Instant quitting of a job

[TheAngryDog]

Has anyone ever got to a point of enough is enough, and just quit on the spot?

I am trying to hold out for a new job, I've been applying left right and centre, but nothing is forth coming. My job is affecting my mental well being, my home life and my relationship. I know it's not ideal to leave on the spot, and I know it's not ideal to leave without a job to go to, but at the moment, both of those options are very, very tempting.

Has anyone got to that point and just gone enough is enough and quit?

[Juggsy1]

Yes I have. Very satisfying when you've been working for a right knob head to just say enough is enough.
Mind you, working as a sub contracting electrician I was pretty confident of not being unemployed for long. Which makes a difference. If I was in the sort of job where I had to apply for then go for interviews etc with the whole process taking weeks or more then I might have made other plans.

[RammyMP]

I did once years ago when I was freelance and there was plenty of work about, the Project I was on was terrible, I walked after 2 days, lost a few hundred pounds but hey ho! During the recession I stayed with a company I hated and was really under a lot of pressure but as there was no other work about I put up with it. I was proper stressed and home life suffered. When my contract was terminated (long story, boss was an arse) I felt so relived! Luckily I started another job straight away.

If you think you'll be ok finding another job leave (and don't need references if you just walk out)

Good luck, it's st when work gets you down!

[Jasandjules]

TheAngryDog said:

Has anyone ever got to a point of enough is enough, and just quit on the spot?

Many people do.

In some cases it is constructive dismissal.

[TheAngryDog]

Its the level of expectation - expected to do work you're not trained to do, with no support, get grief all of the time. go the extra mile and get no thanks for it, work a 16 hour shift without a lunch break while a major incident is on going and no thanks, no extra pay.

I've been at the end of my tether for a long time, but now that its affecting my home life and upsetting my gf as she is seeing how I am, its got to the point where I just dont want to do it any more.

It's made me a wreck.

[bitchstewie]

It's very easy to sit here on the internet and tell someone to quit their job without knowing their financial situation, and I say this from a very fortunate position, but it's a job and if it's getting you to that point it's time to get out, that much seems a given.

So then it's how you do it.

If you work in a small incestuous industry there may be a lot of benefit in sucking it up and not burning any bridges.

On the other hand if you work in a field where it's "easy come easy go" it may not be a big deal at all.

I guess it's all about context.

[MitchT]

TheAngryDog said:

Has anyone ever got to a point of enough is enough, and just quit on the spot?

I've been flirting with that point for some considerable time.

TheAngryDog said:

I am trying to hold out for a new job, I've been applying left right and centre, but nothing is forth coming. My job is affecting my mental well being, my home life and my relationship. I know it's not ideal to leave on the spot, and I know it's not ideal to leave without a job to go to, but at the moment, both of those options are very, very tempting.

Ditto here. Exactly.

Problem for me is, I've applied for many jobs and not even had any interviews, which is a good indicator of my chances (or more pertinently, lack thereof) of finding work any time soon after walking, if I were to, so it wouldn't be the cleverest of things to do. The problem is, the longer I stay there the more of my will to live is sucked out of me, meaning as each day goes by my self esteem and mindset become less and less suited to acing an interview and nailing a new role.

In a bad relationship you walk away, detox, psychologically speaking, reboot, learn to love yourself again and embrace your independence. With a job it's not that easy because the bill still need paying. Maybe the answer is to take on something totally different, and simple, such as stacking shelves the the local supermarket, until the bad energies from the previous job have been cleansed and you can feel positive about your main career path again.

[cat with a hat]

If you can sustain yourself for a number of months and have a backup plan if you struggle to find employment, then i say go for it!

What you could do is hand your notice in and work the notice period.. It will put your mind at ease knowing there is an escape date and you may even get gardening leave if you are very lucky.

[mike9009]

How long have you been looking for another job? It is far easier to find work whilst in employment than unemployed, hence I would look more vigorously whilst you are employed.

A slight change in approach to your current role, might actually make it easier? Don't work 16 hour shifts without a break - it is unreasonable to expect an employee to do this, makes you tired, irritable and probably less able to perform your role to the same level. It will also make you feel better personally.

Have you discussed openly with your boss the issues you have? Your boss maybe completely unaware because of their own workload and maybe able to offer assistance knowing your problems.

