get and the less bothered you will be about any other women you date. This will definitely come across and this will in turn lead to a higher retention rate of women. Trust me, if you manage to pull this off you will find that they are the ones chasing you.I'd suggest sending her the odd text when you feel like it while hitting Tinder like a ginger stepchild to get some more lined up. Enjoy your freedom while you still have it.
Best way to f
k things up is to be overly bothered about the girl. Get a fk buddy, keep yourself busy - tends to work much better if they sense you're willing to walk away.There are lots of great options out there for you - act like it!
Also the women who state they are not interested in one night stands, want a relationship and think this is the best way of finding a Beta provider. Trust me, they were not like this when they were in full party mode in their 20's and they will still be more than happy for a one night stand if an Alpha male comes along.
Sorry, maybe I came across as a bit too needy in that post. I'm not scared or putting women up on pedestal, just posting it as a point of interest rather than cry for help. I quite like the girl and we seem to be talking a lot, effortlessly.. I actually find it quite an entertaining way to pass the time and the exchanges are perking me up from other real life things at the moment.
I do like the ruthless advice given on here though, the majority of the time it's probably correct though so I won't complain
I do like the ruthless advice given on here though, the majority of the time it's probably correct though so I won't complain
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