Meeting a fellow PH video gamer, thetrash

[Polarbert]

I thought I would take the opportunity to let you all know about my time with thetrash over the few days at the start of this week.
If you didn’t know, thetrash and I have been a part of PistonHeads and enjoyed various gaming with other PHers over the past years.

At the start of the year, he informed me that he was planning a holiday to California and that he might swing by for a bit to say hello. I said that sounded like a cracking idea, but informed him that I probably wouldn’t be able to do much with him due to not having a job, and not having very much spare dosh. No problem he said, he would cover it.

Fast forward to Monday and he turns up at my flat and we hang out, for the next few days we do various things and it all seems to be going well, and is just like meeting any PistonHeader I’ve met before. I let him hang out at my flat, introduced him to my wife, and it seemed like we were getting on well.

Now even though I don’t have a lot of spare money, I was going to get his dinner on Wednesday night as a thank you for everything he had done while he was here. (He was due to leave San Diego on Thursday morning) We had been to look around the USS Midway, and gotten some food afterwards. Thetrash then told me he fancied going for a bike ride for a while. So he dropped me off back at my flat and I asked him if I’d see him again, to which he said ‘yeah more than likely’ or words to that effect.

Fast forward a few hours and I asked him how his bike ride went, to which he informed me that he didn’t go. I then asked what he was planning for the evening, and he replied ‘mate, don’t message me again.’ I was confused by this so I asked him if everything was alright and if something had happened, he then said ‘Dude, when I said don’t message, I mean it’ In between sending these messages he had unfriended me on facebook.

I was really scratching my head at this point, so tried to see what the bother was, and then he blocked me on whatsapp, and on facebook. Later on he called me ‘fking thick’ for trying to contact him again, and to this moment I have genuinely no idea what his problem was.

He refused to answer my calls or respond to my text messages to try and work out whatever his issue was, so I have absolutely no idea what the problem was. It’s my impression that he is quite cowardly for not responding in any way to me. I was quite willing to talk to him to discuss whatever problem he had with me.

Anyone that knows me will know I’m a very reasonable, honest and genuine person, so I’m just left utterly confused by this whole situation.

[Polarbert]

Skylinecrazy said:

Why would you even post this?

Why not?

I can't say that I'm too bothered any more, but I thought it was very peculiar behaviour and that it was worth mentioning to the folks on here that I've spent time with.

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THX said:

On the other hand, maybe the O/P is like PROPERLY WEIRD but doesn't realise it?

Could be, I'm sure the many people I've met on here over the years would probably agree with you.

I'd have never made this thread if I had done something to warrant him ignoring me completely, or if he had approached me with his issue and we'd sorted it out like adults. I understand that everyone is different and has different tastes, but I've never known anyone to just start to completely ignore me for no apparent reason.

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gaz1234 said:

Still play games with him?

Not since he moved onto the new Xbox One.

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BlackLabel said:

OP, are you sure you did not, even inadvertently, act inappropriately with your guest? Sounds like something you did spooked him.

Right that's what I thought, but I honestly can't recall that I did. We were having banter and generally getting along well.

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gaz1234 said:

Both American?

I'm English. And always will be.

I don't know if he was gay. I can tell you I never really thought about it.

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callmedave said:

Sadly agree, 'when will I see you again?' Is not quite the same as 'that was fun mate, we should go for a beer next time'

I think the trash misinterpreted berts willingness to be a friend.

The thing is I didn't say it exactly like that, and I was only asking as he often changed his mind on what he was going to do, which I had no problem with. Maybe he got sick of spending time with me, I don't know. It certainly never seemed that way and he never said anything to indicate this.

You know, if we had a disagreement, or I felt that I'd done something wrong then this would not be on here. I've been on here long enough to know what the score is. And it is hard to imagine, but I don't really care, I was just completely confused as to what happened.

I believed that I'd played with him enough on Xbox to think that he was trustworthy, let him into my flat, meet my wife, etc. Up until Wednesday evening I'd have said that was the case.

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Pesty said:

Monkeylegend said:

Well at least we know thetrash is manly enough to ride a motorbike. My money is on Polarbear making a ham fisted attempt at a pass, and getting all mental when our man trash rejected him and took his wife for a ride instead.

Women go for rough men who ride motorbikes.

Edited by Monkeylegend on Sunday 14th September 14:45

Isn't polarbert manly enough to walk to the poles on his own or something or did I mix him up with somebody else.

Not me I'm afraid. I'd give it a go, but I don't think it would turn out too well.

[Polarbert]

TLandCruiser said:

Something happened involving the wife!

The wife only saw him on Monday. Otherwise she was working.

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Monkeylegend said:

Come on trash and Polar, you are both here now, talk to each other not us, it's the only way you will sort out your relationship difficulties.

Just pretend we are not here.

I've said everything I can say really. His comments amount to calling me mental every time.

[Polarbert]

I'm the same as I've always been. America hasn't changed me at all. :-)

[Polarbert]

I was going to pay for his dinner that evening, but before I had the chance he had ceased all contact with me. Perhaps I called too often afterwards, but being in the flat for most of the day applying for jobs it wasn't time consuming to see what was the matter.

I'd done my best to be as helpful and as courteous as I could to him while he was here, and if he had an issue I thought he would have been decent enough to have a word with me.