I was in a similar situation a year ago. I made it clear to my boss I was unhappy, but he was unable to assist. Although my resignation came as a shock (I had been in a senior management role for 15 years), it was not a surprise! I am now enjoying a new role in a new company which has completely invigorated me. (Still have issues but that is why I am paid to do the role!!)

I hope this helps?

Mike

[TheAngryDog]

bhstewie said:

It's very easy to sit here on the internet and tell someone to quit their job without knowing their financial situation, and I say this from a very fortunate position, but it's a job and if it's getting you to that point it's time to get out, that much seems a given.

So then it's how you do it.

If you work in a small incestuous industry there may be a lot of benefit in sucking it up and not burning any bridges.

On the other hand if you work in a field where it's "easy come easy go" it may not be a big deal at all.

I guess it's all about context.

I work in IT. My company are kind of well known to some of the larger Tier 1's. Whether that would cause me issues or not is another matter.

MitchT said:

TheAngryDog said:

Has anyone ever got to a point of enough is enough, and just quit on the spot?

I've been flirting with that point for some considerable time.

TheAngryDog said:

I am trying to hold out for a new job, I've been applying left right and centre, but nothing is forth coming. My job is affecting my mental well being, my home life and my relationship. I know it's not ideal to leave on the spot, and I know it's not ideal to leave without a job to go to, but at the moment, both of those options are very, very tempting.

Ditto here. Exactly.

Problem for me is, I've applied for many jobs and not even had any interviews, which is a good indicator of my chances (or more pertinently, lack thereof) of finding work any time soon after walking, if I were to, so it wouldn't be the cleverest of things to do. The problem is, the longer I stay there the more of my will to live is sucked out of me, meaning as each day goes by my self esteem and mindset become less and less suited to acing an interview and nailing a new role.

In a bad relationship you walk away, detox, psychologically speaking, reboot, learn to love yourself again and embrace your independence. With a job it's not that easy because the bill still need paying. Maybe the answer is to take on something totally different, and simple, such as stacking shelves the the local supermarket, until the bad energies from the previous job have been cleansed and you can feel positive about your main career path again.

I am the same - I had one interview in November last year and was offered the job, but at the time it was too much of a pay cut and was working permanent night shifts. However in hindsight I wish I had've taken it. I have had zero interviews since.

Thing is, I'd quite happily stack shelves / work on the check out, just to get away from my current job, but I think it would be harder to get back into IT, so I need to continue in an IT role, but as you say, it is hard work getting an interview, let a lone acing one. I'm even prepared to take a pay cut, go into a lesser role to get away, I hate being here that much.

Good luck in your endeavors!

cat with a hat said:

If you can sustain yourself for a number of months and have a backup plan if you struggle to find employment, then i say go for it!

What you could do is hand your notice in and work the notice period.. It will put your mind at ease knowing there is an escape date and you may even get gardening leave if you are very lucky.

I have 5 months wages in savings (take home wages) so financially I could do it, but obviously it is better not to and go into another job.

I think handing my notice in would cause ruffles - we're not actually geared up for losing a member of staff, we work on the absolute bare minimum with no contingency if someone is ill or leaves. The remaining guys would have to take up the slack.

mike9009 said:

How long have you been looking for another job? It is far easier to find work whilst in employment than unemployed, hence I would look more vigorously whilst you are employed.

A slight change in approach to your current role, might actually make it easier? Don't work 16 hour shifts without a break - it is unreasonable to expect an employee to do this, makes you tired, irritable and probably less able to perform your role to the same level. It will also make you feel better personally.

Have you discussed openly with your boss the issues you have? Your boss maybe completely unaware because of their own workload and maybe able to offer assistance knowing your problems.

I was in a similar situation a year ago. I made it clear to my boss I was unhappy, but he was unable to assist. Although my resignation came as a shock (I had been in a senior management role for 15 years), it was not a surprise! I am now enjoying a new role in a new company which has completely invigorated me. (Still have issues but that is why I am paid to do the role!!)

I hope this helps?

Mike

I've been looking for a few months. Have the problem is employers wanting various certs and to pay pennies (one role is offering £13k PA and to apply they want you to hold an MCSA!).

