Match.com (Volume 6)

Match.com (Volume 6)

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Pebbles167

3,418 posts

151 months

Sunday 22nd November 2015
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Usually weddings are great for getting a few numbers. That said, I went to my 48 year old boss' s wedding last summer. The only ones remotely close to my age were his 18 year old son and his girlfriend.

Everyone else was quite a bit older, and even they weren't single. It was a lovely wedding, but the bleak chances of flirting with anyone was depressing.

ecsrobin

17,024 posts

164 months

Monday 23rd November 2015
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A quick question for those more experienced than me, so it's quite usual to see nurses single, I guess due to their shift work however I have noticed that every other single girl appears to be a teacher. So why are a lot of teachers single?

Pebbles167

3,418 posts

151 months

Monday 23rd November 2015
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I guess that they often do some pretty time consuming courses, and then move area to get a job in a school. Single and without a huge friend group to fall back on.

That and many of them think they are uber smart, funny and intelligent, when in actual fact they just come across as annoying.

SkinnyPete

1,411 posts

148 months

Monday 23rd November 2015
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How do you guys normally greet first dates you've met on the internet?

If we've only exchanged numbers briefly then I'll give them a handhake (not a business one).

If ive been speaking to them on the phone and built up some rapport then I want to hold their hand while giving them a kiss on the cheek but I rarely go through with this in case I startle them.

otherman

2,190 posts

164 months

Monday 23rd November 2015
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SkinnyPete said:
hold their hand while giving them a kiss on the cheek
that's the norm for me. It's a date, not a meeting.

hajaba123

1,302 posts

174 months

Monday 23rd November 2015
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ecsrobin said:
A quick question for those more experienced than me, so it's quite usual to see nurses single, I guess due to their shift work however I have noticed that every other single girl appears to be a teacher. So why are a lot of teachers single?
Mental, self obsessed bad time managers who all think they work too hard. Some are quite hot though so go for it!

Pebbles167

3,418 posts

151 months

Monday 23rd November 2015
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A quick hug, with a smile. No longer than a second or two, and definitely no arse grabbing (unless the prior conversations have made room for such things)

A hand shake seems alien. Like others have said, it's not a meeting with a client.

blindswelledrat

25,257 posts

231 months

Monday 23rd November 2015
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SkinnyPete said:
If we've only exchanged numbers briefly then I'll give them a handhake (not a business one).
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biglaugh Yes skinny. Handshakes are the perfect way to start a date. I recommend perhaps some kind of date-contract to make her sign before things get underway. Perhaps produce a file on her from a metal file-case whereby you tell her what you've already worked out about her and that you just need her to fill in the blanks.

blindswelledrat

25,257 posts

231 months

Monday 23rd November 2015
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biglaugh (Except the Magic FM bit as mine is tuned to Magic and not because my mum likes it)

AdamIndy

1,661 posts

103 months

Monday 23rd November 2015
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This worries me. I have my first match.com date tomorrow night.......she is a teacher!biggrin

SkinnyPete

1,411 posts

148 months

Monday 23rd November 2015
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Pebbles167 said:
I had the same thing on Wednesday. She turned up and I got shy, went red and mumbled something about buying her a drink, after giving her a slightly awkward hug. She asked for a coke. I then proceeded to get mildly drunk and steer clear of awkward topics. I didn't hear from her again afterwards!

Not bad, considering I've been off the dating scene for 9 months.
She flaked! Said because I went Sunday (1 day) without texting her she thought it was off. Oh dear...

Pebbles167

3,418 posts

151 months

Monday 23rd November 2015
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Haha! Oh well, never mind. Probably was a non starter anyway. This isn't high school after all, and it's unreasonable to fly off about someone not texting for a day. That being said if you don't know each other that well then it's probably best to try keep regular contact, or let the date know if you're going to be unavailable. You probably sent the message that you're not really that interested, and despite what you say that's what she'll think.

No harm done, on to the next one! biggrin

SkinnyPete

1,411 posts

148 months

Monday 23rd November 2015
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Matched on Thursday evening, gave her a call for over 20 mins. Same again on Saturday noon to propose a date for Monday (today). Text her this morning to say hi see you later, she said said what I said in my previous post and then said she'd call me when she was home. Obviously no call was forth coming biggrin

My mate says chase because she is very fit but part of me doesn't want to give her the satisfaction.

Pebbles167

3,418 posts

151 months

Monday 23rd November 2015
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Go for it, why not. Don't know what you'd say though? Would have to use some ingenuity to come up with something that could change the situation, as whatever you say will most likely be ignored. Keep it short perhaps. Call her a weirdo, girls don't like that and often defend as to why they are in fact not weird. Could potentially start a conversation which you may be able to turn around?

Pebbles167

3,418 posts

151 months

Monday 23rd November 2015
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Wiser words ^ Go with that.

Out of interest, how far do you all set your search preferences? I suppose it very much depends on the person, but I set mine for 15 miles and tend to not really bother with anything further.

Edit: Gretchen said something smart. Ie: Ignore her, move on.

xjay1337

15,966 posts

117 months

Tuesday 24th November 2015
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No, don't chase her.
Don't set the standard for your relationship moving forward whatsoever.
Women who want to be chased aren't worth chasing.
Because she's fit. Like that matters in 10 years.

hornetrider

63,161 posts

204 months

Tuesday 24th November 2015
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xjay1337 said:
No, don't chase her.
Don't set the standard for your relationship moving forward whatsoever.
Women who want to be chased aren't worth chasing.
Because she's fit. Like that matters in 10 years.
Who cares what she looks like in 10 years? He only wants to disappoint her for 10 seconds.

Pebbles167

3,418 posts

151 months

Tuesday 24th November 2015
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Send her 10 creepy text messages one after the other, then find her on facebook and send her a friend request.

Girls love that, it drives them wild hehe

AdamIndy

1,661 posts

103 months

Tuesday 24th November 2015
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Just home from my first ever internet dating err.....date.

Why didn't I do it sooner? It was great! She drives a Clio but I can forgive her for that I suppose!biggrin

Note to any new users of the site, don't go solely on the pics in their profile. My date tonight's pics were OK, not very flattering, I didn't know what to expect really but she was stunning! Had to chuckle at a guy at the bar saying "you've done well for yourself there!" hehe

trackdemon

12,149 posts

260 months

Wednesday 25th November 2015
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andy-xr said:
Dromedary66 said:
robsco said:
The most fascinating behaviour is displayed as soon as a female pokes her head from the parapet (Gretchen). I daren't imagine how many PMs she has received from contributors to this thread.
Indeed. I enjoyed her sneering deconstruction of the tart in the photos, yet at the same time rating highly the gender bender horror-show posted later. Then again, from the photos she's posted of herself elsewhere on this forum it's clear she moves in alternative circle so perhaps that isn't surprising.
I think you missed the point, but it was noted that you got all sneery at the earliest opportunity
Easily understood though
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