Your lowest point?
Discussion
Just wondering what others have had to deal with, and how did you turn it around?
I've had a pretty crappy 6 months for various reasons, and after a while despite trying to fight the system the constant knock backs really do start getting you down and you begin to wonder if there really is a light at the end of that tunnel? I've seen various threads in the past refering to depression, the homeless, suicide etc and have to be honest in the last 6 months think i have much more sympathy and a better understanding as to why some people end up going down these routes, rightly or wrongly. I guess until you've been there yourself maybe its harder to have a proper understanding of the situation, until you're in it yourself.
I woke up today at my lowest point, the mrs was ill in bed with a migraine and sickness for the 2nd day running, mainly due to the last 6 months finally starting to beat us. I came downstairs knowing we had no milk in the fridge, or sugar in the cupboard so an unsweet black coffee it was. I sat in the garden blankly staring at the floor whilst drinking my cuppa knowing that sadly the cupboards are virtually bear, although we've done a pretty good job of making the pasta and veg go a long way, but with only £2.07 left in the bank and now being out of ideas i honestly feel like i have failed. 6 months ago i never thought things could get as low as they have, but hey ho, these are the cards we are dealt.
So i mooched around the house gathered up a collection of dvds and blueray films aswell as some xbox games, (about 70 in total) plus my decent satnav, (new last year at £249) and walked down to the town and flogged the lot in 1 of those exchange type shops. I got £50 for the lot
I wasn't expecting alot but £50 hurt, but at least its £50 quids worth of shopping now in the cupboards. I hope it lasts for a while or our luck changes as otherwise its my late parents antiques next
Sorry i know its not an upbeat Saturday night topic, but interested to know how others have maybe dealt with similar situations?
I've had a pretty crappy 6 months for various reasons, and after a while despite trying to fight the system the constant knock backs really do start getting you down and you begin to wonder if there really is a light at the end of that tunnel? I've seen various threads in the past refering to depression, the homeless, suicide etc and have to be honest in the last 6 months think i have much more sympathy and a better understanding as to why some people end up going down these routes, rightly or wrongly. I guess until you've been there yourself maybe its harder to have a proper understanding of the situation, until you're in it yourself.
I woke up today at my lowest point, the mrs was ill in bed with a migraine and sickness for the 2nd day running, mainly due to the last 6 months finally starting to beat us. I came downstairs knowing we had no milk in the fridge, or sugar in the cupboard so an unsweet black coffee it was. I sat in the garden blankly staring at the floor whilst drinking my cuppa knowing that sadly the cupboards are virtually bear, although we've done a pretty good job of making the pasta and veg go a long way, but with only £2.07 left in the bank and now being out of ideas i honestly feel like i have failed. 6 months ago i never thought things could get as low as they have, but hey ho, these are the cards we are dealt.
So i mooched around the house gathered up a collection of dvds and blueray films aswell as some xbox games, (about 70 in total) plus my decent satnav, (new last year at £249) and walked down to the town and flogged the lot in 1 of those exchange type shops. I got £50 for the lot
I wasn't expecting alot but £50 hurt, but at least its £50 quids worth of shopping now in the cupboards. I hope it lasts for a while or our luck changes as otherwise its my late parents antiques next
Sorry i know its not an upbeat Saturday night topic, but interested to know how others have maybe dealt with similar situations?
You know what my friend? Much of your post rings true with much of my own life which I have been dealing with, since around 2007 odd.
I have a lot of discussion, thoughts and decisions I could post about it all - but it's probably all a wee bit too much for public consumpsion.
Suffice it to say....I recognise the way you feel.
By all means drop me a PM. I might be able to help, I might not.
I have a lot of discussion, thoughts and decisions I could post about it all - but it's probably all a wee bit too much for public consumpsion.
Suffice it to say....I recognise the way you feel.
By all means drop me a PM. I might be able to help, I might not.
sc0tt said:
Ever thought about suicide?
Nasty comment.Everyone has highs and lows, you'll look back on this time of your life and realise it's made you a better/stronger person. At my lowest point I couldn't sleep for months and didn't think things would change, but slowly but surely they did. Keep looking for the positives.
