Kids bed times during the holidays?
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0000 said:
1030 is plenty late enough to head off their rooms. No need to be up later, if they want to join the RN then that'd be ok with me too, but I'd imagine the first thing the RN would do is ensure they were up early enough being physically active enough that they'd take themselves off to bed before 1030 anyway.
The point was it was my choice. I had to be up at a set time, so it was up to me to sort my s
t out the night before. To put this in context for the OP, do you think my Mum set my bed time when I was home on leave from the RN 
Mine are 8 & 11. I'm an IT guy, so the internet is controlled like in an office.
During the week the Internet goes off at 9.00pm and comes back on at 6.00am, then goes off again at 7.30am.
Of course their entire universe collapses when the have no youtube etc, so they no option to go to sleep at night, they get thier morning 'hit' first thing - then because it goes off again at 7.30am - they get up and have breakfast!
Fridays and Saturdays are unrestricted.
During the week the Internet goes off at 9.00pm and comes back on at 6.00am, then goes off again at 7.30am.
Of course their entire universe collapses when the have no youtube etc, so they no option to go to sleep at night, they get thier morning 'hit' first thing - then because it goes off again at 7.30am - they get up and have breakfast!
Fridays and Saturdays are unrestricted.
Mine are 8 & 11. I'm an IT guy, so the internet is controlled like in an office.
During the week the Internet goes off at 9.00pm and comes back on at 6.00am, then goes off again at 7.30am.
Of course their entire universe collapses when the have no youtube etc, so they no option to go to sleep at night, they get thier morning 'hit' first thing - then because it goes off again at 7.30am - they get up and have breakfast!
Fridays and Saturdays are unrestricted.
We have tried several times to allow them to self moderate their access, but they cant and just spend all night on it, then they dont get up and lots of moaning and shouting.
During the week the Internet goes off at 9.00pm and comes back on at 6.00am, then goes off again at 7.30am.
Of course their entire universe collapses when the have no youtube etc, so they no option to go to sleep at night, they get thier morning 'hit' first thing - then because it goes off again at 7.30am - they get up and have breakfast!
Fridays and Saturdays are unrestricted.
We have tried several times to allow them to self moderate their access, but they cant and just spend all night on it, then they dont get up and lots of moaning and shouting.
Edited by eliot on Monday 29th June 22:43
CO2000 said:
IceBoy said:
P-Jay said:
Mine is younger, 9 - but his bedtime doesn't change at the weekends or Holidays, 8PM. We're all early-to-bed, early-to-rise in my house.
Spot on there P-Jay.Mine are nearly 10 & 13. 8.30-9.00pm lights out!
Mind you everyone in my family think I'm strict but I'm a firm believer of early to bed and early to rise.
We are all up at 6.30am like clock work.
IceBoy
) (latter not serious)What happens if you are all out for the evening P-Jay? (serious)
As for the evenings, our Daughter is sleepy and grumpy by 6pm and demands to be taken to bed at 630pm - the rest of us have dinner but the Lad is flagging by 07:45, he complains sometimes and wants to stay up a bit later, but very rarely. My Wife is half-asleep dozing by 9pm most evenings and we're in bed by 10:30.
Yes we're up at 06:30 at the weekends, wouldn't have it any other way - I don't do push-ups though
Nights out happen maybe twice a year I don't really drink, my Wife does a bit, but not much - so we're already not exactly "life and soul of the party" and when most people are just getting into their stride at 11pm we're flagging.
I guess I sleep 7-7.5 hours a night, about normal I'd say - I prefer doing outdoorsy stuff, Mountain Biking especially, over Pubs, Clubs and Restaurants - so my timetable is better suited for that.
P-Jay said:
CO2000 said:
IceBoy said:
P-Jay said:
Mine is younger, 9 - but his bedtime doesn't change at the weekends or Holidays, 8PM. We're all early-to-bed, early-to-rise in my house.
Spot on there P-Jay.Mine are nearly 10 & 13. 8.30-9.00pm lights out!
Mind you everyone in my family think I'm strict but I'm a firm believer of early to bed and early to rise.
We are all up at 6.30am like clock work.
IceBoy
) (latter not serious)What happens if you are all out for the evening P-Jay? (serious)
As for the evenings, our Daughter is sleepy and grumpy by 6pm and demands to be taken to bed at 630pm - the rest of us have dinner but the Lad is flagging by 07:45, he complains sometimes and wants to stay up a bit later, but very rarely. My Wife is half-asleep dozing by 9pm most evenings and we're in bed by 10:30.
Yes we're up at 06:30 at the weekends, wouldn't have it any other way - I don't do push-ups though
Nights out happen maybe twice a year I don't really drink, my Wife does a bit, but not much - so we're already not exactly "life and soul of the party" and when most people are just getting into their stride at 11pm we're flagging.
I guess I sleep 7-7.5 hours a night, about normal I'd say - I prefer doing outdoorsy stuff, Mountain Biking especially, over Pubs, Clubs and Restaurants - so my timetable is better suited for that.
Sounds like it is perfect for you & I guess things will change as they get older and you are out and about later on. I always think folk/kids miss out when ridged bedtimes are mentioned when not able to go/do something.LordGrover said:
Most years I visit Spain and/or Greece for my hols.
Invariably, the parks and playgrounds are filled with well behaved kids every evening until at least 10 o'clock. Ages range from little more than toddlers to early teens. Their parents are either relaxing and chatting, generally paying little attention or some I'm sure not even there. Doesn't appear to be a problem for them. Trust.
