Mother's wishes with regards to other woman..

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I'm not sure if this sits in this forum, but anyway I'll ask here...

Someone I know has three kids and a husband who has been having an affair the has produced a child, now over one years old.

It's all been a mess but yesterday the father told the eldest daughter that she has a baby sister - in the hours before he left.

He's also insisting that when he sees his children, he will introduce them to their new half sister.

This is absolutely against the wishes of the mother who will in effect have to pick up the pieces of their disrupted lives.

Legally, is there any way that she can prevent this from happening until the children are older ( now 8, 6, 4).

Cheers.

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Thanks. Good to know. He's a piece of work and rather bullying and manipulative in his words and deeds. Seems like he gets his way - not because it's right that they all meet, but because he wants to exert his authority of 'I do what I want' over the mother.

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Tiggsy said:

Isnt this one of those cases where the one left with the kids has the power? Assuming he wants to see his kids.......people always say the dads don't get the access they want - that cause 90% of the time, they bugger off!


If dads all went for full custody then you'd have women climbing bigben moaning about seeing the kids.

He's says his kids irritate him. Which is nice. He left before, she let him back.

I do think, as do quite a few others, that he is a sociopath. He certainly exhibits quite a few behaviours described in the definition.

Anyway, enough.

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Thanks for the legal thoughts. Much appreciated

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Fab32 said:

Assuming both parents have parental responsibility for the children then neither can unduly limit what the other does when the children are in their care.

By the sound of it both need to grow up and make decisions on what's in the best interests of the children rather than use them as weapons.

I've done enough Section 7 (of the Children Act 1989) reports to be able to tell you there are no never any winners and the biggest losers are always the children!

Thank you . I absolutely agree that both need to be adult. But sometimes, being adult seems to be so very hard.