ETA - are there clear causes of why you're in this predicament? For instance if it's debt related there's a multitude of people to talk to. In any case talking this through with someone will no doubt help you see some light, take Ray up on his offer.
Edited by Petrus1983 on Saturday 8th November 22:06
Petrus1983 said:
Nasty comment.
Everyone has highs and lows, you'll look back on this time of your life and realise it's made you a better/stronger person. At my lowest point I couldn't sleep for months and didn't think things would change, but slowly but surely they did. Keep looking for the positives.
It was a question and a valid one at that.Everyone has highs and lows, you'll look back on this time of your life and realise it's made you a better/stronger person. At my lowest point I couldn't sleep for months and didn't think things would change, but slowly but surely they did. Keep looking for the positives.
chilistrucker said:
No.
Then you haven't hit your lowest point my friend. You have a missus who you love and no doubt loves you, your health and a roof over your head.Wait till you hit a low point. When you phsically won't or can't get out of bed because there doesn't seem any point. You don't eat and you attempt suicide a mulitude of times.
Chin up buddy. Your just having an off day. Go for a walk in the morning over the park with the wife. Everything will seem a lot brighter then.
Good luck.
sc0tt said:
Ever thought about suicide?
Have you? go on.Chili, in answer to your question yes, many years ago.
Now I am a different person and its a distant memory, like a bad dream.
You will be OK, things that seem insurmountable now, are a hill of beans ten years down the road.
I have read about some of your problems, don't let the f
kers beat you, you will get sorted.YOU OWE ME A BREAKFAST ON THE FERRY.
Not sure why, but you do.
By the way we are using Seafrance now, for some strange reason.
Goulash and chips, and A Latte when I sea you.
Also, Finlandia is on special offer, so hurry up.
Monkeylegend said:
Did you split up with your girlfriend sometime back? Something like she didn't want to got to Oz with you and found somebody else? I wonder why.
Or was that some other a hole?
No. Thats very much incorrect, but lets not let the truth get the the way of a good story...Or was that some other a hole?
sc0tt said:
Petrus1983 said:
Nasty comment.
Everyone has highs and lows, you'll look back on this time of your life and realise it's made you a better/stronger person. At my lowest point I couldn't sleep for months and didn't think things would change, but slowly but surely they did. Keep looking for the positives.
It was a question and a valid one at that.Everyone has highs and lows, you'll look back on this time of your life and realise it's made you a better/stronger person. At my lowest point I couldn't sleep for months and didn't think things would change, but slowly but surely they did. Keep looking for the positives.
Hi
Not sure I should respond so I will..
10 years ago I was given a max of 6 months to live, I'd just got married and was completely pole axed , on the way back from the appointment with the specialist I was looking at motorway bridges with a view to hitting them at vmax
I got home and told the missus , lots of tears and we decided to do a farewell bash for friends and family, totally surreal experience .
To cut a very long story short , I went into remission and touch wood should have a normal life expectancy.
I gave up smoking and rediscovered extreme fitness and I'm a minor miracle in medical terms.
The answer for me was IMHO in my own head, my problems were big but deep down I think I had the only possible answers already in my head, you are probably the same.
Best of luck and PM if you want more psychobabble st !
Not sure I should respond so I will..
10 years ago I was given a max of 6 months to live, I'd just got married and was completely pole axed , on the way back from the appointment with the specialist I was looking at motorway bridges with a view to hitting them at vmax
I got home and told the missus , lots of tears and we decided to do a farewell bash for friends and family, totally surreal experience .
To cut a very long story short , I went into remission and touch wood should have a normal life expectancy.
I gave up smoking and rediscovered extreme fitness and I'm a minor miracle in medical terms.
The answer for me was IMHO in my own head, my problems were big but deep down I think I had the only possible answers already in my head, you are probably the same.
Best of luck and PM if you want more psychobabble s
t !chilistrucker said:
No. Suicide is not for me. But thanks for asking.
I really do hope and think that eventually this will all turn itself around, but sometimes knockback, after knockback its hard to try and see a way forward.
You should write that book. I really do hope and think that eventually this will all turn itself around, but sometimes knockback, after knockback its hard to try and see a way forward.
Edited by chilistrucker on Saturday 8th November 22:06
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