Anyone post 35 and childless

[Chris7865677]

Anyone on here post 35 with no kids? Anyone not want any? I am 46 and childless. Never been married and wouldn't have kids with just anyone. Although I did always want them. No friends in the same boat as me. Everyone has kids. So I have very little in common with people my own age. I do worry about the future though without anyone there when I am old and no chance of ever being a grandparent. How many on here are childless in my age bracket? Did you decide that u never wanted any or did it just not happen?

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creampuff said:

So you would be open to the idea of children with the right person?

Yes definitely. Just think it's unlikely to now. In an ideal world I would have had all my children by now.

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creampuff said:

Chris7865677 said:

Yes definitely. Just think it's unlikely to now. In an ideal world I would have had all my children by now.

No 30-something ladies who you think are ok?

No noone

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andy-xr said:

You the guy who's still hung up on the ex from 30 years ago arent you?

What gives?

Yes I am. Well remembered

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amancalledrob said:

I'm 39 next month. I always wanted to have at least one by age 35 with the idea that I'd be "only" about 53ish by the time said kid left school. Hasn't happened though. My OH is 12 years younger than me and has a career that's just starting to go well so of course while we both want kids I don't want that to have a negative effect on her achieving her career goals.

We've discussed it and we'll probably be giving it a go in 2018. I've coped with the change of plan mentally by just deciding to work to her timescale instead of mine - I look and feel younger than I am so that makes it a bit easier. Still jealous of those around me who have popped a couple out though!

Yes I can understand the jealousy. I think I am jealous of my friends and their families

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andy-xr said:

Chris7865677 said:

andy-xr said:

You the guy who's still hung up on the ex from 30 years ago arent you?

What gives?

Yes I am. Well remembered

I ask, as you've been posting on here a month and each thread you started is about an ex or being in love. Are you getting over it/her, or not? Because I think that'll answer your question on the kids thing.

To give you mine, I spent my 20s following jobs and money. They both went a bit to st and in hindsight I wasted my time on some of them when I could have been growing friendships and relationships. As a result I had casual relationships until I was probably 32, when I met a girl I was I think, probably in love with. That didnt last, though not for wanting on my side. I was thinking settle down, she was thinking go out and see the world and didnt want to be tied down.

I spent a couple of years after that in some kind of abusive relationship hoping that things would get better, but after a while realised it never would and this wasnt the person I'd spend the rest of my life with. After that I met my now wife. We've been married 3 years and expecting our first. I'm late 30s.

I wish in some ways that we'd met earlier in life, say when I was 23/24 but I was a bit of a dhead in my 20s and probably not that ready for what I've got now. Also, she'd have been in her early teens which isnt particularly cool. It's taken me til i was about 35 to find out who I am and what I actually wanted, because I was being blown around by the winds a lot and didnt realise.

I think there's some kind of stigma from being in your 40s and doing the school run with early/mid 20's Mums and Dads, but I dont think it's a particularly big issue. It's not one that I'm bothered about anyway. My sister had kids early on, and at the kids parties other parents come along to drop their kid off, and sit around on their phones. There's not many that talk to each other, because it's their kids who know each other. I'm somewhere in the middle, I'd probably be pleasant with other parents, but I'm not really looking for new friends there

Yes I would like to meet someone. I have had a lot of relationships but wouldn't consider kids unless it was absolutely love and not just anyone.

I have got lots of nieces and nephews. All my brothers and sisters have had kids young ish. By 35 they were all finished. My life is very different to theirs. I am somewhat work obsessed. But I now see there is more to life than work. A family is much more important.

This thread is certainly making me feel better and that I am not alone.

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K50 DEL said:

Turning 40 next year... would love kids but have never found anyone with whom I'd want to make that commitment.

Basically I'd rather not have children than have them with someone who (a few years later) decides the relationship is over and now I'm a part-time Dad (if I'm lucky)

Completely agree 100%.This is why I am 46 and childless. Although I never intended to have a life without children. Seems to be so hard to find decent partner nowadays.