I've changed my approach, but I've always had a can do attitude, but much of the work we do is specific and not something that can be googled. We get no support out of hours which is when the bulk of the work is done, so if anything goes wrong, or as often the case you dont know what you're doing, you get no support.

My manager knows how I feel. I've discussed with him at great length my issues and concerns and nothing changes. I explained that in all of my previous roles I've been given support and training, and that I'd expect to get that anywhere else. The response to that was "this isnt anywhere else". Helpful. I was meant to receive a plan for the year, this was back in November - I am still waiting for it. You are set up to fail at this place, and is often like re-arranging the deck chairs on the Titanic.

Re working the shifts etc - the expectation on you is NOT to take a break. I work 12 hour shifts normally, and have regularly not taken a break. While it wouldn't be a problem on occasion, nearly every shift is a bit much.

I hope that I can be in your position soon. I will take almost any job that keeps me in IT and doesn't affect me too much financially. Not always easy but that is the position I find myself in right now.

[bitchstewie]

What kind of IT role? I would have thought that if you approach an agency that if you're competent there shouldn't be a shortage of stuff?

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TheAngryDog said:

I work in IT. My company are kind of well known to some of the larger Tier 1's. Whether that would cause me issues or not is another matter.

Should be loads of work around then, what do you do in IT (and where do you want to work)?

Sounds like now's the time to hand your notice in rather than wait until you're broken. Resigning tends to focus the job hunt (and help you feel much better about turning up to a work environment you don't want to be in).

[Hoofy]

I've quit without having somewhere to go to but I would never just walk out not because of the contract but because I know I'd be letting down and making things difficult for others in the team who I care about.

[cat with a hat]

I didnt say this before, but it sounds like a toxic environment to work in.

[TheAngryDog]

anonymous said:

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I think its two way - I don't think I am a good fit for the company, and I do not think they're a good fit for me. I've been with the company longest on my team as well.

[bitchstewie]

I'm perm and I love my job and do servers/storage/systems - there are lot of bad people out there who don't know their arse from their elbow - but there's also enough demand for good people who know their stuff.

Because I'm perm I've not had this problem personally, but I'm sure if you call a couple of agencies there will be opportunities out there, contract, permanent, whatever pays the bills.

[TheAngryDog]

bhstewie said:

I'm perm and I love my job and do servers/storage/systems - there are lot of bad people out there who don't know their arse from their elbow - but there's also enough demand for good people who know their stuff.

Because I'm perm I've not had this problem personally, but I'm sure if you call a couple of agencies there will be opportunities out there, contract, permanent, whatever pays the bills.

Im scouring the Job sites at the moment. I'm perm as well. My problem is that in my role I don't get exposed to much, and when I do, it is something I have no experience of. I kinda need to drop a level or two I think, but even doing that the jobs seem to want certs etc.

[bitchstewie]

I hear that a lot - it's kind of fked up because back in the day when I did my MCSE you basically could have given a monkey a book to read and eventually you'd have a monkey MCSE.

It was crazy and it's left me very wary of certs and any company that relies on them - they may mean you can do a certain task a certain way but IMO it by no way means you have a clue how to think outside the box and fix stuff when you're thrown a real curve ball (or as I call it "day to day real life in most businesses").

Stick at it, I suspect you'll find the places that demand certs are more from the HR/corporate POV than because anyone in IT insists upon it.

[Turn7]

anonymous said:

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. Exactly the same here .Does help to distance yourself from the immediate past.

Tempted to do it again, but things are very different than 8 years ago.

Some of the money being offered is silly low now.

[TheAngryDog]

bhstewie said:

I hear that a lot - it's kind of fked up because back in the day when I did my MCSE you basically could have given a monkey a book to read and eventually you'd have a monkey MCSE.

It was crazy and it's left me very wary of certs and any company that relies on them - they may mean you can do a certain task a certain way but IMO it by no way means you have a clue how to think outside the box and fix stuff when you're thrown a real curve ball (or as I call it "day to day real life in most businesses").

Stick at it, I suspect you'll find the places that demand certs are more from the HR/corporate POV than because anyone in IT insists upon it.

I've applied for over 20 jobs today. Hopefully one will give me a chance. I need a change. I am amazed at how this has affected me mentally. I am not ashamed to say that I am utterly miserable.