Dodgy texts

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BlueEyedBoy

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1,918 posts

195 months

Thursday 27th November 2014
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Looking for some advice here (and before people say, no its not someone bashing her)

My wife has had a few texts from a number. First one was "have left a package with the gardener" but then she started getting ones like "are we still on for tonight" etc which she just ignored. Yesterday she made in my opinion a mistake of replying and saying they must have the wrong number, but he then replied with her name saying if its her, then its not a wrong number (spelt her name slightly wrong but only by one letter) and its not a common name. Then sent a text asking along the lines of "how old r u".

Some other texts imply he has been to our house and tracking back the date of the first text indicates he works for a courier company that delivered something to our house.

Obviously we have the number. I phoned to check and a guy answered. The question is what to do now. I can clearly tell him to fk off and stop doing it, but I am away quite a lot, he knows were we live and I don't want to antagonise him any more and I am sure Yod*l don't exactly have a strict entry policy on their staff.

We have put a block on his number on her phone so at least she won't get any more texts.

What would people do? I thought about calling Yod*l, but again it's not knowing if he is a nutter, but I guess at least we can get a name then..

Open to PH.


Dilligaf10

2,431 posts

209 months

Thursday 27th November 2014
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If it was my wife, only one course of action...Police.

Somebody will be here in a minute to suggest VBRJ, coke & hookers, MX5, etc

omgus

7,305 posts

174 months

Thursday 27th November 2014
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101 report it get a ref number in case you need to show history.
Keep copies of all texts.
If a message arrives from an unblocked number then it's time to ask BiB to look into it more seriously, use ref number.


If your wife is not feeling safe at home because of it then get her one of the panic alarms that can be set to autodial a number with an emergency message.

She will never need it but it will give her re-assurance.


Or call him and tell him to fk off and leave your wife alone, not the best plan but definitely the first thing most people would do.

marmitemania

1,566 posts

141 months

Thursday 27th November 2014
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Send a text back pretending to be you're wife saying you want to meet up. Go and meet him and smash his legs to bits.

wildcat45

8,056 posts

188 months

Thursday 27th November 2014
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Tell the police, but a call to the courier company must surely be in order.

Scooby84

1,634 posts

189 months

Thursday 27th November 2014
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marmitemania said:
Send a text back pretending to be you're wife saying you want to meet up. Go and meet him and smash his legs to bits.
+1

Murdoc

364 posts

188 months

Thursday 27th November 2014
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Maybe he means to text someone who has the same name as your wife stored on his phone (perhaps with one letter different) but just selected the wrong person?

Squawk1066

2,939 posts

170 months

Thursday 27th November 2014
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OP can her phone block numbers? if so, that would be my first port of call.

MikeOxlong

3,112 posts

188 months

Thursday 27th November 2014
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Put his number on Gumtree with an advert for a caravan or something for sale at a too cheap to miss price.

Pferdestarke

7,179 posts

186 months

Thursday 27th November 2014
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I'd unblock his number. Id want to know if he is trying to contact her.

Police, Yodel and a call suggesting he might want to meet you for a chat is in order.

Don't show any weakness or fear.

t400ble

1,804 posts

120 months

Thursday 27th November 2014
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marmitemania said:
Send a text back pretending to be you're wife saying you want to meet up. Go and meet him and smash his legs to bits.
This

MrBarry123

6,025 posts

120 months

Thursday 27th November 2014
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How about ignoring them?

ETA: Sorry, missed the bit about your address.

Did he actually leave a package?

BlueEyedBoy

Original Poster:

1,918 posts

195 months

Thursday 27th November 2014
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Yeah we have blocked the number. I think will phone the 101 number tomorrow. I want a way to find out his name. I thought about saying I had a missed call and is this the delivery company etc. But I become unstuck on how I get his name out of him.

I a pretty confindent this is not a case of mistake by a close name match. These have been over the course of 1 month, and if you text someone asking if you are on for tonight and got no response, you would generally phone the person.

Durzel

12,232 posts

167 months

Thursday 27th November 2014
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marmitemania said:
Send a text back pretending to be you're wife saying you want to meet up. Go and meet him and smash his legs to bits hammer frozen sausages into his legs.

CoolHands

18,496 posts

194 months

Thursday 27th November 2014
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order something else from the same company as before so you get the same delivery company and when he arrives greet him with a wig on and a bunch of flowers & invite him upstairs. He'll probably beat a hasty retreat....

Mr Trophy

6,808 posts

202 months

Thursday 27th November 2014
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Put his number up on here and we'll keep calling him smile

Nigel Worc's

8,121 posts

187 months

Thursday 27th November 2014
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Before I involved the Police, if it was my wife, I'd speak to him myself and make sure there isn't an explanation like has been suggested (he has a friend with a very similar name and has got the numbers mixed up).

If I didn't get a positive response, or, if he continued, then I'd involve the Police.

Cyberprog

2,186 posts

182 months

Thursday 27th November 2014
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Get someone to ring him to do a survey, at the end tell him he's won a pair of tickets for a concert, and can you have his details to send them to him? Then get a group of mates round to monkey stomp him, or call plod and let them know. Your call. Or sausages in the lawn. Love sausages in the lawn...

T0nup

683 posts

199 months

Thursday 27th November 2014
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Had a slightly different, but similar situation a few years back. Police weren't interested unless specific threat were made, so texts kept coming.

In the end, replied to one of their texts looking for a meet. Watched from convenient vantage point over looking the meeting place. Saw culprit, sent a text to confirm, and followed them when they left. Recognised them as sub contractors we once used. We had complained about their work to the contractor. Found out where they lived, car reg and works vehicles.

Left it a week, then replied to their last text from my car sat outside telling them I'd be round. I even heard their laughter from the ground floor of the house. Then I rang the door bell. The chat we had at their front door ensured that no more texts were sent.

It's not a route I'd recommend to the anyone who isn't prepared for a confrontation, but I have to say it was fun to see the astonished look on the pillocks face when I told him who I was and held the mobile up with one of his texts showing. Very satisfying.

Mk3Spitfire

2,921 posts

127 months

Thursday 27th November 2014
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If you phone the police don't expect a crime number, just a call ref number. From police point of view, the guy hasn't done anything criminally wrong. Potential for harassment warning under the harassment act, but I imagine they will advise you first to just block the number as there may be an innocent excuse. They could possibly do some checks to see if the number is known to them, but not a lot more they can do at this stage. At the end of the day it's just some guy sending messages, which can be blocked. I can understand its unnerving, but at the moment I wouldn't panick too much.