Should I Shun My Mates Wedding? Would You?
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On Saturday my mate who I've known 15-20 years will marry his darling Fiancé. About two months ago I found out from A close friend that Darling fiancé had been having an affair!
I confided in the best man (one of my oldest friends) and to cut a long story short he told me it's not the first time! Apparently three or four months ago DF got drunk at the pub she works at and slept with one of the regulars. She had come clean on this occasion and they were trying to 'patch things up'.
So having Sat the poor lad down we told him what we knew and the next day he confronted her, low and behold it's all true e.t.c.
We've tried telling him he's nuts and needs to call it off but he seems intent on trying to patch things up (They have a young child together). I believe he's just burying his head in the sand and doesn't want to face facts.
To make things worse only two or three of his mates have been invited to the wedding because her family is so big there is no room for any of his side! So having spent upwards of £300 going on the stag do we're only invited to the night do. I haven't even received my invite in the post and I'm not the only one.
Oh, and it appears DF has deleted me off Facebook. To say the whole thing leaves a sour taste in my mouth would be an understatement.
I confided in the best man (one of my oldest friends) and to cut a long story short he told me it's not the first time! Apparently three or four months ago DF got drunk at the pub she works at and slept with one of the regulars. She had come clean on this occasion and they were trying to 'patch things up'.
So having Sat the poor lad down we told him what we knew and the next day he confronted her, low and behold it's all true e.t.c.
We've tried telling him he's nuts and needs to call it off but he seems intent on trying to patch things up (They have a young child together). I believe he's just burying his head in the sand and doesn't want to face facts.
To make things worse only two or three of his mates have been invited to the wedding because her family is so big there is no room for any of his side! So having spent upwards of £300 going on the stag do we're only invited to the night do. I haven't even received my invite in the post and I'm not the only one.
Oh, and it appears DF has deleted me off Facebook. To say the whole thing leaves a sour taste in my mouth would be an understatement.
Edited by Leptons on Monday 31st August 09:38
Some good Responses, couple of points;
1) Definately invited to the night do, he's told me the time and the date and keeps saying the paper invites are at home and they '"forgot" to send some out. Did get an Invite through Facebook would you believe. How classy.
2) Can't do the whole stand up thing as I won't be there
3) We have tried telling him but he's doing the whole not listening to things he doesn't want to hear routine.
1) Definately invited to the night do, he's told me the time and the date and keeps saying the paper invites are at home and they '"forgot" to send some out. Did get an Invite through Facebook would you believe. How classy.
2) Can't do the whole stand up thing as I won't be there
3) We have tried telling him but he's doing the whole not listening to things he doesn't want to hear routine.
andy-xr said:
So you're not actually invited to the wedding?
I find the thing about inviting more people later a bit weird to be honest, you're better off inviting them to the actual ceremony because it doesnt cost anything and you dont have to feed them.
Anyway, you're not his mate as much as he is yours, I'd probably ease off on the announcements and sticking of noses into stuff
It's at a hotel so I'm guessing it goes ceremony, photos, sit down meal, speaches, night do. We're invited to the night do. Anyway it's a mute point.I find the thing about inviting more people later a bit weird to be honest, you're better off inviting them to the actual ceremony because it doesnt cost anything and you dont have to feed them.
Anyway, you're not his mate as much as he is yours, I'd probably ease off on the announcements and sticking of noses into stuff
I don't really understand the rest of your post. No ones making any announcements.
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