girlfriends annoying child scratched my car
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My girlfriend's daughter, who at 10 seems to have no respect for anything and is mouthy and 'keeps it real' decided to scratch my car the other day for no reason. I was inside the house with my girlfriend and she was stood by the car waiting for me to open it, I came out and she had a stone in her hand and looked sheepish, I said what are you doing, then noticed the scratch. My girlfriend went mad at her and told her she would be paying for the damage. I was fine with it and thought it would teach her a lesson. Few days later and now my girlfriend says it's only a small scratch and that it will polish out (it hasnt as ive tried). Im more annoyed at her (gf) for going back on her word. Thing's have been tense for a while and I cannot stand that child she is so ungrateful and speaks to adults like they are tw@ts. I bought her a samsung tablet for her birthday and she opened it and said 'why have you got me a black one I wanted white'!
When it all happened she said 'it;s only a car' I said do you know how much a car costs? She said it's only about £1000 and anyway you have loads of money. Both statements are not true. Unfortunately.
Ive tried talking to her on a one 2 one and it seems to sink in. But there are lots of other issues. She talks to her mother like a tool. 7.30am barges into the bedroom shouting MOM WHERE IS MY BREAKFAST GET UP NOW. She also calls her mother useless and stupid. I think some of these words come from her father. If I brought her round to your house she would be good as gold and polite and ud think what a lovely little girl but to me, her mother and her nan she is pretty vile.
Ive tried talking to her on a one 2 one and it seems to sink in. But there are lots of other issues. She talks to her mother like a tool. 7.30am barges into the bedroom shouting MOM WHERE IS MY BREAKFAST GET UP NOW. She also calls her mother useless and stupid. I think some of these words come from her father. If I brought her round to your house she would be good as gold and polite and ud think what a lovely little girl but to me, her mother and her nan she is pretty vile.
Edited by wjwren on Tuesday 7th July 09:58
it's about £150 to get scratch repaired. If she was good then id put id down to kids been kids but the fact she is so "whatever" about it and tells me to get over it then it annoys me more. Her mom does lots for her and it's never good enough. I dont know if kids are different these days but I did talk to my mom like that and treat her like a servant. If I have her on my own she doesnt mess about for me she knows that if she messes about il take her tablet off her or if she starts playing with her food in some silly way then it goes down the waste disposal. etc.
There are 4 kids in total. So quite a handful. But I get on with my gf more than any other girl ive met and find her attractive and easy going etc etc. But she is too soft with the kids. They know they can always push mum for and extra 10 mins until bed time and they think im mean when I say it's 10pm you need to be in bed.
The eldest (problem one) asked her mom for a hug the other day and my gf wouldnt give it her. I said why dont you? She said how can I? She speaks to me so rudely it makes me upset and I dont want to hug her. Now I know she has keyed my car but I think even I would be the adult and try and give her some love which I think it's all that she wants.
There are 4 kids in total. So quite a handful. But I get on with my gf more than any other girl ive met and find her attractive and easy going etc etc. But she is too soft with the kids. They know they can always push mum for and extra 10 mins until bed time and they think im mean when I say it's 10pm you need to be in bed.
The eldest (problem one) asked her mom for a hug the other day and my gf wouldnt give it her. I said why dont you? She said how can I? She speaks to me so rudely it makes me upset and I dont want to hug her. Now I know she has keyed my car but I think even I would be the adult and try and give her some love which I think it's all that she wants.
Edited by wjwren on Tuesday 7th July 12:52
i tell her off but dont smack her. Her mother occasionally does. She lies a lot. Simple things like not flushing the toilet or not brushing her teeth or leaving sweet wrappers down the back of her bed then denies it was her. When her or I confront her and tell her to clean it up she bursts into fake tears telling everyone she hates them.
good advice Luke.
It seem's to have calmed down a little bit. So seeing how things go. She seem's to be more hostile when she see's her dad, as he discusses things that are not meant for her ears. He wants to get back with my partner. (his ex wife) and has developed an obsession of driving past the house and various other things but thats another story. So when she goes over to dads he says he wants to be with mommy and when daughter is back at house she blames mom for not making daddy happy.
Her attitude is still there, had a nice weekend, went to the park yesterday she asked her mom for an ice cream and we bought her one, on the way home she said can I have an ice cream before dinner and her mother said no. Meltdown alert. 'I hate you mom you are so selfish no wonder nobody likes you' etc etc. Same thing this morning. She got ready for school, asked her mom to brush her hair, she said ok give me a minute and another meltdown as mom is too selfish to not do it now. She also pinched her sister marking her arm. This is pretty standard on a daily basis. In over 3 years I have never been over where the eldest as been polite for 24 hours.
BUT...
I do love my girlfriend so I will have to work at it.
On the car scratch my girlfriend offered to pay which i flatly refused as that isnt the point.
It seem's to have calmed down a little bit. So seeing how things go. She seem's to be more hostile when she see's her dad, as he discusses things that are not meant for her ears. He wants to get back with my partner. (his ex wife) and has developed an obsession of driving past the house and various other things but thats another story. So when she goes over to dads he says he wants to be with mommy and when daughter is back at house she blames mom for not making daddy happy.
Her attitude is still there, had a nice weekend, went to the park yesterday she asked her mom for an ice cream and we bought her one, on the way home she said can I have an ice cream before dinner and her mother said no. Meltdown alert. 'I hate you mom you are so selfish no wonder nobody likes you' etc etc. Same thing this morning. She got ready for school, asked her mom to brush her hair, she said ok give me a minute and another meltdown as mom is too selfish to not do it now. She also pinched her sister marking her arm. This is pretty standard on a daily basis. In over 3 years I have never been over where the eldest as been polite for 24 hours.
BUT...
I do love my girlfriend so I will have to work at it.
On the car scratch my girlfriend offered to pay which i flatly refused as that isnt the point.
she gets told off, but my girlfriend is at a loss as what to do.
She tell's her off and the girl looks sorry for a second and says 'ok sorry i wont do it again'
Most days she says to her mom cant we be friends I want us to get on. Then as soon as she is told she cant have something like sweets before a meal or no tv as it's bedtime then we have a meltdown and 'I hate you mom you are selfish etcetc etc'
She tell's her off and the girl looks sorry for a second and says 'ok sorry i wont do it again'
Most days she says to her mom cant we be friends I want us to get on. Then as soon as she is told she cant have something like sweets before a meal or no tv as it's bedtime then we have a meltdown and 'I hate you mom you are selfish etcetc etc'
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