Safe sex etiquette - new partner

Safe sex etiquette - new partner

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littlebasher

3,767 posts

170 months

Thursday 28th August 2014
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boobles said:
Up the bum would certainly prevent her getting pregnant.
Try getting her to agree to that though!

Jazzer

1,665 posts

203 months

Thursday 28th August 2014
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Just wait till she's sleeping!!

mybrainhurts

90,809 posts

254 months

Thursday 28th August 2014
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If you do it cross-eyed, she holds her breath, then you fart, she won't conceive.

toohuge

3,430 posts

215 months

Friday 29th August 2014
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I am married......

But I have several single friends and it is the done thing to request blood work as it were from prospective partners. I think anyone that refuses or even finds this strange needs their head testing. The dangers are very real and it's simply not worth taking the risk.

OP - You did the right thing - tragically the company your lady friend keeps are pretty naive.

motco

15,919 posts

245 months

Friday 29th August 2014
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Jazzer said:
Have you heard of the blue waffle?!
A myth...

FredClogs

14,041 posts

160 months

Saturday 30th August 2014
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Tiggsy said:
Don't feel so daft now then! We waited 3 months, had the tests, got the all clear and all good from
Then.

Better safe than sorry!
"we" waited 3 months... No you waited three months, she's probably... Oh never mind.

theshrew

6,008 posts

183 months

Saturday 30th August 2014
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I suppose it also depends on if you want to be a guest on Jeremy Kyle laugh

dorset_clive

71 posts

194 months

Wednesday 10th September 2014
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Like the OP I came back on to the 'dating' culture last year aged 49 (widowhood in my case), and also I remember John Hurt's "dont die of ignorance" adverts from the early 1980s!

I went to the GUM clinic after a particularly salacious phase, just for a check up. I got chatting to the nurse (failed to get her to go out on a date with me biggrin ) and she told me that it is now 'normal' for youngsters to go get tests every three - six months when they are sleeping around (protected sex), and then if a relationship becomes more serious, the couple come in and get tested together, sharing the results. Assuming both are all clear, at that point they stop using protection (other than birth control).

Certainly my new lady (of ten months) had no problem with the idea of getting tested with me. Personally, I'd be quite worried if someone refused on the basis of being 'offended'...why wouldnt you want to know you and your partner are ok?

As aside, when I was having a series of ONS I used the ask if they'd play 'bareback', if they answered yes, I ran for the hills!!


Haggleburyfinius

6,593 posts

185 months

Wednesday 10th September 2014
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toohuge said:
I have several single friends and it is the done thing to request blood work as it were from prospective partners. I think anyone that refuses or even finds this strange needs their head testing. The dangers are very real and it's simply not worth taking the risk..
Seriously??

I don't think I've ever heard of anyone doing this...

BrabusMog

20,083 posts

185 months

Thursday 11th September 2014
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Tiggsy said:
littlebasher said:
boobles said:
Up the bum would certainly prevent her getting pregnant.
Try getting her to agree to that though!
Eastern European. Seems they are a little more "open minded" about things!
Tread carefully, there is a reason they have a reputation for being quite fiery as I recently found out!

boobles

15,241 posts

214 months

Thursday 11th September 2014
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BrabusMog said:
Tread carefully, there is a reason they have a reputation for being quite fiery as I recently found out!
Try getting your brown wings did ya?

irocfan

40,152 posts

189 months

Thursday 11th September 2014
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boobles said:
BrabusMog said:
Tread carefully, there is a reason they have a reputation for being quite fiery as I recently found out!
Try getting your brown wings did ya?
hmmmm


Pixelpeep7r

8,600 posts

141 months

Thursday 11th September 2014
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this song will tell you all you need to know.

smile

toohuge

3,430 posts

215 months

Thursday 11th September 2014
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Haggleburyfinius said:
toohuge said:
I have several single friends and it is the done thing to request blood work as it were from prospective partners. I think anyone that refuses or even finds this strange needs their head testing. The dangers are very real and it's simply not worth taking the risk..
Seriously??

I don't think I've ever heard of anyone doing this...
I live in the US now so things are very different. We have one of the highest rates of std's amongst teenagers for a start which is worrying and their casual regard to safe sex, thinking it's just to avoid pregnancy mean that std's are very, very common.

dorset_clive

71 posts

194 months

Friday 12th September 2014
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toohuge said:
I live in the US now so things are very different. We have one of the highest rates of std's amongst teenagers for a start which is worrying and their casual regard to safe sex, thinking it's just to avoid pregnancy mean that std's are very, very common.
Sorry if this comes across as anti-American, but why does it not surprise me that a country claiming high public morals (restricting open education about STDs and sex in general because "youngsters should be 'saving' themselves) is actually now suffering such problems.

I'm well aware of faux-correlation, but (iirc) the two European countries with the lowest STD and teenage pregnancy rates are the Netherlands and Norway...just remind me, what are their attitudes to sex and sex education?!!