Problems with Friends Girlfriend
Discussion
Ok guys I have a little bit of a problem, it involves me and one of my friends girlfriends lets call him Bob and her Lisa. This is also a pretty long post so hang in there!
Just a little bit of background info I have know said friend for the past 7 or 8 years and he has been going out with his girlfriend for just under a year as far as I know, I only first met her about a month ago.
Now this is where the fun starts. The first evening I met her I was rather drunk and participating in what I thought as harmless flirting with her. Then as I got more drunk due to been me and having my crude sense of humour I was joking with my mate asking if I could have a go on his Mrs, this was in front of her and she found it rather amusing and did give me a few of ‘those’ looks (only when my mate wasn’t looking though which caught me as quite odd as I was openly doing it in front of him but she felt the need to hide it.
The week following this she managed to get hold of my email address and added me to MSN. She then proceeded to flirt with me of MSN, I knew my mate was there as well so was once again messing around and asking her if she wanted a three some with us both and general crap like that. She then said they were going to bed and signed off, I went back to what I was doing and then 5 minutes later she signs back in again and said something to the effect of ‘Bob has gone to bed now but I just wanted to come back on and tell you that although it looks to people like I’m messing around I’m actually not and would quite like to shag you just don’t let bob find out’.
Throughout the week then I had various text messages from her, just the usual crap ‘Hi! How are you? What you up to? xxx’ that sort of rubbish. ‘Hi sexi! I’m at work and really bored what you doing? xxx’. (yes sexy with an I :roll
Then this weekend I was out with my 2 best mates, a few others and Bob and Lisa, I had already told my 2 best mates about all what had been going on and we could work out if it was a wind up or if she was been serious so our plan of attack was to say to Bob ‘Haha Eddh showed us all that stuff that you were writing to him pretending to be your Mrs’ and see what his reaction was. It did backfire a bit as his reaction was ‘huh what stuff?’ My mate managed to shrug this off very well as nothing.
I was then deleting messages off my phone as it had got full and someone was texting me about car parts so I needed to remove some, as I was scrolling through I didn’t realise that my mate was looking over my shoulder and said ‘oh whos this Lisa bird then you seem to have a lot of messages off her!’ I made some lame excuse that it was some girl at work luckily there is a girl at work who has the same name and he went ‘ooooh Lisa yeah I think you told me about her wasn’t she after you ages ago?’.
All throughout the night his girlfriend was flirting outrageously with me whenever his back was turned or he went to the toilet or anything like that when he wasn’t looking she was touching my leg, grabbing at my arse stuff like that. But only kept it to when he wasn’t looking, I would see her check and then go for it when she was sure she wasn’t going to be caught. Was the night went on and we both for drunk (Bob was driving so he wasn’t drinking) it got more and more.
Towards the end of the night me and a few friends were sat round a table with her and Bob, my phone then goes off and I get the following text message ‘Fuk me ur hot! Want u so badly! X’. I chose to ignore this and then a minute later get a text message saying ‘The msn messenger messages are from me! Promise! Bob doesn’t know x’. I then replied with ‘Yeah sure I reckon your trying to wind me up x’ and get this back ‘No honestly! I promise! The msn convos haven’t been bulls
t! Your fking hot! X’. Bob then turns to her and goes oh who are you texting? To which she made up some crap excuse saying someone from work didn’t know the code for the alarms so had text her asking for it which seemed to satisfy him. This prompted some knowing looks from my 2 best mates who had guessed correctly what was going on.
I then had another conversation with her over Msn Messenger (Yes yes I know!) which pretty much involved her saying things like ‘you’re the best looking out of your mates’, ‘I want to fk you’ etc etc etc and asked if I wanted to meet up with her some time during this week, which I managed to fob off by saying I was busy all week. This time I know for a fact that my mate wasn’t there because he was working (rung him up to ask what he was doing to see if he was and could hear that he was on a tractor and lugging bales).
Now I need the advise of the PH masses, Do i:
a) Shag my mates Mrs and hope he doesn’t find out (she is pretty damn nice!)
b) Tell my mate in a joking way like haha that was funny what you were both saying last night and if he goes ‘huh?’ tell him.
c) Print off the conversations and armed with them and the text messages go to my mate and show him that his girlfriend is a cheating bh.
d) Ignore it all and hope it goes away.
e) Knock her back doors in.
f) Buy a MX5.
Just a little bit of background info I have know said friend for the past 7 or 8 years and he has been going out with his girlfriend for just under a year as far as I know, I only first met her about a month ago.
Now this is where the fun starts. The first evening I met her I was rather drunk and participating in what I thought as harmless flirting with her. Then as I got more drunk due to been me and having my crude sense of humour I was joking with my mate asking if I could have a go on his Mrs, this was in front of her and she found it rather amusing and did give me a few of ‘those’ looks (only when my mate wasn’t looking though which caught me as quite odd as I was openly doing it in front of him but she felt the need to hide it.
The week following this she managed to get hold of my email address and added me to MSN. She then proceeded to flirt with me of MSN, I knew my mate was there as well so was once again messing around and asking her if she wanted a three some with us both and general crap like that. She then said they were going to bed and signed off, I went back to what I was doing and then 5 minutes later she signs back in again and said something to the effect of ‘Bob has gone to bed now but I just wanted to come back on and tell you that although it looks to people like I’m messing around I’m actually not and would quite like to shag you just don’t let bob find out’.
