Getting rid of ex partners belongings

Getting rid of ex partners belongings

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e39darren

Original Poster:

181 posts

140 months

Thursday 21st May 2015
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I'm after some advice if anyone can help, following on from my previous thread about my mother's boyfriend threatening to kill my brother, he has been released from prison (he had a suspended sentence) and my mother has got a restraining order against him.
The thing we want to know is what do we do with his belongings, clothes, tools etc.
My mother asked the people from victim support and they said if you haven't heard off him or his solicitor after a week she can legally get rid of them as he as abandoned them.
Does anyone know if this is true?
He doesn't have any family we can contact and my mother hasn't got the space anymore to store it.
Thanks in advance

Mandalore

4,165 posts

112 months

Thursday 21st May 2015
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I would be tempted to rent a secure storage unit for 3 months disclosing the full reason with the storage company, pay in cash, photograph everything of value with a witness present, before locking it down and give him the key via his solicitor - to ensure there is a record of him having received it.


hornetrider

63,161 posts

204 months

Thursday 21st May 2015
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Mandalore said:
I would be tempted to rent a secure storage unit for 3 months disclosing the full reason with the storage company, pay in cash, photograph everything of value with a witness present, before locking it down and give him the key via his solicitor - to ensure there is a record of him having received it.
This. If it's thrown out it will only antagonise the situation further.

e39darren

Original Poster:

181 posts

140 months

Thursday 21st May 2015
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Mandalore said:
I would be tempted to rent a secure storage unit for 3 months disclosing the full reason with the storage company, pay in cash, photograph everything of value with a witness present, before locking it down and give him the key via his solicitor - to ensure there is a record of him having received it.
The trouble with that is money, she is disabled and things are extremely tight

Jasandjules

69,825 posts

228 months

Thursday 21st May 2015
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Has she notified him and given him the chance to collect them?

e39darren

Original Poster:

181 posts

140 months

Thursday 21st May 2015
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Jasandjules said:
Has she notified him and given him the chance to collect them?
She doesn't know where he is living now and is afraid to due to the restraining order, she would have thought he would have to do it through his solicitor

Jasandjules

69,825 posts

228 months

Thursday 21st May 2015
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e39darren said:
She doesn't know where he is living now and is afraid to due to the restraining order, she would have thought he would have to do it through his solicitor
Has she contacted his solicitor then?

TooMany2cvs

29,008 posts

125 months

Thursday 21st May 2015
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e39darren said:
The trouble with that is money, she is disabled and things are extremely tight
Perhaps a sympathetic family member could help her out there?

simon1987

401 posts

134 months

Thursday 21st May 2015
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never heard of a carboot sale before?

Jasandjules

69,825 posts

228 months

Thursday 21st May 2015
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simon1987 said:
never heard of a carboot sale before?
Not unless and until reasonable attempts have been made to contact him and offer the chance to collect them.

GreatGranny

9,097 posts

225 months

Thursday 21st May 2015
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TooMany2cvs said:
Perhaps a sympathetic family member could help her out there?
I was going to suggest that each family member puts in what they can to help her out.
Sounds like she's had a bad time of things and wants rid of everything to do with him.

If he's been in Prison he must have supplied an address on release.
Maybe a letter to his Solicitor?

randlemarcus

13,507 posts

230 months

Thursday 21st May 2015
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Whereabouts is she? Perhaps a friendly family member or really nice PH person could throw them in a van and deliver to his solicitors?

Who Me

89 posts

121 months

Thursday 21st May 2015
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TooMany2cvs said:
e39darren said:
The trouble with that is money, she is disabled and things are extremely tight
Perhaps a sympathetic family member could help her out there?
hehe