Naming your first child and your input?
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Here's the thing...
My missus is Swedish and we split our time between the UK and Sweden equally. We still haven't quite decided where we are going to raise the children, but we have one on the way. Whilst my heart says Sweden, my head screams UK. And, as such, we now have a problem with her name choice. I don't mind it in Sweden, although it is a bit old fashioned, but she wants to call him Bengt, after both her grandfathers. I can just see hear the taunts on the playground now if we did decide to base ourselves permanently in the UK. But she is also pushing back on my choice of Oscar, so we have reached a bit of an impasse.
My group chat with my best friends has polarized opinion on the best way to proceed, the current best suggestion is put both these names in a hat, along with a "wildcard" third name, and have a non-partisan person pick from the hat. Whilst I think this is a good idea, the thought of having a son called Bengt in a UK school still troubles me.
First world problems, eh?!
My missus is Swedish and we split our time between the UK and Sweden equally. We still haven't quite decided where we are going to raise the children, but we have one on the way. Whilst my heart says Sweden, my head screams UK. And, as such, we now have a problem with her name choice. I don't mind it in Sweden, although it is a bit old fashioned, but she wants to call him Bengt, after both her grandfathers. I can just see hear the taunts on the playground now if we did decide to base ourselves permanently in the UK. But she is also pushing back on my choice of Oscar, so we have reached a bit of an impasse.
My group chat with my best friends has polarized opinion on the best way to proceed, the current best suggestion is put both these names in a hat, along with a "wildcard" third name, and have a non-partisan person pick from the hat. Whilst I think this is a good idea, the thought of having a son called Bengt in a UK school still troubles me.
First world problems, eh?!
Rosscow said:
dillenger said:
As me and the wife are quite spiritual people we went along with the Native American Indian way of naming our child.
Picking her name after the first thing we looked at out of the maternity wards window after she was born.
Some of our friends don’t like it, but our daughter …. Two dogs f
king…. Loves it
Picking her name after the first thing we looked at out of the maternity wards window after she was born.
Some of our friends don’t like it, but our daughter …. Two dogs f
king…. Loves it
dave_s13 said:
If that G is silent then he better be pretty thick skinned. If there was a lad in my high school called "Bent" and he showed signs of weakness life would have been hard, very hard.
I love a gay bloke as much as the next queer but I would not call my lad "bent".
Is there there Swedish word for the English derogatory meaning of the word bent? Suggest to your wife this is what it will likely be turned into at school.
Getting through school is hard enough.
My missus looks at it in a "sink or swim" kind of way and has questioned how he will get through life if he hasn't had a tough childhood I love a gay bloke as much as the next queer but I would not call my lad "bent".
Is there there Swedish word for the English derogatory meaning of the word bent? Suggest to your wife this is what it will likely be turned into at school.
Getting through school is hard enough.
I can sort of see what she means, but at the same time I wouldn't attach weights to his swim shorts to make sure he doesn't find swimming too easy, if you see what I mean?And the "G" isn't silent, but it's not pronounced that strongly, either. It's the Swedish version of Benedict, I think.
rsv696 said:
Mrs Rsv is Swedish too. We decided on English names that work in both countries. Ben could be a good compromise. You have to careful - you'll probably know this, but Pippa means "bonk" in Swedish for example! My mrs spotted an army fitness campaign a few years ago called "Get fitta" which translates as goat fanny 
Goat fanny is quite polite, given the fluidity of Swedish curse words 
I wouldn't compromise with Ben, I don't like the name, neither does she. She is leaning towards Anders or William as her back up options, but I really want Oscar. Perhaps I am being the unreasonable one here
Hugo a Gogo said:
on the other hand, if you're like me, the idea of having a pile of pink clothes and a pink nursery for a girl makes me sick
we never bought a single pink thing, some pink things were gifts of course, she's grown up a perfectly normal girl so far
And that's what makes the world go round we never bought a single pink thing, some pink things were gifts of course, she's grown up a perfectly normal girl so far
We have a few blue things bought, but that's more because blue is my favourite colour. We've also done the chavvy thing and spent a shed load of cash in JD Sports and Footlocker to make sure he is well dressed for any sporting event for the first 6 months of his life
And the reason I wanted to know the sex wasn't so much for the colours, but more for the animals I'd paint on the wall
An alligator and a gorilla would look weird in a girls nursery, as would a pony and a cockatoo in a boys...Gassing Station | The Lounge | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff