Are all children annoying?
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Let's assume a range of 5 years old to about 12 years old...
1. They all seem to be extremely self-centered, spoilt and disgusting.
2. Everything must be bought for them NOW and when they get it, it's straight on to looking for the next thing to guilt trip their parents into buying.
3. They can't eat food without getting it all over themselves and the room they're in.
4. They're always bored but have thousands upon thousands of pounds worth of toys, video games, dvds, etc etc to keep them entertained. None of this is good enough because they want what they haven't got.
5. They lie about everything and constantly tell on other kids, in an effort to get the most brownie points and the most stuff bought for them
6. They refuse to go to sleep at the right time then wake up slightly more annoying the next day
7. They want to be able to do everything that adults can but can't even complete the simplest of tasks without assistance. Unfortunately they're too stupid to understand this when it's explained to them.
8. Everything they touch gets covered in chocolate, melted haribo or finger paint
9. They eat utter s
te food constantly. I'm talking several chocolate bars, bags of crisps & sweets, every day. Barely any fruit/veg. I think this is more to do with the parents than anything.
10. No respect for anything/anyone. If it breaks, they get a new one. If cry, they get sympathy.
This list could go on forever! It probably goes without saying that I have no children of my own. I do share a house with my SO, who has a child. Her family have children and so do a lot of her friends, meaning i'm surrounded by them the majority of the time. I really do find it hard to be patient and understanding, a lot of the time I just go out to get away from the noise.
Is anyone else in the same situation? What do you do? I'm sure it didn't used to be *quite* as bad when I was younger but honestly, I can't really remember. I just think kids lack respect & focus nowadays
1. They all seem to be extremely self-centered, spoilt and disgusting.
2. Everything must be bought for them NOW and when they get it, it's straight on to looking for the next thing to guilt trip their parents into buying.
3. They can't eat food without getting it all over themselves and the room they're in.
4. They're always bored but have thousands upon thousands of pounds worth of toys, video games, dvds, etc etc to keep them entertained. None of this is good enough because they want what they haven't got.
5. They lie about everything and constantly tell on other kids, in an effort to get the most brownie points and the most stuff bought for them
6. They refuse to go to sleep at the right time then wake up slightly more annoying the next day
7. They want to be able to do everything that adults can but can't even complete the simplest of tasks without assistance. Unfortunately they're too stupid to understand this when it's explained to them.
8. Everything they touch gets covered in chocolate, melted haribo or finger paint
9. They eat utter s
te food constantly. I'm talking several chocolate bars, bags of crisps & sweets, every day. Barely any fruit/veg. I think this is more to do with the parents than anything. 10. No respect for anything/anyone. If it breaks, they get a new one. If cry, they get sympathy.
This list could go on forever! It probably goes without saying that I have no children of my own. I do share a house with my SO, who has a child. Her family have children and so do a lot of her friends, meaning i'm surrounded by them the majority of the time. I really do find it hard to be patient and understanding, a lot of the time I just go out to get away from the noise.
Is anyone else in the same situation? What do you do? I'm sure it didn't used to be *quite* as bad when I was younger but honestly, I can't really remember. I just think kids lack respect & focus nowadays
TwistingMyMelon said:
Blimey the people you hang about with dont parent their kids too well, yeah you get the traits you mention, but not all the time 24-7!!! You also fail to mention the good points and all the FUN and affection!!!
OP you sound like a miserable 15 year old with a charisma vacuum
You're right it's not all the time but it seems to be the majority of the time, which is every evening when I get back from work and most of the weekend. I've spent the day dealing with some incompetent adults, then have children to put up with as well. OP you sound like a miserable 15 year old with a charisma vacuum
I guess with the children not being mine, it makes all the difference. All of the parents that I speak to seem to think that some magical change happens when they successfully procreate, leading to endless joy. I don't quite see it that way at the moment.
I'm actually the wrong side of 30, rather than 15 as you suggest. I just chose not to have children and accidentally fell in love with someone who already had a child. I guess this post was asking for advice more than anything - as a 'step' parent, it's really f
king difficult to connect with the kid and learn where to draw the line with discipline, etc. I'm trying to make it work but it's increasingly difficult. She understands but will obviously choose the child over me if things continue to be difficult.Joey Ramone said:
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I spend time in the company of a near neighbour's 9 year old boy (she's a friend of my wife and recently separated so we go round to say hello and see that she's ok) and me and the kid always have a laugh as I'm conscious that his dad doesn't appear to give two sts about him. But fk me, the amount of attention he craves/requires is absolutely staggering. And he simply cannot sit or stand still. So within about an hour I've simply had enough and want to leave. The thought of having two of him in my house for 18 years would give me an embolism.
This is part of the problem. The attention requirements (always when I am trying to do something else). The inability to sit still. The worryingly small attention span. The being 'bored' despite having sI spend time in the company of a near neighbour's 9 year old boy (she's a friend of my wife and recently separated so we go round to say hello and see that she's ok) and me and the kid always have a laugh as I'm conscious that his dad doesn't appear to give two s
ts about him. But fk me, the amount of attention he craves/requires is absolutely staggering. And he simply cannot sit or stand still. So within about an hour I've simply had enough and want to leave. The thought of having two of him in my house for 18 years would give me an embolism.t loads of stuff to do. Then the fact that they are never tired when they're meant to be (bedtime), especially now it's school holidays - kids seem to be allowed to stay up later but they still wake up around 7-8am, ready to start annoying the adults again. Not sure how I'm going to cope with this without blowing my lid but I am trying my hardest.
Shaolin said:
So the OP is in a parental role and comes on here to complain about the lack of parenting and its results on a child he is in a position to parent, hmmmm.....
Well, I see what you're getting at. Truth is, I really have no idea what I'm doing and it's really fking difficult. I guess it's no different to being a new parent though, except the fact that the kid in question isn't mine and I wasn't there for the first 6-7 years of his life. Shaolin said:
How supportive is your partner of your role as parent? This is the most important thing. if she undermines you or doesn't back you up, you have no chance. The child will try to play you off against each other, all kids try this to some degree, without clear support from your partner the child will get his/her own way. The child didn't choose you to be in his/her life unlike your partner did, so you'll have to win them over. Do you spend time together away from Mum? I'd suggest this to start with, a short trip out, to the shops, pick-up/drop-off at school for e.g.
It also sounds like you may have different standards or expectations to your partner regarding behaviour, you'll have to come to some kind of agreement on this or it will be clear you are not united. Kids actually like boundaries and limits as long as they aren't too limiting, they make them feel safe and secure, this doesn't mean they won't try to push at the boundaries though.
Agree with the post above about kids wanting entertaining all the time, though this is largely down to expectations set by the parents.
Very supportive although there are some areas that we disagree on. We've discussed it a lot but perhaps it needs to be looked at again. It also sounds like you may have different standards or expectations to your partner regarding behaviour, you'll have to come to some kind of agreement on this or it will be clear you are not united. Kids actually like boundaries and limits as long as they aren't too limiting, they make them feel safe and secure, this doesn't mean they won't try to push at the boundaries though.
Agree with the post above about kids wanting entertaining all the time, though this is largely down to expectations set by the parents.
As far as I know, 'the child' does like me and I have made an effort to do things with just us. For the record, his behaviour is almost perfect when it's just us two. Introduce another adult and it's a different story...
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