Bestmate content- am I a mug?
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He likes travelling abroad, he is skint because he is saving money for that and doesn't want to spunk £200 on a train ticket up North when that could get him a return flight anywhere in Europe. If you're feeling all butthurt about it, get new friends that live locally, you don't have to have a "best mate", this isn't the playground.
Lost soul said:
Timmy40 said:
I'd be more worried about whether you're going to come out of the closet before you get married to be honest.
I've been in Brighton for 11 years, my cousin in Oxford has been down maybe 3 times. I go and see him a couple of times a year. But then he's into the soporific Oxford thing and just wants to sit around with his gf and get stoned.
Not going to get wound up by it, yes he's a bit of a useless
in this regard but that's just him. MTFU.
hora said:
I'm increasingly starting to feel like I'm a mug. The history- we've been bestmates since 1994. When I moved away from London 5yrs ago of course it was difficult meeting up (he lives in Brighton). I've not been the most reliable (cancelled at last moment a few times but since I moved its been me who has to make the trip down, book into a hotel (London mates get to sleep at his as they cant afford a B&B and possibly he thinks they are more likely to turn up). Not a problem but hes not once been up north. When it was my birthday in May I said I was going to stay in London- he said he was skint/couldn't even jump on the train to come up from Brighton. He always says hes skint yet hes been on 3 more foreign trips a year than me. I've had one foreign holiday in 4yrs. Hes not playing me but I'm increasingly starting to feel like he wants everyone to come to him or revolve around him.
Its his birthday soon and hes asked if I'm coming down again/staying. I've said 'difficult due to costs etc. Am I being played? Are some best friendships like this? Always slightly out of kilter? We still get on the same, same laughs etc however I'm starting to think is it worth the bloody hassle. Im getting married late next year and I really do question whether he will turn up.
I'm almost postive that there was a very similar thread to this a while ago and the "friend" turned up and set the OP straight on a few things - anyone else remember it?Its his birthday soon and hes asked if I'm coming down again/staying. I've said 'difficult due to costs etc. Am I being played? Are some best friendships like this? Always slightly out of kilter? We still get on the same, same laughs etc however I'm starting to think is it worth the bloody hassle. Im getting married late next year and I really do question whether he will turn up.
OzzyR1 said:
I'm almost postive that there was a very similar thread to this a while ago and the "friend" turned up and set the OP straight on a few things - anyone else remember it?
Not that one on the 'Video Games' forum where one PHer put a guy up for a bit and the romance was short lived?There was some solid gold in that one
Adenauer said:
mjb1 said:
He might be your best mate. You are not his any more.
That's gonna hurt!Hora, move on.
At 19/20 the person I had been best friends with for the last 9 or 10 years and I finally grew apart. A week or so later I bumped into someone I had known since we were 10 and 8 respectively but had not really spent that much time with other than on the train to school and back. In the last 18 years we have become as close as brothers, despite living over 200 miles from each other for most of that time.
If it helps it's likely it's him, not you
GG89 said:
Is this a wind up?
Why would it be out of interest? I tend not to post up my troubles but have no issue talking about them once I have dealt with them. I am a fairly confident and rational person and have a wide number of people I can call upon for support and advice in the real world if ever I need it. Not everyone is that lucky.Sometimes people also like to hear the opinions of others to see if they have reached a wacko conclusion or are on the right track.
I do feel for those that are so fragile they fear asking the advice or opinion of others.
A grown man starting a thread on a forum sulking to strangers about his best mate who doesn't seem to make enough effort to see him?
I could've excused it as OP could be in love with his mate and his mate freaked out a wee bit but thats a non-starter (maybe) as OP is getting married.
I don't mean to come across as a but it's just very strange behaviour to me.
I could've excused it as OP could be in love with his mate and his mate freaked out a wee bit but thats a non-starter (maybe) as OP is getting married.
I don't mean to come across as a
but it's just very strange behaviour to me.Gassing Station | The Lounge | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff