I'm in turmoil over my brothers wedding !

[Thankyou4calling]

No, not having to make a speech, im fine with that. I'm best man and the stag do is arranged, no issues, even the fact his intended made a play for me on a previous occasion isn't stressing me at all.

BUT!

It's his second marriage and they already live together so they've decided, rather than have gifts, that people who go to the wedding should give them cash to spend as they wish.

Now, apart from the fact that I actually quite like choosing presents I'm really at a loss as to how much to give and the principle of it doesn't sit comfortably.

Anyway, in summary. If you were best man at your brothers wedding and he wanted money how much would you give. I need some pointers.

Thanks.

Edited by Thankyou4calling on Sunday 2nd August 23:59

[Thankyou4calling]

Thanks. It will definitely be somewhere between those two.

How about some justifications as well?

[Thankyou4calling]

Sheepshanks said:

I'm visualising a league table of donors next to the table plan!

I like this payment structure but would be concerned at a Norfolk wedding as to what to give bearing in mind there may well be people who cover a few bases.