Pics online of your kids

Pics online of your kids

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essayer

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9,011 posts

193 months

Monday 24th November 2014
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Interested in others' opinions here

Is it out of order to post pictures on Facebook of other people's kids - especially if those pictures have been sent to you privately?

We have a 1mo baby and people have done this a few times now, "Look at this gorgeous pic of my friends baby" etc

It's not so much that they could end up in some grubby stash - if clothed baby pics are someone's thing - but more that I believe our son has a right to privacy, and until he can decide himself it's up to his parents to enforce that - and the majority of personal pics remain under the control of me and my OH.

Personally I would hate it if people just took pictures of me and put them on FB without my consent and so I think the same should apply to kids.

I'll have a word, but am I being nuts or do others think the same?

anonymous-user

53 months

Monday 24th November 2014
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How about just making it clear when you send pics to others that they are not to be distributed/posted on facetwit?

Ari

19,328 posts

214 months

Monday 24th November 2014
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I think the reality is that, whatever the rights and wrongs, in this digital Social Media age if you give people digital photos then you have to accept you lose all control over them.

Either don't give them out or send prints with a note stating that you'd rather these weren't shared.

Hoofy

76,253 posts

281 months

Monday 24th November 2014
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Surely, any smart paedo would walk through a shopping centre and store everything he sees on his wk bank. Or go to shutterstock.com and search for "baby" if they were so inclined. They could buy, download and print out a 10'x10' poster of a baby wearing a nappy.

McSam

6,753 posts

174 months

Monday 24th November 2014
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Ari said:
I think the reality is that, whatever the rights and wrongs, in this digital Social Media age if you give people digital photos then you have to accept you lose all control over them.

Either don't give them out or send prints with a note stating that you'd rather these weren't shared.
More or less this. People get excited and want to show their friends these things, rapidly-outdating concepts such as privacy rarely get a thought!

I'm sure that if you mentioned when sending you'd rather they weren't shared, that would be fine. But given how many baby photos end up in my Facebook feed whenever someone's brother's cousin's dog's previous owner has a child - I mean literally dozens of the same kid in the same pose - it's a pretty popular thing to be plastering all over the internet.

On the plus side for you, this means there are so many that your son need not worry too much, since he'll be pretty anonymous in the sea of generic baby photos!

Hoofy

76,253 posts

281 months

Monday 24th November 2014
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Yep, at worst, you'll get someone like me thinking, "Christ, that baby's ugly. Note to self: don't post that thought."

Puggit

48,355 posts

247 months

Monday 24th November 2014
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I'm quite liberal with my pics online - my kids are gorgeous (even if I say so myself) and the family live in a very spread out fashion.

My wife's brother and her SiL are much more restrictive, and we aren't allowed to post pics of their kids because she is from a moneyed family and they fear something will happen confused

Sheets Tabuer

18,898 posts

214 months

Monday 24th November 2014
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Tell them they can only post the ugly ones.

Amateurish

7,697 posts

221 months

Monday 24th November 2014
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essayer said:
Interested in others' opinions here

Is it out of order to post pictures on Facebook of other people's kids - especially if those pictures have been sent to you privately?

We have a 1mo baby and people have done this a few times now, "Look at this gorgeous pic of my friends baby" etc

It's not so much that they could end up in some grubby stash - if clothed baby pics are someone's thing - but more that I believe our son has a right to privacy, and until he can decide himself it's up to his parents to enforce that - and the majority of personal pics remain under the control of me and my OH.

Personally I would hate it if people just took pictures of me and put them on FB without my consent and so I think the same should apply to kids.

I'll have a word, but am I being nuts or do others think the same?
I think your position is totally reasonable, and I have friends who have exactly the same issue.

However, it is your responsiblity to make people aware when you send them photos, that they shouldn't share them on social media.

hornetrider

63,161 posts

204 months

Monday 24th November 2014
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Amateurish said:
However, it is your responsiblity to make people aware when you send them photos, that they shouldn't share them on social media.
This. Bit weird of them to do so if you've not done it yourself mind.

g3org3y

20,606 posts

190 months

Monday 24th November 2014
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McSam said:
I'm sure that if you mentioned when sending you'd rather they weren't shared, that would be fine. But given how many baby photos end up in my Facebook feed whenever someone's brother's cousin's dog's previous owner has a child - I mean literally dozens of the same kid in the same pose - it's a pretty popular thing to be plastering all over the internet.
I'm of that age where friends are having babies and consequently my entire news feed is full of it (as well as photos of what they're having for dinner!).

Maybe I need new friends?

Shaolin

2,955 posts

188 months

Monday 24th November 2014
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Hoofy said:
Yep, at worst, you'll get someone like me thinking, "Christ, that baby's ugly. Note to self: don't post that thought."
biggrin

Not just me then. Likewise the "My baby/toddler/child did something I really liked but is breathtakingly dull to the rest of the world".

To the OP, I'm really surprised that others are posting pics you send them, maybe that's because I don't indulge much in FB and the like myself. I'd either not send them, ask them not to publish them or put them on photobucket or similar and send them a link, at least that way they don't have the file so there's a few more steps needed to post the picture, most of all I'd not send them.

anonymous-user

53 months

Monday 24th November 2014
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hornetrider said:
Amateurish said:
However, it is your responsiblity to make people aware when you send them photos, that they shouldn't share them on social media.
This. Bit weird of them to do so if you've not done it yourself mind.
Agreed.

If you're not happy about it though, I'm sure you can ask your friends in a nice way if they wouldn't mind taking them down?

anonymous-user

53 months

Monday 24th November 2014
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hornetrider said:
Amateurish said:
However, it is your responsiblity to make people aware when you send them photos, that they shouldn't share them on social media.
This. Bit weird of them to do so if you've not done it yourself mind.
Agreed.

If you're not happy about it though, I'm sure you can ask your friends in a nice way if they wouldn't mind taking them down?

Matttracker

630 posts

146 months

Monday 24th November 2014
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Mostly I don't mind, but my SIL posted pics of her "gorgeous baby nephew" before we'd announced he was born, that really f'ked me off!

TIGA84

5,204 posts

230 months

Monday 24th November 2014
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essayer said:
Personally I would hate it if people just took pictures of me and put them on FB without my consent - How would you stop them, and more importantly, why - what's going to happen?

Am I being nuts - Yes.

hornetrider

63,161 posts

204 months

Monday 24th November 2014
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Matttracker said:
Mostly I don't mind, but my SIL posted pics of her "gorgeous baby nephew" before we'd announced he was born, that really f'ked me off!
Actually I remember now a cousin of mine (not very close to me either) bizarrely announced the birth of my daughter on FB before we had. He got a sternly worded message to remove it toot sweet.

SeanyD

3,372 posts

199 months

Monday 24th November 2014
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We, our friends, and family, are fairly relaxed about these things. Don't mind photos of our 5 year old girl being shown etc as she's always at one party or another etc.

Common sense, only things that don't get made public are things like 'bubble bath' bath time photos or 'leotard'd' dance class photos etc, which are kept purely in-house.

Edited by SeanyD on Monday 24th November 14:39

Hoofy

76,253 posts

281 months

Monday 24th November 2014
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NeMiSiS said:
Someone once posted a picture of Hoofy on a TVR motoring forum, it ruined him.
I care no longer.


Sheepshanks

32,529 posts

118 months

Monday 24th November 2014
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My wife is an avid Facebook user and she was showing me pictures of our granddaughter at an art class - I was quite surprised that several of the kids (these are around 3yrs old) had their full name tagged to the picture.