Feeling resentment/bitterness when working away.

[Dms86]

Hi

I don't post much but wanted to gather some opinions from people who may be in the same predicament as me.

I also await those people telling me to man up etc

I work in an industry which involves me being away for at least half the year, maybe more. I've recently started to become very bored when working away and although I have colleagues I can feel quite lonely too. I have tried talking to my girlfriend about this but she doesn't seem to see where I am coming from.

I've also started to resent the fact that I'm when working away she is at home enjoying herself at the weekends. I am very happy for her to have this lifestyle but can't help the resentment feelings when I'm away. She doesn't contribute to any bills and I pay for everything.

Part of me thinks to take a lower paid job and be able to stay at home. But would I get bored of this after a while?!

So I'm just after some opinions of people who may have found themselves in this situation and how you've dealt with it?

Thanks

[Dms86]

She works hard but she keeps what she earns. I wouldn't say shes taking the piss as such with her lifestyle. Financially yes! She just has normal life in the way of working near home and having free weekends.

I am stuck in that awkward situation of needing to work to live and if I took anything near home it would mean massive cutbacks and worrying about money.

I would love to say sod it and quit but sometimes the answer is not that easy.

[Dms86]

Maybe I'm being slightly misunderstood as I haven't given enough background info. I live in a normal 3 bed house in the midlands and drive a 16 year old car!

I am working to provide a normal life for my family nothing extravagant.

But if I found lower paid work it would still impact my living standards quite heavily.

[Dms86]

It would certainly make it easier.

I think it could be because when we first met she had a low paid job so I never asked for anything anyway.

Whenever I ask her about it we get into arguments.

Maybe this topic should be moved to mumsnet

[Dms86]

Luckily my time away is broken up and I do go home. Its not a constant 6 months away. That is what it all adds up to over the year.

I don't envy people who do long stints with young families etc

[Dms86]

Hi all.

I don't remember mentioning anywhere that my girlfriend isn't bothered about me being away or not? She doesn't like it but she doesn't have much sympathy with the fact this sort of job can trigger the feelings that come with it.

I guess it's sometimes hard for someone to sympathise when they haven't been in your situation.

We have an 8 year old daughter together.

It's a motorsport environment so that's why the weekends are taken up.

And thanks for the suggestion of catching Pokemon but I think I'd rather be admitted to an asylum before it came to that