Throughout the week then I had various text messages from her, just the usual crap ‘Hi! How are you? What you up to? xxx’ that sort of rubbish. ‘Hi sexi! I’m at work and really bored what you doing? xxx’. (yes sexy with an I :roll
Then this weekend I was out with my 2 best mates, a few others and Bob and Lisa, I had already told my 2 best mates about all what had been going on and we could work out if it was a wind up or if she was been serious so our plan of attack was to say to Bob ‘Haha Eddh showed us all that stuff that you were writing to him pretending to be your Mrs’ and see what his reaction was. It did backfire a bit as his reaction was ‘huh what stuff?’ My mate managed to shrug this off very well as nothing.
I was then deleting messages off my phone as it had got full and someone was texting me about car parts so I needed to remove some, as I was scrolling through I didn’t realise that my mate was looking over my shoulder and said ‘oh whos this Lisa bird then you seem to have a lot of messages off her!’ I made some lame excuse that it was some girl at work luckily there is a girl at work who has the same name and he went ‘ooooh Lisa yeah I think you told me about her wasn’t she after you ages ago?’.
All throughout the night his girlfriend was flirting outrageously with me whenever his back was turned or he went to the toilet or anything like that when he wasn’t looking she was touching my leg, grabbing at my arse stuff like that. But only kept it to when he wasn’t looking, I would see her check and then go for it when she was sure she wasn’t going to be caught. Was the night went on and we both for drunk (Bob was driving so he wasn’t drinking) it got more and more.
Towards the end of the night me and a few friends were sat round a table with her and Bob, my phone then goes off and I get the following text message ‘Fuk me ur hot! Want u so badly! X’. I chose to ignore this and then a minute later get a text message saying ‘The msn messenger messages are from me! Promise! Bob doesn’t know x’. I then replied with ‘Yeah sure I reckon your trying to wind me up x’ and get this back ‘No honestly! I promise! The msn convos haven’t been bulls
t! Your fking hot! X’. Bob then turns to her and goes oh who are you texting? To which she made up some crap excuse saying someone from work didn’t know the code for the alarms so had text her asking for it which seemed to satisfy him. This prompted some knowing looks from my 2 best mates who had guessed correctly what was going on.I then had another conversation with her over Msn Messenger (Yes yes I know!) which pretty much involved her saying things like ‘you’re the best looking out of your mates’, ‘I want to f
k you’ etc etc etc and asked if I wanted to meet up with her some time during this week, which I managed to fob off by saying I was busy all week. This time I know for a fact that my mate wasn’t there because he was working (rung him up to ask what he was doing to see if he was and could hear that he was on a tractor and lugging bales).Now I need the advise of the PH masses, Do i:
a) Shag my mates Mrs and hope he doesn’t find out (she is pretty damn nice!)
b) Tell my mate in a joking way like haha that was funny what you were both saying last night and if he goes ‘huh?’ tell him.
c) Print off the conversations and armed with them and the text messages go to my mate and show him that his girlfriend is a cheating b
h.d) Ignore it all and hope it goes away.
e) Knock her back doors in.
f) Buy a MX5.
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Being incredibly good looking myself I have to deal with this st on a weekly basis :| The Saturday night following that Friday I had some tart in the take away who would stop telling me I'm fit!.. Whats all that about?
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Being incredibly good looking myself I have to deal with this s
t on a weekly basis :| The Saturday night following that Friday I had some tart in the take away who would stop telling me I'm fit!.. Whats all that about?Oh dear yet another 'do I shag her' question.
I know, ask some random people of the internet to justify your decision and if it all goes pear-shaped, you can then say 'someone on the internet told me' and relax comfortably because you have completely absolved yourself from any responsibility for the actions and decisions that you have taken.
Harsh? Maybe. But if you cannot make these decisions for yourself then asking a bunch of random people on the Internet probably isn't the best place to start. For a start you will get a number of completely random answers and lets face it, they want to see you fall flat on your face for comedy effect - which is nice to know.
I know, ask some random people of the internet to justify your decision and if it all goes pear-shaped, you can then say 'someone on the internet told me' and relax comfortably because you have completely absolved yourself from any responsibility for the actions and decisions that you have taken.
Harsh? Maybe. But if you cannot make these decisions for yourself then asking a bunch of random people on the Internet probably isn't the best place to start. For a start you will get a number of completely random answers and lets face it, they want to see you fall flat on your face for comedy effect - which is nice to know.
Make a thorough risk assessment.
If Bob the type to stab you in the face? Would you mind losing friendship with Bob? Do some research, ask Bob about their sex life.
Based on your answers and findings, weigh them all up and make an educated decision instead of a rash one that could lead to loss of friendship/life all over a crap shag...
Good luck.
On second thoughts this is PH. Do it, deal with consequences after.
If Bob the type to stab you in the face? Would you mind losing friendship with Bob? Do some research, ask Bob about their sex life.
Based on your answers and findings, weigh them all up and make an educated decision instead of a rash one that could lead to loss of friendship/life all over a crap shag...
Good luck.
On second thoughts this is PH. Do it, deal with consequences after.
Shag your mate, everyone's a winner. Well, not *everyone* exactly, your mate probably won't be happy and I'm sure you won't be either, you big stud muffin you, but it'll give the rest of PH something to talk about instead of this "I don't know what to do, please help me internet people" mindless guff.
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