Match.com (Volume 6)
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Had date number four with my Tinder vixen last night. Things are progressing well, it wasn't actually a date at all really. Due to work commitments she came over here for a few hours and spent the night. We definitely have an amazing connection.
Here's an issue though, we agreed that we need to be better at seeing each other weekly and weekends work best. It's my birthday next Sunday and I have no plans / am not much of a celebrator (nothing against it, I just don't make a big fuss - plus I'm seeing family the weekend after). Would it be strange to spend a large part of my birthday with her as a 5th date? It's just a day to me really..
Here's an issue though, we agreed that we need to be better at seeing each other weekly and weekends work best. It's my birthday next Sunday and I have no plans / am not much of a celebrator (nothing against it, I just don't make a big fuss - plus I'm seeing family the weekend after). Would it be strange to spend a large part of my birthday with her as a 5th date? It's just a day to me really..
Calza said:
Would it be strange to spend a large part of my birthday with her as a 5th date? It's just a day to me really..
As Robin says, just don't mention it. My birthday was on a Monday last year, had plans with mates the weekend before and plans with the parents the week after. Went on a Tinder date and ended up going out with her for 6 months. Hot as hell too.
Worked alright for me...
CountZero23 said:
As Robin says, just don't mention it.
My birthday was on a Monday last year, had plans with mates the weekend before and plans with the parents the week after. Went on a Tinder date and ended up going out with her for 6 months. Hot as hell too.
Worked alright for me...
It's already been mentioned, but it's a good sign!My birthday was on a Monday last year, had plans with mates the weekend before and plans with the parents the week after. Went on a Tinder date and ended up going out with her for 6 months. Hot as hell too.
Worked alright for me...
Right, meant to have a coffee date tomorrow night, she says she might have a meeting to go to but will text to confirm, do i ?
A, text her at three o'clock to ask her if we are still on ?
B, dont bother and if i dont hear from here text her on Wednesday to ask her if she is still interested ?
Thought i'd ask on here after my last texting disaster
Another thing is she may not be exactly my type, never fully know till you meet face to face though, she's a bit older than me and has two school age kids which i was trying to avoid (any major disadvantage with this ?), just happy to get a hope of a date from POF, hard enough just to get a reply (i may be setting my sights a bit high), she looks not bad in her (single) pic.
A, text her at three o'clock to ask her if we are still on ?
B, dont bother and if i dont hear from here text her on Wednesday to ask her if she is still interested ?
Thought i'd ask on here after my last texting disaster
Another thing is she may not be exactly my type, never fully know till you meet face to face though, she's a bit older than me and has two school age kids which i was trying to avoid (any major disadvantage with this ?), just happy to get a hope of a date from POF, hard enough just to get a reply (i may be setting my sights a bit high)
, she looks not bad in her (single) pic. Markgenesis said:
Right, meant to have a coffee date tomorrow night, she says she might have a meeting to go to but will text to confirm, do i ?
A, text her at three o'clock to ask her if we are still on ?
B, dont bother and if i dont hear from here text her on Wednesday to ask her if she is still interested ?
Thought i'd ask on here after my last texting disaster
Another thing is she may not be exactly my type, never fully know till you meet face to face though, she's a bit older than me and has two school age kids which i was trying to avoid (any major disadvantage with this ?), just happy to get a hope of a date from POF, hard enough just to get a reply (i may be setting my sights a bit high), she looks not bad in her (single) pic.
She'll do for practicing on.A, text her at three o'clock to ask her if we are still on ?
B, dont bother and if i dont hear from here text her on Wednesday to ask her if she is still interested ?
Thought i'd ask on here after my last texting disaster
Another thing is she may not be exactly my type, never fully know till you meet face to face though, she's a bit older than me and has two school age kids which i was trying to avoid (any major disadvantage with this ?), just happy to get a hope of a date from POF, hard enough just to get a reply (i may be setting my sights a bit high)
, she looks not bad in her (single) pic. If she already said she might not be able to make the date then I'd suggest another day when she's not so busy. As it stands you should tell her 'let me know my 12 so I can make other plans'.
