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I've called on a break with my girlfriend due to the fact that I question our future together - it's not that I don't feel anything for her, because I do - a lot in fact. We argue every now and then, but what couples don't. The reason why I question my future with her is because she is inherently lazy - her immediate family are very lazy. I may sound like I feel that I'm too good for her, but it's not that, it's just the state she lives in irritates me, you can imagine.
Were both in our early 20's and I'm currently saving up the deposit to buy our own place, she says by then things will change, however by then it'll be too late by that point and make the break up more complicated - and how can I take her word on this when every bit of evidence points towards the opposite (she's lazy). For instance, I bought her a car, only a little run around, which now looks like a skip inside with food wrappers etc.
Has anyone ever found themselves in a situation like this and do they change?
I've called on a break with my girlfriend due to the fact that I question our future together - it's not that I don't feel anything for her, because I do - a lot in fact. We argue every now and then, but what couples don't. The reason why I question my future with her is because she is inherently lazy - her immediate family are very lazy. I may sound like I feel that I'm too good for her, but it's not that, it's just the state she lives in irritates me, you can imagine.
Were both in our early 20's and I'm currently saving up the deposit to buy our own place, she says by then things will change, however by then it'll be too late by that point and make the break up more complicated - and how can I take her word on this when every bit of evidence points towards the opposite (she's lazy). For instance, I bought her a car, only a little run around, which now looks like a skip inside with food wrappers etc.
Has anyone ever found themselves in a situation like this and do they change?
gmaz said:
My wife is messy and she's a hoarder. She has boxes and boxes of magazines from the early 1990's that we are not allowed to throw away because "they might come in useful". She decides on a new hobby every year or so and buys loads of stuff for it and then gradually gives up and just leaves everything. She gets it from her dad who is very disorganised, untidy and wasteful of money e.g. he will buy 3 of something because he knows he will lose 2 of them.
I'm more of a minimalist and prefer tidiness. When the house is untidy it actually causes me depression and I get withdrawn and moody, and probably most of our arguments
Despite this we have lasted 27 years had have 2 lovely kids but it can be a rough ride
Do you find her looking at the Create and Craft channel ?I'm more of a minimalist and prefer tidiness. When the house is untidy it actually causes me depression and I get withdrawn and moody, and probably most of our arguments
Despite this we have lasted 27 years had have 2 lovely kids but it can be a rough ride
There is some seriously deluded crap on there
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