Blackmail, I think...

[montymoo]

Hey chaps,
A close friend of mine is being blackmailed, she is essentially like a sister to me so it is getting to me that i feel totally unable to help.

She has a long term partner (yep it's going there) but a couple of months ago she was with another guy, he told her pay me several hundred pounds or he would tell everyone, now she paid the guy at the time and all was forgotten about, until yesterday and he has started again.
Now from what she has said about this chap he is NOT a nice person, why she associates with him i have no idea.

I have asked if she has kept the messages but she has said she has gotten rid of them, she has even gone through the trouble of changing her number.

I have advised to keep all the FB messages and texts she will no doubt receive in the coming days, but is there anything else she can or should be doing?

I have told her she has to be honest and tell the people who this affects to take away this guys leverage.
She is petrified at the moment and i think worried about him physically hurting her as well.
any advice appreciated.
Thanks guys

[montymoo]

Thanks for the replies,

While i do agree she is an idiot and she should face consequences, i feel those should be with her partner, not the other person who is profiting from this.

Rude-boy, I wasn't aware that she paid him originally,had she told me i would have made sure she didnt pay him the first time... Her thinking that once paid it would stop, shows her naivety.

I Haven't said anything to her partner, but i have told her she needs to tell him and she has assured me she will.
I have not asked what evidence that this chap has, but for her to pay a chunk of money there must be something.

I will talk with her shortly,i'll tell her keep evidence, tell partner, go to the police..
I'm not sure she will go to the police, but she will definitely be telling her partner.

[montymoo]

She is telling her partner so there is no need for bluffing ect, she isn't mentally strong enough for mind games and keeping this up.

I've asked what evidence he has on her and there is nothing, no pictures no videos.

She is adamant she will NOT go to the police for fears of making everything worse??
I've asked how it can get worse and if she tells her partner what can he then do.. she shakes her head and wont talk anymore.. If the police where going to arrest him there would be plenty of other things they could have done by now apparently. sigh.

Voyds9 like the idea aha

[montymoo]

Partner has been told, no hasty decisions have been made by him.
As I have said shes not the type for making counter allegations and calling bluffs, that sounds like a ststorm waiting to happen. I'm hoping that having told her partner and using the "leave me alone or i'll go to the police and show them everything" will be enough to make to make this guy stop.
Obviously if it doesnt and this does go to the police ect i'll post up what happens ect.. This guy is a cretin.

[montymoo]

RegMolehusband said:

Isn't now the time to go to the police and stop this guy before he does the same to somebody else?

Yes i did say that to her, but i think she is scared of any repercussions this may have hence why she wants to leave it as a very last resort.
Her partner will probably be having more of a say in which way it goes.

oh this

Rude-boy said:

In addition to this the sort who would seek to blackmail someone are quite likely to have fingers in other pies and not being the brightest might end up losing one or more of said fingers...

from what i'm told is very true.