Help 6yr old son stealing and lying

[Bunfighter]

Seems to be getting worse, started off with being cheeky. Now he's lying alot and has started 'finding' £1 coins and claiming they are his. This morning he took £3 from his mum's purse and claimed he hadn't.

Is this a slippery slope to criminality - he's obsessed with saving money and getting money at the moment. Help, what can we do?

At school he's a star pupil and is always horrified if I say 'I'll tell your teacher'.

Edited by Bunfighter on Monday 27th February 10:01

[Bunfighter]

Mansells Tash said:

The question is what HAVE you already tried? How do you know he took three pounds from the purse and didn't find them down the back of the sofa?

You've not really given us enough information to provide any useful commentary.

She realised this when she checked her purse for tram fair. That she knew was there from the night before.

[Bunfighter]

I know a few. I'll ask one to pop in.

[Bunfighter]

hyphen said:

What is he saving/wanting the money for?

Lego and nerf guns.

Good point on pocket money.

[Bunfighter]

The bullying angle is a good one. He's very popular. When we've been out on a few occasions a few junior/upper level kids have said hi to him and he ignores them with 'yes those are older children in my school'. He's got £110 saved in a jar in his bedroom (confiscated currently) so I don't think he's giving money at school to others. He grasped recently that Santa is us and the tooth fairy doesn't exist. He's bright but a lively one. I'll speak to his teacher off the record and ask if she can do a money/boundaries talk in class. In addition we'll mark the money and I'll talk to him again. He's always asking for change (not brown coins please) and it's worrying as he comes across as almost mercenary when money is involved. I'll start pocket money and explain its conditional.

Why the obsession with money though?!

[Bunfighter]

You should run to the police not away from..

School told me- last week he bought a red nose...today he's bought another.

[Bunfighter]

AshBurrows said:

Rawwr said:

Have you tried throwing his TV out of the window?

Hahahaha.

What's the joke, a film reference?

[Bunfighter]

DonkeyApple said:

mike80 said:

Robbo 27 said:

He is only six, isnt that a bit young to know the difference between right and wrong?

Pretty sure I knew the general difference between right and wrong when I was six.

Doesn't mean I always acted on them though!

They definitely know long before then. You can see it in the shifty little eyes as they creatively spin their excuse.

He knows otherwise why lie?

[Bunfighter]

It's got £110 through gifts from in-laws, uncles, aunt's. Etc.

He's not a slender. Let's hope we tweak one habit but avoid him become a habitual living on credit adult.

Still don't have a clue about the TV/window. I'm guessing this is a pH topic where one PH'er is now being continually reminded by select others.

[Bunfighter]

I'll have a think on that. Maybe you might have a point.

[Bunfighter]

ApOrbital said:

Send him a strongly worded email.

Or I could use Twitter to punish him. That might be too far though.