Do you filter her out ?

[stuttgartmetal]

Sitting here watching a couple of programmes on the TV together
Now, they're quite interesting.
I'm sitting here listening to expert opinion and input

She keeps looking over and inputting a load of waffle, and statements that are frankly obvious

I'm filtering her out and focussing on the TV

She often goes into a long winded opinion on some issue, when I'm listening to an expert give opinion on talkSport.

Is this normal ?

[poing]

I've agreed (apparently) to more things than I really should have using that method, including some big purchases and holidays. It's only possible to actually listen to so much though, after a few mins it's just background noise that only gets interrupted when there was an actual question I've failed to answer, or where it wasn't a yes/no question.

[TuxMan]

Yep !!!! Mines doing it now , talking about the adverts ect !!! Missed most of it

[Vaud]

Solution - get rid of the TV?

[Potatoes]

Normal... she does the same when we talk about cars

[stuttgartmetal]

Here I was thinking I'm the only one.

Honestly, the horsesh t I'd have to plough through.

[Blayney]

Got me into trouble on many an occasion.

[spooderman]

Vaud said:

Solution - get rid of the split tail?

EFA

[KrazyIvan]

I give Mrs Ivan my undevided attention, usually by pausing what ever were watching. This will normal happen about 3 or 4 times before she asks why I keep pausing it, all I say is "well darling I can listen to you or the tv". Silence normal ensues.

[PositronicRay]

I get questioned on what's just been said.

[Spare tyre]

Hhhmm hum

Yup
Oh yeah
Yup
Absolutely
I agree

[northwest monkey]

KrazyIvan said:

I give Mrs Ivan my undevided attention, usually by pausing what ever were watching. This will normal happen about 3 or 4 times before she asks why I keep pausing it, all I say is "well darling I can listen to you or the tv". Silence normal ensues.

[poing]

Spare tyre said:

Hhhmm hum

Yup
Oh yeah
Yup
Absolutely
I agree

You see this right here is the problem as some time later I hear some mention about the flight tickets and ask what the heck she's on about. Turns out I agreed to the holiday weeks ago, or so she tells me and I'm hardly in a place to argue since it's more than possible.

[anonymous-user]

. . . . then when there's finally silence, you realise she's waiting for a reply and you've been ignoring her.

"you could at least listen when i'm talking to you!"

"It's really important" etc

[TheDoggingFather]

It's a gift and I don't limit it to merely her in draws, very useful at work too.

[Ilikebeaver]

Got into a habit of doing it to me beaver recently.

He gets very annoyed when I filter him out.

So I've started doing it to the guys at work instead.

Only so much I can listen to in one day

[vournikas]

stuttgartmetal said:

I'm listening to an expert give opinion on talkSport.

[C.A.R.]

You get a proper ear-bashing if she works out you aren't listening though, because "you never listen when I have something to say" apparently. Trouble is, they say SO MUCH it's pretty impossible to absorb it all, so I think it's natural to filter out what sounds like waffle.

Another problem is that women are capable of discussing multiple subjects simultaneously whilst still making sense (to one another). This I find completely baffling and I quite often ask my Mrs to start again from the beginning, usually only to be criticised for "not listening" again...

This post isn't intended to be sexist, not at all, if anything women share this distinct talent whereas all the blokes I've ever met are like me and like to discuss one thing at a time!

[pork911]

leave her

[Silverbullet767]

The phrase you're looking for is the mumsnet approved LTB, or 'leave the bd' for the uninitiated.

If it's any consolation, I do the same, I filter her out and it just becomes white noise. Until she raises her voice, then it becomes the brown noise.