Yup, definitely working out for Greece.Invariably, the parks and playgrounds are filled with well behaved kids every evening until at least 10 o'clock. Ages range from little more than toddlers to early teens. Their parents are either relaxing and chatting, generally paying little attention or some I'm sure not even there. Doesn't appear to be a problem for them. Trust.
We're obviously far too relaxed..
Daughter is 6. School nights bed is 8.30 latest (usually aim for 8, but e.g. the three of us were still out on our bikes at gone 8 last night) Other than that it's when she decides she decides she is tired or we're fed up of her company
Last Saturday we had a barbecue and she was out with us on her climbing frame and slide till it started getting dark.
Doesn't seem to be doing her any harm - at school she is well above average in everything, and we keep on being told (sometimes by complete strangers!) that she is a credit to us.
I'm very much a night owl, my natural clock is to sleep from about 2am to 9 or 10, its only society that means I have to go to bed so I can get up for work. My wife is the other way, after 11 she struggles to stay awake.
Pretty sure once my sister and I were about 13/14 it was down to us - as long as we were out of our parents hair be that outside or in our rooms. My brother is 10 years younger than me. I think they'd given up by that point, and he's a fine young man...
Daughter is 6. School nights bed is 8.30 latest (usually aim for 8, but e.g. the three of us were still out on our bikes at gone 8 last night) Other than that it's when she decides she decides she is tired or we're fed up of her company
Last Saturday we had a barbecue and she was out with us on her climbing frame and slide till it started getting dark.
Doesn't seem to be doing her any harm - at school she is well above average in everything, and we keep on being told (sometimes by complete strangers!) that she is a credit to us.
I'm very much a night owl, my natural clock is to sleep from about 2am to 9 or 10, its only society that means I have to go to bed so I can get up for work. My wife is the other way, after 11 she struggles to stay awake.
Pretty sure once my sister and I were about 13/14 it was down to us - as long as we were out of our parents hair be that outside or in our rooms. My brother is 10 years younger than me. I think they'd given up by that point, and he's a fine young man...
You know what I've learned over the years about bed times and getting up times?
IT DOESN'T fkING MATTER 
I have really random bedtimes and always have done, but generally I'm a night owl and later riser or dreadful early riser If I'm tired I'll go to bed at 9 or 10, but if I'm out somewhere then I'll happily be up until 4am then sleep in bed the next morning until I'm no longer tired.
I tend to find you get quite a few smug people who always get up really early, 5:30 for example, like clockwork and tell everyone about it, and then express mild disgust that someone like me was still in bed at 10am when they've already been up for 4 and a half hours, had breakfast, been for an hours walk, watched the news and cut the grass. But the thing they are totally forgetting is that they'll be knackered and in bed by 8 or 9 and I'll still be working on something at 1am.
If I have to get up on the odd days here and there at 5 or 6am then I'll just do it, feel tired, but get on with it.
IT DOESN'T f
kING MATTER I have really random bedtimes and always have done, but generally I'm a night owl and later riser or dreadful early riser
If I'm tired I'll go to bed at 9 or 10, but if I'm out somewhere then I'll happily be up until 4am then sleep in bed the next morning until I'm no longer tired.I tend to find you get quite a few smug people who always get up really early, 5:30 for example, like clockwork and tell everyone about it, and then express mild disgust that someone like me was still in bed at 10am when they've already been up for 4 and a half hours, had breakfast, been for an hours walk, watched the news and cut the grass. But the thing they are totally forgetting is that they'll be knackered and in bed by 8 or 9 and I'll still be working on something at 1am.
If I have to get up on the odd days here and there at 5 or 6am then I'll just do it, feel tired, but get on with it.
eliot said:
Mine are 8 & 11. I'm an IT guy, so the internet is controlled like in an office.
During the week the Internet goes off at 9.00pm and comes back on at 6.00am, then goes off again at 7.30am.
Of course their entire universe collapses when the have no youtube etc, so they no option to go to sleep at night, they get thier morning 'hit' first thing - then because it goes off again at 7.30am - they get up and have breakfast!
Fridays and Saturdays are unrestricted.
We have tried several times to allow them to self moderate their access, but they cant and just spend all night on it, then they dont get up and lots of moaning and shouting.
Same here. DD-WRT on the router, controlling access by MAC address. And OpenDNS to lock everything down to safe levels.During the week the Internet goes off at 9.00pm and comes back on at 6.00am, then goes off again at 7.30am.
Of course their entire universe collapses when the have no youtube etc, so they no option to go to sleep at night, they get thier morning 'hit' first thing - then because it goes off again at 7.30am - they get up and have breakfast!
Fridays and Saturdays are unrestricted.
We have tried several times to allow them to self moderate their access, but they cant and just spend all night on it, then they dont get up and lots of moaning and shouting.
Edited by eliot on Monday 29th June 22:43
Setting a bed time for a 16 year old, even not during school holidays, seems ridiculous. They're old enough to be in employment, serve in the army, get married etc so I don't think they need told when its time for lights out 
I've got a couple of 14 year olds with me for the next 5-6 weeks. I don't tell them when to go to bed, they go when they feel like it. It works quite well I'm always in bed before them. Then I can get a couple of hours of work done in the morning before they surface, then out all day doing whatever we want. They mostly play the ps4 in the evening or on the internet on their ipads. seemingly they've been going to bed between midnight and 3am
I've got a couple of 14 year olds with me for the next 5-6 weeks. I don't tell them when to go to bed, they go when they feel like it. It works quite well I'm always in bed before them. Then I can get a couple of hours of work done in the morning before they surface, then out all day doing whatever we want. They mostly play the ps4 in the evening or on the internet on their ipads. seemingly they've been going to bed between midnight and 3am
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