Sharing phone / email / texts / computer with partner
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Having gasped at a thread on a here a while ago about MumsNet, I had a play there for a little while.
I'm astounded at the number of people (er, women) that simply demand to see their partners phone or computer or correspondence and any hesitation in handing it over promotes a 'I have to leave him now' 'I'm getting my finances in order' response.
I have nothing to hide, but have always been relatively private and would be horrified if my partner suddenly 'demanded' that ....
Does your partner go through your emails and texts and regularly trawl through your phone?
I'm astounded at the number of people (er, women) that simply demand to see their partners phone or computer or correspondence and any hesitation in handing it over promotes a 'I have to leave him now' 'I'm getting my finances in order' response.
I have nothing to hide, but have always been relatively private and would be horrified if my partner suddenly 'demanded' that ....
Does your partner go through your emails and texts and regularly trawl through your phone?
My partner has access to all my email and text by nature of how our phones and computers are set up.
She never asks to see them and could presumably read emails or text for me if she wanted to.
We have no passwords or user accounts for phones or computers that would result in only one of us having access to email or text.
I certainly don't feel the need to read any texts or emails for her, I expect she's the same. Just as I wouldn't listen in on her phone calls or read her mail etc.
She never asks to see them and could presumably read emails or text for me if she wanted to.
We have no passwords or user accounts for phones or computers that would result in only one of us having access to email or text.
I certainly don't feel the need to read any texts or emails for her, I expect she's the same. Just as I wouldn't listen in on her phone calls or read her mail etc.
No, neither her to me, or me to her
Shows a total lack of trust in a relationship, so would suggest to me that it's already on rocky ground
With my ex wife, I became paranoid in the extreme about certain issues and convinced myself that she was cheating, and to my shame I did look at her phone without her knowledge. The topless photos sent to a guy at work just confirmed my suspicions
With my current partner I have never once felt the need to ask who she is talking to or check up on her. After the situation that I found myself in before I think that speaks volumes of the relationship that I am now a part of
Shows a total lack of trust in a relationship, so would suggest to me that it's already on rocky ground
With my ex wife, I became paranoid in the extreme about certain issues and convinced myself that she was cheating, and to my shame I did look at her phone without her knowledge. The topless photos sent to a guy at work just confirmed my suspicions
With my current partner I have never once felt the need to ask who she is talking to or check up on her. After the situation that I found myself in before I think that speaks volumes of the relationship that I am now a part of
She doesn't but there's nothing to be found (I hope).
With the ease with which a Google Mail account can be setup I'd keep a separate one for dodgy stuff if I felt the need. The incognito browsing function in Chrome / IE is also very useful for covering your tracks when looking a porn, your second email account, etc.
With the ease with which a Google Mail account can be setup I'd keep a separate one for dodgy stuff if I felt the need. The incognito browsing function in Chrome / IE is also very useful for covering your tracks when looking a porn, your second email account, etc.
Our computers and email accounts etc. are all linked together so we have free access to each others emails / bank accounts / phone records etc. but we both have very quiet lives..... so when we are home together it is rare for either of our phones to ring or one of us to be stuck on the phone texting or what have you.
We have nothing to hide, but my wife purposely doesn't look at any of my work emails due to sensitive information etc.
We have nothing to hide, but my wife purposely doesn't look at any of my work emails due to sensitive information etc.
We have seperate phones & laptops but if she wanted to look at any time she could as she knows my passwords and I know hers.
Life was so much easier when we shared a laptop though, we had seperate logons (but again knew each others passwords) but I only had one device to back-up, de-bug, scan, clean and de-fragment every time "The computer was running really slowly"....
Why on earth would you make such a demand though?, it says a lot about the state of your relationship and speaks volumes about your state of mind.
Life was so much easier when we shared a laptop though, we had seperate logons (but again knew each others passwords) but I only had one device to back-up, de-bug, scan, clean and de-fragment every time "The computer was running really slowly"....
Why on earth would you make such a demand though?, it says a lot about the state of your relationship and speaks volumes about your state of mind.
After 24 years together and 20 years married last month NO.
Neither of our phones have passwords or codes, I can instantly wipe the buggers if they get lost or stolen but then again nothing on them we care about as we have complete trust.
My home computer and tablet she can access if she so wishes as there is nothing but work crap on it anyway. And anything personal in my emails is available to read as well should we so wish but we have nothing to hide so we do not care and have never asked each other if we can read them.
When we are out I leave the phone on the table and she can read all she wants or look at the news or just browse the net and it doesn't worry me and I have nothing to worry about.
Neither of our phones have passwords or codes, I can instantly wipe the buggers if they get lost or stolen but then again nothing on them we care about as we have complete trust.
My home computer and tablet she can access if she so wishes as there is nothing but work crap on it anyway. And anything personal in my emails is available to read as well should we so wish but we have nothing to hide so we do not care and have never asked each other if we can read them.
When we are out I leave the phone on the table and she can read all she wants or look at the news or just browse the net and it doesn't worry me and I have nothing to worry about.
Edited by Allanv on Tuesday 23 September 18:12
t, be back in a minute.el stovey said:
My partner has access to all my email and text by nature of how our phones and computers are set up.
She never asks to see them and could presumably read emails or text for me if she wanted to.
We have no passwords or user accounts for phones or computers that would result in only one of us having access to email or text.
I certainly don't feel the need to read any texts or emails for her, I expect she's the same. Just as I wouldn't listen in on her phone calls or read her mail etc.
+1She never asks to see them and could presumably read emails or text for me if she wanted to.
We have no passwords or user accounts for phones or computers that would result in only one of us having access to email or text.
I certainly don't feel the need to read any texts or emails for her, I expect she's the same. Just as I wouldn't listen in on her phone calls or read her mail etc.
My wife just got an iphone. She's had an ipad for years (that i got her for xmas to stop here using mine) they are now of course linked.
I was charging her ipad the other day on my desk and bong bong bong it goes, linked messages/texts.
I was only going to turn off the sound, honest. I couldn't resist though and read her message.
Big mistake.
So, so, very very dull.
I was charging her ipad the other day on my desk and bong bong bong it goes, linked messages/texts.
I was only going to turn off the sound, honest. I couldn't resist though and read her message.
Big mistake.
So, so, very very dull.
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