If you don't want to go out with a girl who has children I'd suggest avoiding it all together. Been their and done that, loved it in many ways but if I'm going to do it again they'll be mine.
If you don't want to go out with a girl who has children I'd suggest avoiding it all together. Been their and done that, loved it in many ways but if I'm going to do it again they'll be mine.
Markgenesis said:
Right, meant to have a coffee date tomorrow night, she says she might have a meeting to go to but will text to confirm, do i ?
A, text her at three o'clock to ask her if we are still on ?
B, dont bother and if i dont hear from here text her on Wednesday to ask her if she is still interested ?
Thought i'd ask on here after my last texting disaster
Another thing is she may not be exactly my type, never fully know till you meet face to face though, she's a bit older than me and has two school age kids which i was trying to avoid (any major disadvantage with this ?), just happy to get a hope of a date from POF, hard enough just to get a reply (i may be setting my sights a bit high), she looks not bad in her (single) pic.
You sound desperate if you're happy to get a hope of a date with anyone. It's something you probably should look at, if she's a stunner with kids, and you dont want kids, then you should really figure out whether that's a showstopper for you and if it is, not go looking for people with kids regardless of how good looking they are. If you dont know if kids are an issue, then try to keep an open mind, maybe see what happens and take t from there.A, text her at three o'clock to ask her if we are still on ?
B, dont bother and if i dont hear from here text her on Wednesday to ask her if she is still interested ?
Thought i'd ask on here after my last texting disaster
Another thing is she may not be exactly my type, never fully know till you meet face to face though, she's a bit older than me and has two school age kids which i was trying to avoid (any major disadvantage with this ?), just happy to get a hope of a date from POF, hard enough just to get a reply (i may be setting my sights a bit high)
, she looks not bad in her (single) pic. There's a difference between keeping an open mind and going with the flow and being too available though. Just be cool, if either of you cant make the date then that's fine, there's no need to text her or storm off or take any action, no-one owes each other anything and there's no point planning a future just yet til you've each decided you want to invest time. Basically, dont buy the ring or the dress and then throw it back at her for having kids
andy-xr said:
You sound desperate if you're happy to get a hope of a date with anyone. It's something you probably should look at, if she's a stunner with kids, and you dont want kids, then you should really figure out whether that's a showstopper for you and if it is, not go looking for people with kids regardless of how good looking they are. If you dont know if kids are an issue, then try to keep an open mind, maybe see what happens and take t from there.
There's a difference between keeping an open mind and going with the flow and being too available though. Just be cool, if either of you cant make the date then that's fine, there's no need to text her or storm off or take any action, no-one owes each other anything and there's no point planning a future just yet til you've each decided you want to invest time. Basically, dont buy the ring or the dress and then throw it back at her for having kids
Not exactly desperate just haven't dated for a while and excited at the prospect of meeting someone (whether it goes past the first meeting or not).There's a difference between keeping an open mind and going with the flow and being too available though. Just be cool, if either of you cant make the date then that's fine, there's no need to text her or storm off or take any action, no-one owes each other anything and there's no point planning a future just yet til you've each decided you want to invest time. Basically, dont buy the ring or the dress and then throw it back at her for having kids
Also this is my first try at internet dating, only been three weeks, should be more patient i guess.
Besides, i paid for the upgrade on POF and want to get my moneys worth
.Truith is i'm finding it pretty hard to find women my age group on POF (late 30's, 40's) without kids, the kids should'nt be a problem, like you suggest i'll keep an open mind.
She canceled the meeting tonight anyway, meeting on Friday now
Cheers for the advice
Markgenesis said:
Blown2CV said:
what's a coffee date?
Just a casual, no pressure meet so she can hopefully suss out you are not an axe murderer/rapist/serial killer 
If she feels, safe, confient and fancies you proper date later, that's how it's meant to work anyway.
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