Holiday without the kids?
Discussion
DoubleSix said:
Sounds like you haven't taken on board what's is being said tbh
It depends on which posts you refer to. I don't listen to everyone as not everyone gives good advice. The way I feel now I wouldn't go. I have to leave them because I work away a lot. To take their mum off them is what makes me re-think. Jamesgt said:
This thread has made me re-think. I do think when they get slightly older I will never holiday without them but at such a young age I see it pointless taking them.
Long haul I agree.Short haul it can be OK.
And a holiday brings new adventures. Especially if they can walk. My daughter took her first steps on holiday last year, nice big garden and a pool for her to swim in every day and she loved it, and we were all pretty relaxed as well.
Holiday with other parents - it spreads the load and the kids can play together. 1 adult can watch 2-3 young kids so the others can get a break. Nice to give mum a break as well!
Vaud said:
Long haul I agree.
Short haul it can be OK.
And a holiday brings new adventures. Especially if they can walk. My daughter took her first steps on holiday last year, nice big garden and a pool for her to swim in every day and she loved it, and we were all pretty relaxed as well.
Holiday with other parents - it spreads the load and the kids can play together. 1 adult can watch 2-3 young kids so the others can get a break. Nice to give mum a break as well!
This all sounds nice. How did you find flying with little ones? Short haul it can be OK.
And a holiday brings new adventures. Especially if they can walk. My daughter took her first steps on holiday last year, nice big garden and a pool for her to swim in every day and she loved it, and we were all pretty relaxed as well.
Holiday with other parents - it spreads the load and the kids can play together. 1 adult can watch 2-3 young kids so the others can get a break. Nice to give mum a break as well!
Vaud said:
Different at 4/5/6/7 etc.
But aren't talking about "kids". We are talking about a few week old baby and a toddler that have a VERY high dependency on parents...
Agree, I was just referring to smiffy's viewpoint which I quoted (whose kids are teenagers). But aren't talking about "kids". We are talking about a few week old baby and a toddler that have a VERY high dependency on parents...
Regarding the OP, I don't think it would be very healthy for all concerned to leave a newborn with someone else; the grandparent/carer, the parents, or the baby. In some ways its the perfect time to be with them as all they do is sleep, yawn, drink milk, and stay where you put them!
Leaving our 5 & 6 yo at home with grandparents in April, for a 12 day holiday to LV & NY, going to miss the boys so much, no guilt, the boys are at school and first holiday abroad with my wife since we went on our honeymoon 10 years ago. With Skype etc we are only a phone all away. Two week holiday in August with them a trip to see Father Christmas in December so they won't go with out.
From a grand parents point of view...
we are having our 18 month old grandson for four nights whilst Mum and Dad go snowboarding in a couple of weeks. We love it. Hes had a couple of night on the trot a while ago when they had a weekend away. He stags here one night a week anyway so even at his young age its not unusual.
We had the odd night out when ours were growing up and they stayed with either of our parents too. I think our first holiday without them was when the were 13 and 16 resp.
we are having our 18 month old grandson for four nights whilst Mum and Dad go snowboarding in a couple of weeks. We love it. Hes had a couple of night on the trot a while ago when they had a weekend away. He stags here one night a week anyway so even at his young age its not unusual.
We had the odd night out when ours were growing up and they stayed with either of our parents too. I think our first holiday without them was when the were 13 and 16 resp.
From a grand parents point of view...
we are having our 18 month old grandson for four nights whilst Mum and Dad go snowboarding in a couple of weeks. We love it. Hes had a couple of night on the trot a while ago when they had a weekend away. He stags here one night a week anyway so even at his young age its not unusual.
We had the odd night out when ours were growing up and they stayed with either of our parents too. I think our first holiday without them was when the were 13 and 16 resp.
we are having our 18 month old grandson for four nights whilst Mum and Dad go snowboarding in a couple of weeks. We love it. Hes had a couple of night on the trot a while ago when they had a weekend away. He stags here one night a week anyway so even at his young age its not unusual.
We had the odd night out when ours were growing up and they stayed with either of our parents too. I think our first holiday without them was when the were 13 and 16 resp.
three five five said:
From a grand parents point of view...
we are having our 18 month old grandson for four nights whilst Mum and Dad go snowboarding in a couple of weeks. We love it. Hes had a couple of night on the trot a while a
go when they had a weekend away. He stags here one night a week anyway so even at his young age its not unusual.
We had the odd night out when ours were growing up and they stayed with either of our parents too. I think our first holiday without them was when the were 13 and 16 resp.
Thank you for posting from a grand parents point of view. we are having our 18 month old grandson for four nights whilst Mum and Dad go snowboarding in a couple of weeks. We love it. Hes had a couple of night on the trot a while a
go when they had a weekend away. He stags here one night a week anyway so even at his young age its not unusual.
We had the odd night out when ours were growing up and they stayed with either of our parents too. I think our first holiday without them was when the were 13 and 16 resp.
vladcjelli said:
'Oh, can you remember the time when we went to....?'
'Wait, that's right we didn't take you'
'Of course we still love you...'
I think that would apply to most of the other posters on this thread who leave their kids when they're older than a year or two. 'Wait, that's right we didn't take you'
'Of course we still love you...'
Also Id be one of the children who were left behind when I was about 8 years old for a week-ish. I was interested to hear about my parents holiday. I wasn't upset or thought they didn't loved me. I had a great time with my uncle and auntie.
Edited by Jamesgt on Friday 23 January 23:43
It was a blanket response to anyone leaving their kids out of their holiday plans.
I understand your logic in leaving them while small, but it wouldn't sit nicely with me.
We had a night away bought for us recently, with a historic town to visit nearby. Without the impetus of showing the kids round, we basically retired to the room and chilled out.
Felt like a waste without the kids.
I understand your logic in leaving them while small, but it wouldn't sit nicely with me.
We had a night away bought for us recently, with a historic town to visit nearby. Without the impetus of showing the kids round, we basically retired to the room and chilled out.
Felt like a waste without the kids.
vladcjelli said:
It was a blanket response to anyone leaving their kids out of their holiday plans.
I understand your logic in leaving them while small, but it wouldn't sit nicely with me.
We had a night away bought for us recently, with a historic town to visit nearby. Without the impetus of showing the kids round, we basically retired to the room and chilled out.
Felt like a waste without the kids.
I'm well aware that some may not want to and respect this but we are not all the same and I'm sure if one night is a problem a longer break surely will be. I have yet to hear a convincing argument to the contrary other than a personal opinion.I understand your logic in leaving them while small, but it wouldn't sit nicely with me.
We had a night away bought for us recently, with a historic town to visit nearby. Without the impetus of showing the kids round, we basically retired to the room and chilled out.
Felt like a waste without the kids.
We are both happy to do it having had one and two nights away, both sets of Grandparents are over the moon to help and actively encouraged it after all both of our Parents left us and others at home when we were young too.
Never done more than one night away, the kids love going to stay with Grandma, but we just use that an excuse to go out locally.
I wouldnt occur to me to leave my kids with the grandparents whilst we went on holiday.
Maybe the best compromise would be to take the grandparents on holiday with you to share the childcare? I have also done this!
I wouldnt occur to me to leave my kids with the grandparents whilst we went on holiday.
Maybe the best compromise would be to take the grandparents on holiday with you to share the childcare? I have also done this!
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